Most men are good in articulating that they think, but when it comes in articulating what they feel, they just totally send a different meaning.
Decoding a man’s language and knowing what he really wants and can save you a lot of conflicts and confusions.
So I got some of my best guy buddies to teach me decode their language and let me in on what they truly mean.
Here are some common phrases of what he says and what he really means.
Dating Stage
What he's saying: “We should hang-out sometimes.” What he means: “I think you’re hot and I want to ask you out, but I’m afraid you’ll say no.”
What he's saying: “You’re really a good person.” What he means: “I’m sorry, babe but you’re not going to see me again.”
What he's saying: “Let’s be friends.” What he means: “You are not really my type, but I really think your friend is hot, can you hook me up?”
What he's saying: “I’ll call you.” What he means: “I may or may not call you at some point between two days and two months from now.”
What he's saying: “My ex is just way crazy.” What he means: “I really messed her up bad, and she is really upset.”
What he's saying: “We should date exclusively.” What he means: “I’m afraid that if I don’t say that, you’ll date someone else.”
What he's saying: “That guy seems to be a good friend of yours.” What he means: “What there a thing between you and him?”
Something Sex- Related
What he's saying: “Isn’t this our third date?” or “Is it just me or is it hot/ cold outside” or “What time do you usually wake up in the morning?” or “Do you really believe what they say about oysters?” Real message: “I WANT SEX!”
What he's saying: (In the middle of a sexual act) “I love you” Real message: “I love that thing you do with your tongue/finger/body right now.”
What he's saying: (after the sex) “I’d really love to see you the place where I group up in.” Real message: “Are you comparing me to your ex?”
Relationship Issues:
What he says: “I really like you.” Real message: “I love you.”
What he says: “I think we need to slow down.” Real message: “You need to slow down, girl.”
It’s no secret that bad habits can hurt one’s marriage. But U.S. Government National Institute of Child Health and Development made a study of more than 160 relationships in Louisville University to back it up. Their study revealed that if you have nasty habits, your partner can never get used to it. The more times you repeat it, the more irritated your partner becomes.
Most husbands and wives view bad habits as lack of respect and this can result to lack of romance or “Deromanticisation.” And “deromanticisation” can trigger a spouse to cheat. This links bad habits to bad divorce.
Often times we get to wonder why it’s so difficult to maintain a peaceful loving relationship. Why it’s hard to keep the fun and frolicking last for even a week. Why it’s impossible to have a month long of harmony in the relationship.
There are times when we get tired of feeling empty in an empty relationship.
This is what happens when we fall into hidden traps. It’s hidden, because we are unaware of the trap. It settles in our subconscious and manifests in our actions.
Here are the hidden relationship traps that you need to be aware of to help save your relationship.
Your greatest fear now realized- you can feel your airways tightening, your stomach aching and your head spinning. The love of your life, the only man that you can only see yourself with, has a new girlfriend. All hopes of happy ending now flushed down the drain.
And when things seemed down and out, this is where I come in and tell you to, “Stop crying, you can stop your relationship from falling apart… even if it seems too late.”
Yes, you can get him back, even if he has a new relationship.
Here is my fail- safe formula on how to get him back.
First of all, remember that you know him better than anybody else.
For a single lady who is in a relationship for a long time, things can be totally frustrating. You want to tell your partner on his face to get down on his knees and marry you, but of course you can’t do that to a man.
Here’s how to get your man to commit:
To cure his commitment phobia, you need to make him feel that he can tell you anything without the risk of getting criticized and laughed at. Men need to feel that they are accepted no matter what. Men seek comfort, and when he sees that he can be comfortable with you in all aspect, he’s yours forever.
You can cure his commitment phobia if he sees that you love him for “him” not his money, not his car, not his house, not his degree.
The mistress, you can’t hate her enough. If you can skin and burn her alive, you know you would. You can’t help but be overwhelmed with anger.
But stop, pause and ask yourself- is all that hatred and anger worth it? “When a wife gets into all kinds of trouble to get even, she is only acknowledging the mistress’ role. The mistress feels recognized, accepted. It’s kind of twisted when you think about it, but a mistress feels fulfilled in some way when a wife confronts her. The moment you face her, she feels triumphant…” says a Sandra, a former mistress.
It was a very tragic incident- last July 4, 2009, a former NFL quarterback was found dead with several gun shot wounds, including one in head, on his sofa inside his condominium. Beside his body was another fatality, a body of a woman with one gunshot wound in her head and a pistol near her. It was a classic case of murder-suicide, policemen suspected. The slain Tennessee Titan's quarterback, Steve McNair, will never again see his wife and watch his four boys grow- up. The woman found near his body was Sahel Kazemi, a 20 year- old waitress and McNair’s mistress.
It has been said that women are less likely to cheat but when they do, the affair can be really serious and intense. That’s because when a woman cheats on her husband, she is likely to have an emotional affair rather than a fleeting one night stand. And because of this emotional intimacy based extramarital relationship, the cheating wife is more likely to consider leaving her husband.
One woman shares her story about almost leaving her husband of ten years for another man. Learn how she saved her marriage and how she fell in love with her husband again.
Sometimes it feels so good to be bad and say, “I know I might regret it, but what the hell!” Sometimes crossing the line can make you feel justified… especially if you have been wronged by the person really close to you.
And nothing can push you to be a bad ass than being a victim of infidelity. I remember my next door neighbor burned all her husband’s clothes and run over the mistress’s puppy. She spent a night in jail, but she said, “it was worth it!” Yes, nothing can twist your healthy little mind and dissolve your conscience than being betrayed and cheated.
Financial infidelity, you may not know about it, but you may guilty of it. Financial infidelity is every bit as damaging to the relationship as the physical one. As one husband says, “It’s one thing to fool around. It’s another thing to fool around with my hard-earned cash.”
When money collides with marriage, all forms of lies occur- white lies, small lies, big lies. And once you are guilty of lying about money matters to your partner, you are guilty of financial infidelity. Financial infidelity is when you cease to be transparent about your finances to your partner. It is when you conceal your financial status to your spouse.
For instance, a small lie is when you bought something and told your spouse that you got it on sale when you didn’t.
Most men are good in articulating that they think, but when it comes in articulating what they feel, they just totally send a different meaning.
