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Tags: relationships, commitment, commitment fears in relationships
 It’s the New Year and you want this to be year when you and your lover will seal the deal and exchange vows. Countless of times you attempted to let the topic slide into your conversations but he seemed avoidant. He doesn’t exactly say no but he doesn’t say yes either.
You know he loves you and adores you but when talking about marriage comes in the picture he doesn’t comment or slyly changes the topic. And as far as you’re concern you have done everything to make him feel loved. Then you realized it’s not you but he has commitment fears in relationships.
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You know in your heart that marriage is good for you and him. You just have to let him see that. There is no any other way but to help him get over his commitment fears in relationships. Here are some creative tips on how to help him conquer his commitment fears in relationships.
The number one cardinal rule is never pressure him. Telling him you want to get married this year will definitely scare him to death. Showing him how impatient you are will just backfire and risk the possibility of cooling everything off with you. You have to keep in mind that one thing men don’t want is when women becomes imposing.
There are reasons why men have commitment fears in relationships. One of that reasons is they want to make sure they are marrying the right person. They dread the thought of the consequences of a failed relationship. If you show him how commanding and dominating you are, he might think you’re not the right woman for him.
Another advice in helping your man to overcome his commitment fears in relationships is to show him unconditional love. Make it crystal clear that you want to be with him because of love, not because of your own unresolved issues to commit. Show him you love him for the man that he was, the man that he is and the man that he is going to be.
You want to commit to him because you care and adore him. No more, no more less. Lastly, the way to help your man defeat his commitment fears in relationships is to be yourself. Show him you are an independent person and you can take care of yourself. Let him see that you are capable of living a happy and meaningful life, with or without him.
I don’t mean that you are going to manipulate in making him jealous, men can see through that and it’s an ultimate no-no. What I mean is, let him see that you are a complete person and being clingy and needy will not be an issue in your marriage. I believe nothing is more appealing and engaging than a wife material that is natural, independent, sincere and loving.
There are certain things that are out of your control but let not this stop you. Do everything in your power in every situation. If you love him then show him never let his fears get in the way but if conquering his commitment fears in relationships seemed impossible, then let him deal with it.
The more you push yourself the more he is going to repel. If you love him, trust him and have faith in him that he will rise above his issues and see the beautiful things you can offer.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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