Tags: relationships, communication, the mind of man
The mind of man is different. Maybe he cares, or maybe he doesn’t. Chances are he does but you just don’t see it. The worst that could happen is, if you don’t see that he does care, eventually he will just stop caring at all.
You complain about why you don’t see eye to eye on thing with him, when you’ve got a problem and you only want him to listen and offer you his shoulders to cry on instead he gives you advice on how to solve your dilemma would be difficulty for you in understanding men and their ways.
So, how do they repair the problem? The following are the methods of understanding men and their ways. First – men are from mars, women are from venus. If both sexes know how they think move and feel, they’ll understand why men and women don’t see eye to eye.
Their sense of self is defined through their ability to see results. When problems arise, as much as possible they fix it on their own unless they really need expert advice. Asking for help when they can solve the problem themselves is a sign of weakness.
If and when they truly need help, they’ll find someone they respect to confide in and ask help from. Achieving goals is very important to them. The key to understanding men and their ways is that they offer solutions while women, complain about problems of her day when they’re upset.
When women share their problems, they might be doing it just to blow off steam or to empathize with them. But understanding men, they see it as a direct advice and so, they give it. Maybe now you can see the mind of man and how they care about your problems and wanted you to feel better.
Bottom line is, in understanding men and their ways, they want to feel wanted and useful. And they feel valued and loved when they can solve your problems and make you happy. Second – It becomes increasingly difficult for them to listen when the solutions he offers are rejected.
He feels useless and incompetent. So, he’d rather keep to himself. Understanding men still, they will usually try to forget problems for a while, in order to find relief from the stress. They then slowly try to think of a solution to the most difficult or urgent problems at hand.
They just want to be alone, in order to focus without worrying about other things. Usually, they’ll do typical things women hate to see, like drink with friends or ending up as couch potato. That’s how they cope with stress. When they start to feel better, they emerge from their dwelling, come back and are willing to be there for you this is the method in understanding men and their ways.
Lastly – Understand that when they seem distant, unresponsive or preoccupied, you shouldn’t expect them to share everything they feel. Don’t feel hurt if they seem to ignore you. Keeping to themselves is what they’re used too. This is where our coping mechanism differ from them when it comes to dealing with problems.
Women release stress by talking about it and expect complete attention and care while they withdraw and detach for a moment. They do listen even though they keep to themselves. So, next time you need a shoulder to cry on from your man, and you don’t get it, try this process of understanding men and their ways before getting disappointed and angry.
He’s probably coping with his own stress or who knows, maybe your problem. When you do decide to talk, be sure that both of you are calm and have an open mind to listen to each other.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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