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Overcoming Your Fear Of Dating
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I had a all-girl movie night the other day
and one of the films we watched was
"When Harry Met Sally."
One of the lines I remember the most was
Marie's who after she and Jess were done
consoling Harry and Sally turned to Jess
and said:
"Please tell me I will never have to be out
there again!"
One time we probably have or known people
who are like that - who havea fear of being
in the dating scene.
This is especially true of those who are
returning to the dating scene after a
long furlough.
Many do fear getting out there and dating
again.
The fear is a valid one - called Sarmassophobia
which is defined as fear of love play.
Often it is shown as:
* A general nervousness when attending
something with someone new
* Nervousness about the potential sexual
consequences
* Fear of rejection
It is this last one, the fear of rejection,
that is, some say the most dibilitating.
You can't function properly since it affects
your speech and movements.
It prevents you from showing off the best
parts of your character and personality.
You've probably seen or experienced it
- being so uptight that you can't talk
fluently with your words coming out all
wrong such that you don't come across
properly.
It's funny when we watch that kind of a
scene in a comedy romance movie but
not so in real life when you're the one that's
the center of attraction.
And you've probably used some of the
excuses below:
* I do not know how to date
* I have trouble meeting people.
* I am too old and not attractive anymore
* I have no time
You're not alone. Many have used similar
reasons to not date.
The thing is even if you say that deep
inside you know that you can't be happy
by yourself.
After all us human beings are social
creatures.
We long for and search out the companionship
of others - sometimes even if it kills us.
One thing you should know is the fact
that regardless of the person we all have
some level of fear of dating, of the fear
of being rejected.
It's a normal reaction to have and you
are not alone.
It's just that some people are better in
hiding it than others.
I bet if you ask people who are good in
dating they will say that they get so sick
from the nervousness that they would
throw-up before every date.
It's just that they are able to hide that
very well.
So what should you do?
Start by analyzing your actual fear.
Is it a fear of intimacy or the fear of the
opposite sex?
Knowing what your fear is can help diminish
that fear.
And once you've faced that go out on a
date. Try and find someone you feel
comfortable with.
In this regard I won't be able to help you
since feeling comfortable with a person
is subjective and is up to you.
What I'm trying to say is only you can
know and feel if you're comfortable with
that person or not.
And remember, the other person may
be feeling the same apprehension as
you if not more so.
And what's the worst that can happen -
you find that you're not compatible and
move on.
Yes, you move on because that is probably
the best thing that you can do.
Dating should be a fun and enjoyable
experience.
You have apprehensions but so do everyone
else - you just have to remove your fears.
Remember, there is no such thing as a
perfect date.
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Go forth and date,
Ruth Purple
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