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Tags: relationships, communication, how to deal with emotional blackmail
 Common sense tells you that when you are in a relationship, you should never under estimate the power of communication- it can either make or break your relationship in tiny bite pieces. The problem, however, is not knowing what to do but how to do it. Couples usually know that communicating with each other is essential but sending your message appropriately can be quite a challenge.
You may not be aware that you are using one of the most fatal mistakes in communication in the relationship and that is emotional blackmail. If you are using this approach to get what you want then shame on you! Manipulation can have adverse effects in a relationship, so for your own good lay off with your emotional blackmail techniques.
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On the other hand if you are the one being consumed by a manipulative partner, here are some ways on how to deal with emotional blackmail. Emotional blackmail is no more than emotional manipulation; it can be delivered deliberately or unconsciously. The first defense that you can do against this wicked approach is to recognize the deed itself.
“If you go out tonight I will leave you and you will never see your kids again….” or “…but I love, I don’t want you to do that because I care so much…” Or this one “If you leave now, you will be destroying your children’s future!” or “If you go out tonight, there will be no sex for a month!” If this is a common occurrence to you then you are definitely under the spell of an emotional blackmailer.
The best thing that you should do is to identify between a request and a demand. A demand is when your partner insists it should be done his way or punishes himself or you if you will not cater to his “requests”. You should also look out for behavior patterns.
It has been proven that if your partner constantly shouts, screams, pouts, threatens or uses passive aggressive to get his way then he is a chronic manipulator of emotions. The best solution that you can do is NOT to give in. You have to teach your partner a lesson about respect and trust.
You have to make a point that threatening to hurt you or himself or end the relationship, withholding sex or instilling unnecessary pressure on is the not the best way to get what he wants. You also have to remember that giving in to an emotional blackmail can only worsen the perpetrator.
In this case you have to be assertive to stand your ground but at the same you have to be more vocal and open that your partner’s approach is not doing any good for you and your relationship.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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