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Tags: relationships, conflict, difficult
 Conflict, if not handled well can create unnecessary stress and pressure. The bad news is we cannot avoid them; they are everywhere- our boss, our colleague, our neighbor, even your husband or wife, or mother can be in that category of annoyingly, hard- to- handle humans. Since we can’t avoid them and can’t always clash with them, the only solution is to handle them the right way.
There are different kinds of difficult human beings and how to cope with them. The first kind are the silent killers. These people keep their mouth shut, give a hateful, surly look and turn away. They totally ignore you and answer your question in a monotonous tone of “I don’t know” or silence.
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This kind of people do this because some people are uncomfortable with silence. One thing you can do is to ask them questions not answerable by yes or no and wait at least a full minute or two before you say anything. Your long silence can make them uncomfortable. Once they talk, listen attentively.
The second kind are the complainers. They are fearful beings who discourage you to do anything. They see the negative aspects of the things and the people around. They have no faith in you and themselves because they believe in living in a harsh world. Arguing with this kind of people is futile.
Instead deal with them with optimism. The third kind are the sharp-shooters. They are really good in sneak attacks and they do it subtly- like witty put downs, mocking tones, disapproving reactions and innuendos. This kind of group doesn’t like confrontations. Dealing with questions like- “You sounds like your mocking me, are you?” is the best way.
They will usually deny but nevertheless they know you are aware and lessen the risk of being a target in the near future. The fourth kind are the aggressive beings. They are bullies; they intimidate and try to win the battle with intimidation. The excellent way of dealing with this people is standing up to them but never shout.
Wait for the steam to cool of and call up and assert your opinion. In case the person you’re dealing with is not mentioned above, here are everyday rules in dealing with everyday difficult buman beings. Never take their actions seriously or personally. They are creatures of habit; it’s their second nature to annoy.
Never exchange blows with these kinds of people it will be pointless. Never beat them in their own game- they have been practicing since they were a baby, you will never stand a chance. Never try to pacify them- they have unquenchable appetite for it. Don’t even try to change them- it’s not your place instead change your responses when dealing with them.
Responding properly can facilitate a progressive outcome. Collaborating with them can aid you a lot. Sometimes offering to compromise can give promising results. Another is the easy way out like flipping a coin. Let him flip the coin to avoid further conflict. Then again, there is the famous way of dealing with difficult people- avoidance.
Some conflicts are not worth your time. If the argument will never do you any good, don’t hesitate to turn your back. You will lose nothing and gain a peaceful day ahead of you.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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