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Tags: relationships, affairs, confronting the other woman
 I just want to go straight to the point with my answer with this one but if I’ll do that, I can finish this article in three sentences or less. Anyway, going back to the topic, what will you do if your husband’s mistress wants to confront you? My advice with this one is, don’t give her the pleasure of your presence.
A mistress will always have ulterior motives; whether she comes as innocent (he came to me, I can’t refuse him) or apologetic (I’m sorry, I feel bad) to lessen her guilt or as a friend (I am here to tell you what a jerk your husband is)… don’t buy it, she’s a wolf in a sheep’s clothing.
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If you entertain her requests, you are going along with her plans of manipulation. Let me tell you further why disregarding the mistress is the best thing that you should. It is a part of her cunning strategy, to either get even with your husband (if the affair is over), to illicit information from you, to prove a point that she holds the aces in the relationship or to get into your nerves.
And you don’t need that kind of stress, you are already livid from your husband’s indiscretion. The least you want is another stressor in your life. The wisest that you can do is to strengthen yourself and/ or get him back (if you want to). And you cannot focus on all of that if you play along with the mistress’ plan.
Keep in mind, you don’t need her and she cannot help you with your problems. If a mistress tries to contact you, she wants something from you that can help her, not you! Even if she comes as very remorseful about her affair with your husband, don’t believe her. She will only say one thing and do another.
But no matter how hard I discourage wives by telling them, “it’s not worth it”, “you don’t need to do that”, “you’re just going to hurt yourself more” “you’re going to lose your focus”. It just goes in to one ear and out the other. For a wife, confronting the other woman is like holding yourself from urinating.
You just got to go or else you’re going to burst. In confronting the other woman, here are some few tips. Psych yourself up that you are a calm and beautiful creature. You are above and beyond his mistress. This will help you calm down and not dwell in her cunning tactics.
Then you should be the one to set the date, time and place. Be sure to keep the conversation concise and civilized. Relay your message calmly, and then leave. Don’t give unnecessary details and if she’s telling you information that you know can hurt you, tell her that you don’t need to hear that.
Don’t go down to her filth. Importantly, never mock her or create a scene. Show her that you are better than her in all sense of the word.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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