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Tags: relationships, communication, how to fight fair
 Arguing, fighting, quarrelling, disagreeing... no matter what you call it this is a part of every relationship. Conflict is a way of communicating, if you do it right it can make your relationship grow. However, when you go beyond the line, it can break your relationship in an instant. Going beyond the borderline when fighting depends on the words that come out of your mouth, it can aggravate your conflict or it can make you both understand the problem and work together to solve the issues.
When you are committed to make things tight and right for your relationship this coming year, here are some suggestions on how to fight right, and how to fight fair.
“I can see where I went wrong in this...” Nothing cools down the heat more than admitting your share of the conflict.
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When you admit that you had something to do with the issue, helps the heated argument from escalating in which case, nobody really wins. Keep in mind that the fastest way to a no- resolution conflict is putting all the blame on your partner.
“I love you and I don’t want us say something that we will regret later...” Saying this would surely make you the higher person in the relationship. That’s because in spite of the chaotic and confusing arguing, you can still see logic and become aware of what really matters.
“Wait let me breathe for a while...” When you are both in a verbal smackdown, air is constricted and all you see is red! When this happens you can lose control and would say something that would definitely hurt you and your partner.
Lucky for you if you can redeem yourself, but if what you said hit the main nerve, then you need more than luck to make things right again. Therefore, for your own good, take a break, breathe, count to ten, and see your conflict in a bigger picture.
“What hurts you, hurts me, too...” this magic word spells fighting fair and fighting right. In an instant, this can change the dynamics of your fighting from you vs him, to us vs the problem. This shows that you are excluding the deed to the person, thus making it easy for both of you to compromise and find a solution to your problem. Since, this act makes you realize that you are on the same side, it can make your more confident about your relationship, thus making you surpass any problem with ease and with great lessons.
“You don’t need to do something, just listen...” Women talk to feel good, while men talk to solve something. This usually creates a conflict, because when a woman talk about her frustrations, the man would become frustrated because he wants to do something about his woman’s frustrations. Then the woman would think that the man is telling her what to do. From this trivial misunderstanding, strings of hurtful words can develop. However, when you say these enlightening words, both of you can see eye to eye.
Whenever, your partner attempts to the conflict down, appreciate it and reciprocate it.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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