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Tags: relationships, communication, miscommunication in relationships
 It seems that perfecting the art of communication is very impossible to achieve. If couple learns to communicate properly then marriage counselors and people like me will be out of the job. Communication is like the baseline that holds the foundation of every relationship which is love and respect. No matter how you love or respect your spouse if you don’t know how to communicate it, then your spouse will never get your message.
Irregardless of the years you’ve been together, if bad communication happens and is not settled, it can end any marriage in an instant. There are so many factors why miscommunication in relationships happens. First, is when one insists or demands. When you demand, you initiate superiority and dominance over your lover.
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No matter how good your intentions are for demanding something from your lover. Your spouse will never get the message, the only message your spouse will get is that you think of him or her as your inferior because you demand. Especially if you’re demanding or insisting something personal like what you’re spouse is thinking.
This is a double cop-out. Cases like this usually end in squabble and heated arguments because you should never demand and you should never insist something very personal from your spouse. Demanding what your he or she is thinking is a form of disrespect. If you want to avoid miscommunication in relationships, learn to be more sympathetic of your lover.
Practice respect in your marriage. Miscommunication in relationships happens if you practice nagging, which is continuous yapping or silent treatment, which is not talking and pretending your partner does not exist. Nagging doesn’t contribute anything good in your marriage. It can never make your partner listen and can only repulse him or her.
Your partner doesn’t hear anything from your nagging except this annoying noise coming out from your mouth. No matter how important your message is, if you send it through nagging you will never be understood. In silent treatment, obviously, you will never be understood if you don’t talk and if you constantly avoid your partner.
Nagging and silent treatment will get you nowhere. It will never make your partner listen and can only worsen miscommunication in relationships. Another factor that contributes to miscommunication in relationships is being narrow-minded or judgmental. How can your partner get through you if your mind is already set into believing something that can’t be changed? The mind is a very powerful thing, if you program it into believing something it will stand up to it.
If you want to improve communication in your marriage, try to keep an open mind. Miscommunication in relationships occurs if you are being controlling. Being controlling means pushing your own way into your partner’s throat. If you are controlling you are refusing to listen. Since listening is one of the major components of communication, without it everything will not make sense.
Miscommunication in relationships should be dealt with immediately or else you will be heading for the next divorce lawyer
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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