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Tags: relationships, communication, white lies
 No matter how cohesive your relationship is, men can’t help telling those little white lies. Little white lies are “harmless” since the truth would only cause unnecessary pain for the recipient. Are white lies really not detrimental and necessary to have balance in the relationship? For men, I’m sure there are hundreds of details they want to keep for themselves in order to prevent their woman from having uncalled for dilemma and/ or worries.
Here are some examples of little white lies men tell. Some men tell you he likes your friend or group of friends even if he doesn’t. Granting you friends are females- he would rather keep his mouth shut and keep his opinion to himself. Men know the power and influence of a female friend.
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He is aware that a girl buddy knows a lot more about his partner than him and he is very conscious that the girl buddy is the human diary of her partner. So no matter how loud or “chatty” your best friend is, most likely he will just keep quiet about it and enjoy her company.
Other white lies a man would tell is how ridiculous your outfit looks on you. This is a very common because he doesn’t want to offend you. It’s not that he care less of what you look like; he does care but he understands that you can be very sensitive about this matter.
So in order to save you from unpleasant feelings about yourself, he’d rather be quite about it and enjoy the rest of the day with you. For men, they care more a lot about who you are than what you look like. He will leave it out to your girl friends to tell you what clothes fit you right.
Men commit white lies about problems at work. This is done with all the best intentions. A Man discerns that he is the only one who understands about his job and telling you detailed things about his work would only give you pointless worries. So if ask your partner how’s work and he says “fine” in a monotonous and doesn’t-want-to-talk-about-it tone then everything is not going well.
It is best to give him space for a while because the more insistent you become, the more stressed out he’s going to be. Men cannot help committing white lies about being attracted to other women. No matter how stable and romantically-charged your relationship is, men will always turn their head when coming across a very attractive, top heavy, long legged woman.
It’s not their fault though; it’s the way they are programmed. But this does not mean that men will jump to the next attractive woman they meet- admiring is more about looking but no touching involve. White lies, it’s like telling your mother-in-law how tasteful her seafood casserole is even if it taste like pig stew.
It’s not damaging if you know what your limitations are. White lies are not betrayal or trickery of any other kind. It should never be an excuse for infidelity and disloyalty. My point is, if you make white lies or any other kind of lies be sure you know the consequences attached to it because the truth has a way of getting out in the open.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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