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Tags: relationships, commitment, learning to love yourself more
 No, I don’t mean that you are going to be indulgent and self obsessed. Loving yourself is far from being narcissistic and selfish. Loving yourself is much deeper than that. It is about self awareness and self realization. It is about knowing the threshold of your emotional and mental capacity.
It’s all about being aware of how you want to be treated and cared for. The problem with people today, young people especially, is they have this notion that they expect their loved one to give the love and happiness they long and crave for. Deciding to commit and expecting your partner to fulfill your emotional shortcomings and requiring him or her to give you your happiness is utterly selfish and self centered.
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Remember that happiness is an inside job. If you have been expecting other people to fulfill your obligations to yourself then most likely most of your relationships never lasts and end up in heartbreak. People who are emotionally dependent also have the tendency to stray or philander or can sometimes trigger their partner to cheat.
An emotionally dependent person has the tendency to be controlling and manipulating that’s why being with an emotionally dependent partner can be draining and exhausting and this can sometimes trigger you to cheat or just leave your partner. It is a must that loving yourself should be done first before living or committing with someone.
Here are some ways of loving yourself. Everybody needs some time alone- you owe this to the most important person in your life, yourself. Offer this moment for yourself alone- to think, to appreciate, to indulge, to recharge, to relax or just anything that makes you feel good. Taking some moment of pampering and reflecting can help you assess what is it that you really want and need in life.
It’s important that you learn how to take it easy. Another way of learning to love yourself more is to learn to accept you weaknesses and limitations, your flaws and your frailties. This is very essential if you want to have growth and progress within you. Being aware of your weaknesses and limitations can give you the advantage in protecting yourself against circumstances that may hurt you or destroy you.
Knowing your limitations and weaknesses can help you decipher on how deep you want to be involved in your relationship. This can also make you aware of where you should develop yourself to become a better person. Another way of learning to love yourself more is to know your strengths and assets.
This is as vital as knowing your weaknesses and limitations. If you know your strong points you get to make sense of where to put your place always. This is also a fundamental factor in building your confidence and self esteem. I believe that a substantial amount of self esteem is needed before deciding to have a relationship.
The reason that most relationship does not last is because one or both partner depends their persona to their partner or with each other. Couples should know how to draw the line of sharing and giving their being to the other person and losing their nature to the other person.
Keeping and letting your individuality grow is significant if you want a lasting and meaningful relationship so don’t ever lose it. The point of loving yourself is to give your being respect and value. That’s why before anything else learn the importance of self love, value and respect because if you don’t nobody else will.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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