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"WE" Couples Are Happier And Last Longer
A relationship is hard enough
to maintain without one going
astray.
Imagine if your partner does
go astray.
See how you can stop him here.
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You've probably seen them.
They wear his and her shirts,
finish each other's sentences
as if they only have one brain,
and can't seem to have a
sentence that doesn't have
the word "we" in it.
In other words, couples who
can get on the nerves of every
single person out there,
and other couples as well.
Laugh if you will but they may
know something that many of
us don't - the secret to resolving
conflicts better.
That's right.
Apparently couples who use
the "we" word are better in
resolving conflicts that arise
between them.
This according to a study
made by researchers Robert
Levensonat, Benjamin Seider,
Gilad Hirschberger and Kristin
Nelson at the University
of California - Berkeley*.
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*University of California - Berkeley (2010, February 5).
Couples who say 'we' do better at resolving conflicts.
ScienceDaily. Retrieved February 5, 2010, from http://www.sciencedaily.com /releases/2010/01/100128142143.htm
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The researchers found that
couples who used language
such as "we," "our" and "us"
had a more positive outlook
towards each other.
They were more affectionate
towards one another and
less negative behavior
such as anger.
At the same time they were
less stressed both emotionally
and physiologically.
However, couples who often
used the language of
"separateness" such as
'I,' 'me' and 'you' were often
less satisfied in their
marriages.
At the same time, they
also showed proof positive
that overcoming challenges
together over time gives
couples a greater sense
of togetherness and
shared identity.
That is not surprising.
By taking on a "we" mentality
you're showing your partner
that you are ready to tackle
any obstacle together.
And I've always believed that
this is the only way you can
resolve anything in any
relationship.
After all, in a relationship there
are two of you so shouldn't you
be handling everything
together.
That, I believe, is good way
for any couple in any relationship
to become stronger and to
form a bond that can deal with
anything that comes your way.
A life that is full of contentment
and bliss with a relationship
based on trust and honesty -
rock solid and affair proof.
See how it's possible here.
A love that is overflowing with
respect and openness and
a togetherness that is bursting
with intimacy and iron-clad
exclusivity.
To your relationship,
Ruth Purple
P.S. Visit my blog at: http://www.relazine.com
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