If you are involved with a married man and believe it’s going somewhere, well think again. Married men are wily, wicked creatures. They will tell you everything and anything under the sun to make you believe that you have a future with them. When in fact, only 3% of philandering married men will leave their wives for their mistresses... this means that you have a 3% chance of“happy ending,” that’s a very slim chance.
Now, he may like you a lot or even love you, but not enough to leave his wife and kids. However, if ever you do end up together, there is an equally slimmer chance that he will be faithful with you, as the saying goes, “if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.”
In spite of all these seemed impossible chances of having a future with married men, why are there still so many gullible women who still believe them? I guess one of the possible reasons is that they are unaware of the lies married men tell.
Our character is a composite of our habits. They are consistent, often unconscious patterns; they regularly express our character, and our character defines our success and happiness in life. That is why as an individual it is essential to acquire and practice habits that can help make the best out of ourselves, having the said that, the same goes when it comes to our relationships. Obtaining certain habits as a couple can make the best out of our romantic relationship.
Here are some of the habits that can turn ordinary couples into happy couples.
Be appreciative. One of the reasons why men and women cheat is because they feel unappreciated.
Have you ever wondered why some women are just blissfully happy in their relationship? They are always laughing, frolicking and being romantic with their loved ones in spite of the years of being together? You see these women with their lovers opening the doors for them. When they cross the street, you see their men making sure that they on the safe side. Moreover, after office you see their boyfriends or husbands waiting for them ten minutes earlier. As a spectator, you can’t help but notice the pampering and evident love their men show them every single day without tiring.
Inactively waiting for that hot guy to ask you out can be a total bummer, especially if you’re one independent chick, who always goes for what she wants. Sure, it can be quite intimidating to approach a guy, but it gives you a sense of control of your dating life, and beside- men like it. “A desperate woman is a woman crouched on our fire escape and licking our bedroom window, not a woman trying to make plans (or wearing a short skirt.),” says John DeVore, author of "Man Of Mind: Just Ask Him Out On A Date" of Frisky.com.
Most of us would like to believe that when a love affair ends, it was because of the other party. Well, this isn’t usually the case. Taking an insight on what you have contributed to the downfall of your love affair is the first step in saving your relationship. Keep in mind that blaming others will only aggravate the problem, but taking self- accountability is the first step on how to save your a relationship.
Here are some signs that you are ruining your relationship.
1. Being loud and aggressive when making a point.
Keep in mind that the louder you get in making a point, the more your partner can’t hear you.
As much as we hate to admit it, relationships can reach a stale point and our men don’t act the way they used to. Who can blame them? With all the pressures and obligations that they need to cope up with everyday, they can get worn out and exhausted. And this is where we, women take a step forward and make an effort to rekindle the lost romance and affection.
This is how to get your man to love you more.
1. Stop criticizing. When your man comes home from work, he is already overwhelmed with criticisms.
Most men are good in articulating that they think, but when it comes to articulating what they feel, they just totally send a different meaning.
Decoding a man’s language and knowing what he really wants and can save you a lot of conflicts and confusions.
So I got some of my best guy buddies to teach me decode their language and let me in on what they truly mean.
Here are some common phrases of what he says and what he really means.
Dating Stage
What he's saying: “We should hang-out sometimes.” What he means: “I think you’re hot and I want to ask you out, but I’m afraid you’ll say no.”
What he's saying: “You’re really a good person.” What he means: “I’m sorry, babe but you’re not going to see me again.”
What he's saying: “Let’s be friends.” What he means: “You are not really my type, but I really think your friend is hot, can you hook me up?”
What he's saying: “I’ll call you.” What he means: “I may or may not call you at some point between two days and two months from now.”
What he's saying: “My ex is just way crazy.” What he means: “I really messed her up bad, and she is really upset.”
What he's saying: “We should date exclusively.” What he means: “I’m afraid that if I don’t say that, you’ll date someone else.”
What he's saying: “That guy seems to be a good friend of yours.” What he means: “Was there a thing between you and him?”
Something Sex- Related
What he's saying: “Isn’t this our third date?” or “Is it just me or is it hot/ cold outside” or “What time do you usually wake up in the morning?” or “Do you really believe what they say about oysters?” Real message: “I WANT SEX!”
What he's saying: (In the middle of a sexual act) “I love you” Real message: “I love that thing you do with your tongue/finger/body right now.”
What he's saying: (after the sex) “I’d really love to show you the place where I grew- up in.” Real message: “Are you comparing me to your ex?”
Relationship Issues:
What he says: “I really like you.” Real message: “I love you.”
What he says: “I think we need to slow down.” Real message: “You need to slow down, girl.”
It’s no secret that bad habits can hurt one’s marriage. But U.S. Government National Institute of Child Health and Development made a study of more than 160 relationships in Louisville University to back it up. Their study revealed that if you have nasty habits, your partner can never get used to it. The more times you repeat it, the more irritated your partner becomes.
Most husbands and wives view bad habits as lack of respect and this can result to lack of romance or “Deromanticisation.” And “deromanticisation” can trigger a spouse to cheat. This links bad habits to bad divorce.
Often times we get to wonder why it’s so difficult to maintain a peaceful loving relationship. Why it’s hard to keep the fun and frolicking last for even a week. Why it’s impossible to have a month long of harmony in the relationship.
There are times when we get tired of feeling empty in an empty relationship.
This is what happens when we fall into hidden traps. It’s hidden, because we are unaware of the trap. It settles in our subconscious and manifests in our actions.
Here are the hidden relationship traps that you need to be aware of to help save your relationship.
Your greatest fear now realized- you can feel your airways tightening, your stomach aching and your head spinning. The love of your life, the only man that you can only see yourself with, has a new girlfriend. All hopes of happy ending now flushed down the drain.
And when things seemed down and out, this is where I come in and tell you to, “Stop crying, you can stop your relationship from falling apart… even if it seems too late.”
Yes, you can get him back, even if he has a new relationship.
Here is my fail- safe formula on how to get him back.
First of all, remember that you know him better than anybody else.
If you are involved with a married man and believe it’s going somewhere, well think again. Married men are wily, wicked creatures. They will tell you everything and anything under the sun to make you believe that you have a future with them. When in fact, only 3% of philandering married men will leave their wives for their mistresses... this means that you have a 3% chance of“happy ending,” that’s a very slim chance. 
