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Tags: relationships, affairs, to catch a cheating partner
 Infidelity is a betrayal of trust. To catch a cheating partner is degrading, painful and a life- altering experience - for both the perpetrator and the victim. Although no one knows what the future brings us, but relationship wise, if you have enough knowledge and awareness of what you are getting into, you might be able to lessen the risk or totally prevent infidelity from ever occurring in your relationship in the future.
So, before putting your heart on line, here are some of the questions you need to ask and ponder upon. Hopefully, these questions will help prevent unnecessary complications in your relationship without becoming a total neurotic.
- How long have you known the person? Sometimes this happens- you met someone, sparks fly, then you feel that you know this person your whole life, you feel that he understands you, and you can easily relate with each other, you feel that you can totally trust this person with everything even if you just met him 48 hours ago.
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When you are in this state- stop, and go back to reality and realize that this kind of whirlwind romance is a prelude to a disastrous disappointment. When you become too emotional and off your feet in the beginning of your relationship, you may fail to see the capacity of the person you are dealing with.
- How well do you know the person? Keep in mind that the man you met through a friend is more trustworthy than the stranger you met in a club after five shots of tequila.
- How well do you know the person’s dating history? Some people debate on this.
They believe that a person’s dating past should be that- the past and therefore should be left alone and see what the man is now, in his present self. Although, there is some sense of truth to this, but knowing the person’s dating history can give you re-precautions. It helps if you have awareness of what type of girls he was dating and how his last relationship ended.
- How much and what does he open- up during your conversations? Men love to talk about themselves, but if he limits himself talking about cars and other hobbies, and diverts the conversation when it comes to family and work schedule, then you have to be cautious. It’s okay if he is elusive in the first two weeks of the relationship, but when it has been two months and still you know nothing about his family or his landline, then take a little step back.
- How frequently does he communicate with you? Does your new guy surprises you with calls and tells you, you are welcome to call anytime or does he call in certain schedules and tells you to only call on certain times of the day. If he does the former, then you’re in good hands, but if he’s acting like the latter, then save yourself some trouble and forget about him.
- Is he vocal enough when it comes to his expectations, short and long- term plans? A man who doesn’t want to toy around with emotions and respects the thought of having a relationship, then he will be transparent about his intentions and expectations.
If you are one of those people holds back from committing because you believe that everybody is guilty of infidelity, maybe you should try get to know the person you are dealing with before you put yourself on the line.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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