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Tags: relationships, commitment, breaking up with your partner
 “Things happened for a reason…” We often comfort ourselves when something unfortunate happens, especially if that unfortunate event involves something we decided on, and regret afterwards. Common example of this kind of scenario is breaking up with your partner, and later felt sorry for the hasty decision.
Now, lucky are some who were given a second chance to redeem themselves, but for those who were made to face the consequences of their actions, it’s one awful predicament that could wound them for life.
Living with, “what if’s” and “could’ve been” in the back of their minds is not a good way to live. That is why for you, when you decide to breakup with your partner, you have to give it a thorough thought, because you might be letting go of the one thing that matters in your life.
Here is something you need to reflect and contemplate on before letting go of a serious relationship.
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• Have you treated your partner in a way that you want to be treated? Sometimes we expect too much of our loved one to the point where we fail to recognize that we are putting too much pressure on them, making them distant and cold.
• Can you honestly say that you have given all you’ve got to save the relationship? Again, as I’ve mentioned, carrying the burden of, “what if’s” and “could’ve been” can be a load that could remain in you for life.
• Have you tried seeing your togetherness from your partner’s perspective? When there are too much pressures and obligations to deal with in everyday life, being selfish can come as an impulse. Selfishness can alienate our loved one, destroy the understanding in our union, thus making them distant and bitter.
• Were you open to your partner about your needs and requirements in the relationship? Not only women are guilty of this, but majority of men, too.
Most of the time, we expect them to predict what our needs and wants are. When these are not met, we have second thoughts about being in the relationship. This is usually one of the most common reasons why a union breaks down. We never update them the changes within us and expect them to “know” and figure out these changes. You have to consider that, just like us, our loved one also have so many things to deal with everyday, we are not the only one they have to deal with.
• Have you given the relationship the quality time it needs for nurturing. Have you given serious thought if you have given your loved one the alone time to deepen your bond? Bonding moment is essential and needs to be done regularly. This is the perfect way to develop trust, respect, and friendship in your relationship.
• Were you appreciative of your partner? Appreciation and gratitude in the relationship is essential. If you failed to appreciate the things your partner did for you, this may be the reason why your he or she stopped caring.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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