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Tags: relationships, communication, ways to save money
 One sensitive issue that some couples are too embarrassed to discuss and talk about is financial matters. Wives are expected to find ways to save money but what if there is nothing to save? This article is about money and women, what women think of them and feel about them.
I guess some men or women would think that there’s nothing to talked or discussed about this matter, the more the better but the truth is more is not always better, if that were true then filthy rich men don’t get divorced. There’s this Latina friend of mine, Lorna, we had coffee ones awhile and every time we meet the topic is about her great sex life and her husband’s frugality.
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“He is almost perfect, he’s sweet and loving and the sex is awesome but it feels like there is something missing because since the time we got married six years ago, there was never a time that he gave me cash, not even a penny!” she disappointedly said. Lorna is a career woman, as a matter of fact she is one of the top realtors in town, she’s earning well in her line of work and her husband Rodrigo is a car sales manager.
“I feel that I’m the one working for the two of us because when the kids get sick I pay for everything, the nanny, the groceries, the bills and the insurances. I feel that he compensates his penny-pinching attitude for being overly affectionate, as if I will not notice. We are totally in harmony until we talk about cash and payments.
I feel not being taken cared of, really. It’s not about the cash even; it’s about the thought that I am being tasked to pay for everything as if nobody cares. For once, I need to feel that I am being taken cared of and pampered. I work like hell and when I go home I need a man who would take care of me in all aspect.
Sometimes, I lose my respect because of his being tightfisted.” Lorna continued. The relationship about money and women goes beyond material things. One aspect that a woman feels being looked after is the fact that she doesn’t have to worry about financial matters. I don’t mean that a man should cater to all her woman’s material whims but showing her that when there is financial abundance, she is your primary priority.
In money and women, there should be transparency. For some women, who are career oriented and successful, sometimes they don’t mind if their husband would pay for this and that as long as they can see where their husband’s money go. For money and women, there should be a balance.
If a man works hard day and night for money, the woman would think that a man gives less importance to family and more on making money. A woman will find ways to save money if both of you are being open and transparent about financial issues. Money and women should not be a pressure for men, yes, women wants security and stability in marriage and having a big wad of cash is a big factor in order to attain that but you have to remember that women want to have that kind of stability and security because she wants the best for your kids and your life.
So, let her be an ally instead of a burden when it comes to financial matters. It should not be an issue to fight about; it should be something to work on together.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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