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Tags: relationships, communication, he is not interested
 Coffee and late night talks until the café closes, romantic dinners and walk under the stars. Constantly keeping in touch and talk about everything under the sun. You can’t help but feel totally connected. Till a few days later, no calls, messages, e–mails not even an SMS. You parted sweetly, promising to see each other soon.
Yet when you tried to make contact, he seemed vague and distant as if he is not interested. You spend the next few days running to the phone every time it rings, making sure to check your e–mail every hour. You start thinking: Did you say something to offend him? Were you intimidating? Did you behave in a manner that turned him off? You ponder on the thought: He might be very busy with his job.
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He probably lost his mobile? Or he just might have had accident? Could he be having a traumatized childhood that he’s too afraid to commit? It makes one sense that he is not interested and you start to wonder what you did wrong. What made him act this way? If he’s not spending time with you, pursuing you, or asking you out, the simple answer is that he is about to dump you.
Even if he wants to say it, he may not do it if he is just not that into you. It’s not unusual that people usually meet someone they’re attracted to and later decide they weren’t after all. Men are creatures of the moment. They want what’s in front of their face but once it’s out of sight…he is about to dump you.
Not all men do this for the very same excuse though it’s enough to keep women off–balance. Some men could also behave in such a manner for the reason that they don’t want to appear too forward or pushy. Some men often have second thoughts and they could never directly tell you he is about to dump you.
Neither tells you that you’re not his type for fear of confrontation. Men really try to avoid upsetting women. They fear rejection and prefer to take the easy way out. Guys find it satisfying to get what they want. When he treats you like he is about to dump you, one feels dehumanized and demoralized.
It can make her wonder if there is something she did that turned him off. Theirs absolutely nothing wrong with you. The truth is you’re not his type and he is about to dump you. Nobody wants to be jilted. This only becomes a problem when we take it to heart.
It’s not uncommon for women to make up excuses about why guys appear to loose interest. It’s a natural defense mechanism which prevents us from being plagued by negative emotions. It is easier to make excuses then try to second–guess men then to actually admit he is not into you.
It doesn’t even matter when they don’t call, disappear, or ignore you. The truth is, he is about to dump you. We know it but we refuse to see it. We keep holding on to a relationship where there is none. So, stop wasting your time when you know he is about to dump you.
Once you acknowledge and accept that he is not that into you set yourself free and find who is meant for you.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. More info about this “Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity” program is available HERE.
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