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Tags: relationships, affairs, emotional cheating
 What is emotional cheating? It is when you develop a platonic intimate bond with a man other than your husband. It is when you share your innermost thoughts and feelings. You share your hopes, dreams, ambitions, and your personal problems regarding your relationship. Even though there is no sex involved between the two of you, there is attachment and deep connection.
You might label him as your “best friend” if not your “soulmate”. I know you will totally disagree when I tell you that you are cheating on your husband. Even if you invite this “best friend” of yours in your home for dinner to meet your husband, it doesn’t make any difference.
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Having an affair doesn’t only mean exchanging bodily fluids with someone. It also means being emotionally and mentally intimate with someone other than your better half. Usually it begins by being friendly to the opposite sex. There’s nothing wrong with being cordial but when you forget your limits, that new found friendship can thrive into an affair.
When you begin to consider this “friend” of yours in your daily itinerary then you are guilty of emotional cheating. When you have problems at work or at home, he is the first person you talk to. He is your shoulder to cry on and your confidant. When something exciting happened to your day, you can’t wait to tell your “guy friend” about it.
Other signs you are guilty with emotional cheating is when you constantly think of that person. The bonding can be so great that you sometimes compromise your plans with your spouse for your “friend”. Another signs of emotional cheating is when you are hiding your rendezvous with your "friend". You lie to your spouse about the coffee break and the lunch break that you spent with your “guy-friend”.
You feel happier, livelier and more at home when you are with your “friend”. You have to keep in mind that emotional cheating can have devastating effect in your marriage just like the usual sexual extramarital affair. It is even believed that the damage caused by emotional cheating can be more demoralizing because an affair based on emotions and mental connection can be dramatic and harder to end than an affair based on pure sex alone.
And without a doubt, this affair will not end in a platonic relationship. It can predictably transcend into a sexual and deeper affair. Especially women, who I believe are more prone to emotional cheating. They find it harder to stay away from their lover because of dependency. I always believe that it takes two to make or break a marriage.
You are prone to commit emotional cheating when you are being neglected by your spouse. If you feel you are neglected, tell your spouse about it. Don’t allow you marriage to dissolve into the abyss. Another reason is you don’t talk about your feelings anymore. You don’t share intimate moments together.
It is a human need to talk and to socialize. After a hard days work, instead of going out with someone, choose to be with your spouse. Have fun together. Laugh, dance and get crazy once in a while and enjoy each other's company. To prevent this damaging affair from happening, never forget to prioritize your marriage.
Yes it’s important to prioritize your children but if you love your children you have to nurture your relationship with your spouse. Take care and fulfill each other’s needs and accept your partner as he is.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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