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Tags: relationships, communication, stress management and relaxation
 It is a fact that there is no other person can make you the happiest person in this world than the person closest to your heart. Just imagine your boyfriend calling you first thing in the morning to tell you how beautiful and wonderful you are or your husband of eighteen years suddenly gives you a pair of expensive and gorgeous earrings with a note that says “Like this gem, you remain priceless and stunning, from the luckiest husband on earth”, isn’t that heart- warming and blissful? These kinds of moments can leave you smiling for weeks or months.
Perfection. When this happens you can ask nothing more. But like everything else, there are always two sides of the coin. When the person closest to your heart can give you the pillar of happiness then it goes without saying that the same person can hurt you the most either.
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Sad but true- nobody can seriously hurt your feelings more than the person you truly cherish. When you allowed yourself to open up entirely to another human being, you open your vulnerability and you give him the power to affect you like no other people can. When it comes to your lover or spouse, you cannot help but to become sensitive sometimes if not most of the time.
Being hurt by your loved one is unavoidable. It is inevitable that sooner or later your one and only sweetheart will utter a harsh or offensive remark that can upset you. When a loved one brings you down, hard as it may be but you have to try to evaluate why he said what he said.
You have to assess if he did that to purposely embarrass you or spite you. If his comment is absolutely downgrading and toxic and is done frequently you have to think if you want to stay in a relationship that repeatedly assassinates your character. When a loved one brings you down, be rational enough to analyze his condition, is he a lot of stress lately? Big bills to pay? Important projects? Deadlines coming up? Family problems? When your partner or lover suddenly becomes irritated ask, talk, share, communicate.
Don’t provoke. When your loved one brings you down, don’t fight fire with fire- clichés may be tiresome to hear but they give you the knowledge you need to know. When your lover suddenly becomes easily annoyed, calmly ask him what’s wrong with him and remind him that you are an ally not the adversary and that you will support him in anyway you can.
I’m not telling you to be tolerant or excuse his immaturity but I am telling you to be a little more understanding than you should. There are different ways to skin a cat- you can either respond to him in a negative manner or do the positive one. A wise woman would choose the latter.
When your lover brings you down because of stress the best thing to do is to encourage stress management and relaxation activities. Doing stress management and relaxation activities together is like hitting two birds with one stone, both of you will be having a bonding moment and at the same time your partner will see you as someone who truly understands and supports him like no other person can.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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