My exboyfriend who is much younger than me (but he never new or asked how much) thinks I am a "ck teaser" We dated for a good 4 months just holding hands (live in the middle east he is m.e. man. I was crazy about him. But the one night we heated up a wouldnt let him go any far. Anyway from then on its been downhill. I think he has put me completely out of mind. I would feel sick to contact him and get rejected. He thinks I am just playing games. I feel worse than when I was a teenager!
Ruth answers.. You know what, the break- up was a good idea. You may feel worse now, but it could've been worst if you slept with him. Your guy was obviously after one thing- and that is to sleep with you! You don't deserve a guy like that! If he really cares for you, he will wait. You deserve a man who can love you and respect your decision...
Posted by: Casey on 2010-02-02
Are there ways to keep your emotions in check when dating a guy? I always seem to have a problem with this because men try to beat through the emotional barrier to get into your pants. If I know that they are doing this, why am I still so vulnerable? How do you just turn your emotions on and off on a whim?
Ruth answers.. Mastering your emotions is all about knowing your strengths and weaknesses or self- awareness. You can cultivate your self-awareness by spending quiet and quality time alone with yourself. Reflect on-- what is it that you really want in life? what are you looking for? what kind of person to be with? what makes you restless and vulnerable? What makes you angry and upset? This also means confronting your deep-seated issues from your childhood or past traumatic experiences and resolving them...once you know what makes you vulnerable, you can protect yourself from people who wants take advantage of you. Be in tune with your surroundings. Be aware of what kind of people, things, and situations can upset you. This may take a lot of time, but once you master this, you can turn your emotions on and off like a switch.
Posted by: A Gonzalez on 2010-01-27
I just wanted to comment on your article "Getting Through The First Year Death Anniversary Of A Loved One". It was a great article to read and it truly helped me as the death of my mother is soon approaching. Ironically, she passed on 1/29/09, which appears to be the date that this article was posted. I just wanted to let you know that this article really made me feel as if you understood the grief I have gone through. Thank you for that and for the advice you gave.
Ruth answers.. You're welcome. I am really sorry for your loss... I really understand and feel what you are going through, grief changes a person, but hang in there, things will get better... Take care and be strong. Don't lose faith.
