Your greatest fear now realized- you can feel your airways tightening, your stomach aching and your head spinning. The love of your life, the only man that you can only see yourself with, has a new girlfriend. All hopes of happy ending now flushed down the drain.
And when things seemed down and out, this is where I come in and tell you to, “Stop crying, you can stop your relationship from falling apart… even if it seems too late.”
Yes, you can get him back, even if he has a new relationship.
Here is my fail- safe formula on how to get him back.
First of all, remember that you know him better than anybody else.
The mistress, you can’t hate her enough. If you can skin and burn her alive, you know you would. You can’t help but be overwhelmed with anger.
But stop, pause and ask yourself- is all that hatred and anger worth it? “When a wife gets into all kinds of trouble to get even, she is only acknowledging the mistress’ role. The mistress feels recognized, accepted. It’s kind of twisted when you think about it, but a mistress feels fulfilled in some way when a wife confronts her. The moment you face her, she feels triumphant…” says a Sandra, a former mistress.
It was a very tragic incident- last July 4, 2009, a former NFL quarterback was found dead with several gun shot wounds, including one in head, on his sofa inside his condominium. Beside his body was another fatality, a body of a woman with one gunshot wound in her head and a pistol near her. It was a classic case of murder-suicide, policemen suspected. The slain Tennessee Titan's quarterback, Steve McNair, will never again see his wife and watch his four boys grow- up. The woman found near his body was Sahel Kazemi, a 20 year- old waitress and McNair’s mistress.
It has been said that women are less likely to cheat but when they do, the affair can be really serious and intense. That’s because when a woman cheats on her husband, she is likely to have an emotional affair rather than a fleeting one night stand. And because of this emotional intimacy based extramarital relationship, the cheating wife is more likely to consider leaving her husband.
One woman shares her story about almost leaving her husband of ten years for another man. Learn how she saved her marriage and how she fell in love with her husband again.
Sometimes it feels so good to be bad and say, “I know I might regret it, but what the hell!” Sometimes crossing the line can make you feel justified… especially if you have been wronged by the person really close to you.
And nothing can push you to be a bad ass than being a victim of infidelity. I remember my next door neighbor burned all her husband’s clothes and run over the mistress’s puppy. She spent a night in jail, but she said, “it was worth it!” Yes, nothing can twist your healthy little mind and dissolve your conscience than being betrayed and cheated.
Financial infidelity, you may not know about it, but you may guilty of it. Financial infidelity is every bit as damaging to the relationship as the physical one. As one husband says, “It’s one thing to fool around. It’s another thing to fool around with my hard-earned cash.”
When money collides with marriage, all forms of lies occur- white lies, small lies, big lies. And once you are guilty of lying about money matters to your partner, you are guilty of financial infidelity. Financial infidelity is when you cease to be transparent about your finances to your partner. It is when you conceal your financial status to your spouse.
For instance, a small lie is when you bought something and told your spouse that you got it on sale when you didn’t.
Sometimes life can be pretty funny- it throws you a curveball, hands you a lemon, or knocks you for a loop, but being aware how to approach failure can be the first step to success. In life and in relationships, it is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you lived so guardedly that you might as well not have lived at all- in which case, you have failed by default.
You will never truly know yourself or the strength of your relationship, until both of you have been tested by adversity. And nothing can test the marriage more than infidelity.
Extramarital affairs, it seems as if everybody’s doing it- Presidents, Senators, Governors, golfers, bosses, friends, cousins, family members… you thought, why not try the fun and excitement yourself. If they can do it, why can’t you, right? Well, if those people can give you a piece of advice, they will tell you right on your face to, “KEEP YOUR BALLS TO YOURSELF!”
Yes, extramarital affair can give you the thrill and “sexcitement” you have long been missing for. But believe me, from your pleasure; a hundred folds of pain will come back to slap you on the face.
According to studies, sixty percent of men and forty percent of women will have an affair at some point in their relationship. This statistic shows that people who stay loyal and faithful to their partner is a part of a growing minority.
Before I met my wonderful partner, Andy, I had my fair share of heartaches. I had learned what it was like to walk in the moccasin of being a cheated girlfriend. The experience really crushed me to bits that I vowed to never walk that path again.
When a relationship becomes a regular emotional and mental battle ground, it is most likely that either you or your partner will take refuge outside of your relationship. That is why it’s no surprise that one of the major causes of infidelity is the frequent fighting and arguing in the relationship.
But to be realistic about all this, there is no perfect relationship. Arguments and friction do exist in every union, but when chaos takes a whole part of your togetherness, then that’s when you need to be caution and take action to stop fighting if you want to prevent cheating.
Your greatest fear now realized- you can feel your airways tightening, your stomach aching and your head spinning. The love of your life, the only man that you can only see yourself with, has a new girlfriend. All hopes of happy ending now flushed down the drain. 
