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Tags: relationships, communication, establishing rapport
 If you are one of those people who get lost in a party or crowd, or the who can never seem to get anybody to listen to you, or even notice you, then you have a problem with establishing rapport with people around you. If establishing rapport is a challenge for you then you must have a hard time starting a conversation and end up being a wall flower in every situation.
If you are looking for love, it can be a very helpful too. It can make people relate to you, make them listen and comfortable. In establishing rapport you create an aura that you jive and just hit it off together. The essence of establishing rapport is about creating an understanding and trusting connection with the other person.
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Establishing rapport is not just important in searching for a relationship but having it can also help you in your business, network or social life. Establishing rapport is all about making the other person feel that he can depend on you and can open up with you. In a romantic relationship sustaining it is very essential.
It’s an unspoken form of communication. Having it in your relationship means having stability and belongingness, it’s the one that makes you feel at home. One great technique to achieve it is through mirroring. This means that you become more like him through body language, behavior, actuations, voice and choice of words.
This will help you relate more and see the world in his own perspective. Making it easier for you to relate, communicate and sympathize. Things which are very essential to a relationship. In lay mans term, try putting yourself in the other man’s shoes. To fully understand his state, walk his walk and talk his talk.
Another way of establishing rapport in is backtracking or restating the gist of what the person is talking about. Restating the core essence of what the person is saying to you conveys a message that you are honestly and sincerely paying attention. It also conveys that you are one hundred percent interested in what the other person is talking about.
The great thing about backtracking or restating is it can open up more ideas because there are possibilities for clarifications and further explanations. In establishing rapport and keeping it, maintain eye contact and smile. Never inject sarcastic or degrading jokes, you might offend someone and totally lose your connection. You can however, tell embarrassing jokes about yourself, this can create an image of humanness and imperfection and reality, which is good because it lessen tensions and make people relate.
Tone down in telling people about your flaws, you might turn some of them off. The fundamental nature of establishing rapport is about listening. Listening, paying attention to the reactions and feed backs. If you can sense that the person in front of you is uncomfortable with your remark or question, find a way to change the topic or make up for the your candid remark you said.
Having a connection is about being sensitive and insightful of the other person. It’s all about awareness.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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