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Is It Over - Read The Signs Early On
Get help understanding why
men tend to stray. Sometimes,
the 1st reason you think of is
not the actual one.
Know the reasons here.
You can help yourself end the
emotional roller-coaster and
make way to a happier love
life that is full of contentment
and bliss.
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You've been together for a while
now and everything couldn't be
better.
And like what you promised one
another, it's like it can go on
forever like this.
Or can it?
I would hate to be the one to
burst your bubble but not
everything ends in a fairy
tale ending.
Not everything can end "happily
ever after."
Sooner or later, and I hope it
would be never, you will go
through struggles in your
relationship.
Through the ups and downs
you will try to save your
togetherness.
So you go to couples therapy,
and get mediation but it
doesn't seem to help.
In fact, you somehow feel
irritated every time you
see your partner and you
wish they will just disappear.
That being said, the thing is,
it's never really easy to let
go of someone you love.
No matter what you feel about
that person now, fact is you
still love them.
And that is something you
just can't put aside.
However, if things are starting
to "fall apart" lately, or if you
feel that your partner seems
to have lost "that lovin' feeling,"
maybe it's time to re-evaluate
the relationship.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm
all for trying to save your
relationship if that is at all
possible but if it's not healthy
for either partner to stay in
the relationship then it may
be time to move on and go
your separate ways.
Here's how to know when your
relationship is over or almost
about to be over.
I hope that you don't get to
this point but here it goes.
1. You tend to fight.
Whoa, slow down you might say.
Wasn't I the one who advocated
that fighting was normal and in
fact was a healthy release
for every couple in a
relationship.
Yes, I did say in the past that
fighting was part and parcel
of any healthy relationship
and it was a rare relationship
that did not go through such
fights.
I even advocated that it is
good to have a fight once in
a while to clear the air and
release the pressure that
has been building up
between you two.
However, while I say fighting
is healthy, frequent fighting
over nothing isn't.
Fighting over something major
is one thing, but fighting over
something as petty as the
color of the clothes each
one is wearing just doesn't
seem healthy to me
anymore.
Now it's just nitpicking and
childish squabbles.
When that's the case, it may
be time to take a closer look
into your relationship.
2. Changes in each other's
behavior
And by that I mean changes
in you or your partner's habits.
Maybe you don't call him
everyday anymore or maybe
he doesn't do that anymore -
when before both of you can't
wait to call the other first.
Other behavior such as not
getting interested in your
respective sexual affection
gives reason for pause.
What? Not interested in sex
when before, just seeing one
another you don't even wait
until you reach the bedroom.
If you or your partner is using
the "I have a headache" excuse
more often, even when you don't
have one (and you know what I
mean by that), then it's a sign
of troubled waters ahead.
3. Future? What future?
It comes down to whether you
and your partner are looking to
the future, especially if you
don't have children yet.
I'm not saying that you should
have children.
What I am saying is that if
you or your partner won't
even deign to talk about
whether you two should
have children or not, then
it can be a sign of things
not going too well in the
house Olympus.
Let's be honest, if you are
in a relationship like it or
not you need to talk about
your future plans - any future
plans, be it having children,
or taking a vacation or even
planning for retirement.
Lack of interest in doing
exactly that means not
being serious in your
relationship and it can
signal that you or your
partner isn't serious
anymore about the
relationship.
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Let me say this as a caveat:
just because you are
experiencing any of the
above signs in your relationship
doesn't necessarily mean
it's over.
After all, problems do occur
from time to time in any
healthy relationships.
What's important is the
communication link between
the two of you.
Talk it over with your partner.
Even if he or she does not
want to talk about it or even
work on the relationship try
to get them to sit down
and do it.
Get help if absolutely
necessary. Pride has its
place but this isn't one
of them.
Of course the best way is
to not let any of the above
situations happen - at all.
That maybe easier said than
done but many have shown
that it is possible and they
continue to show it everyday
they are together.
If they can do it, I'm sure you
can do it as well.
And if you need help in knowing
and understanding your man
so you can get nip these kind
of situations in the bud then
check out my guide: "You Can
Get Him Back."
Check out your copy here.
A relationship, any relationship
takes two to make it work.
Don't lose out to yourselves.
To a strong relationship,
Ruth Purple
P.S. You can get more relationship advice such as this in my blog at: http://www.relazine.com
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