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Tags: relationships, commitment, how to get a man to commit
 It was a rainy Thursday afternoon, when Anna, my childhood friend came into my office. Despite her smile and warm greetings, I can see sadness in her eyes. Then without much hesitation, she told me what’s bothering her. “It’s James, Ruth. Sometimes I am so desperate that I would get into I’m-pregnant-lets-get-married drama.
I’m not getting any younger and everybody is expecting that this year is going to be the year that we are going to finally seal the deal.” She said sounding really disappointed. Anna and James has been a couple for four years and Anna wants to take their relationship in another level but doesn’t know how.
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“Sometimes I get to thinking that I am not good enough for him or is he really serious with our relationship. What does he want me to do? Propose to him?” Women in a long term love affair often have this dilemma on how to get a man to commit without looking desperate and distressed.
One relationship advice for women on how to get a man to commit is to show unconditional love and affection. Show him that you are aware of his faults and frailties but you still find him adorable and endearing. Show him that he is being supported all the way. Pamper him and give him importance without smothering him.
Make him feel the good life when he is with you. Another relationship advice on how to get your man to propose is to get together with other newly wed couples as much as you can. Being with the newly weds can make him see the other side of marriage in a positive perspective.
To make your man see that being married is not all that bad as he perceives it to be. Just make sure that it is with a newly wed couple that you are going out with, emphasis on newly weds, not old couple who has seen the bitterness and coldness of married life.
You don’t need to frighten him more with the harsh realities of being married. Another relationship advice with this kind of concern is to talk to him about it without imposing and scrutinizing him. Do it in a very casual and very light tone. If you can ask him indirectly like- What is it that he really dreams of in life, his plans in the future and what is holding him from doing it? Usually in long term love affairs the thing that is holding the man back from taking the big leap is finances, so be sure to let him know in a subtle way that money is not an issue for you.
Also, let him know in a discreet way that you are not going to put a limit in his time and freedom when is under the wedding vows. This is also one factor that gives him a weak knee into saying his “I do’s”. Last but the most important relationship advice on how to get a man to commit is not to pressure him.
The more you pressure him about marrying you, the more he is going to repel the idea. And besides, if given the fact that he is not ready and having second thoughts about you, what’s the point of marrying him? Believe me, the last thing you want in life is to marry someone that is not cut out for it.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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