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Tags: relationships, conflict, letting go and moving on
 When you are inlove with someone and you are committed to that person, you would do anything to save that relationship. You would go an extra mile to keep your promise of love. Sacrifice is not an issue as long as it is for the best of your lover and your relationship.
However, there are instances that letting go is the best solution. Letting go of the relationship may be the most important decision that you can do if there is any form of abuse in the relationship. There are different forms of abuse: physical, emotional and verbal abuse. When your significant other has a terrible temper and treats you like a punching bag, then it’s just right that you leave him or her.
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Beware of a lover who displaces his or her issues and anger at you. When your partner belittles you and makes you feel that you are insignificant without him or her then you are being emotionally abused. If your partner emotionally abuses you, there is no point being in that relationship at all.
You are verbally abused when your partner habitually curses you or calls you degrading names privately and/ or publicly. Never hesitate to leave your partner when you are being verbally abused. Relationships are not always perfect and it is inevitable that you will experience being hurt by your partner. Have your limitations, when your self- respect is being repeatedly trampled upon, then you have to put your foot down and make a decision to leave once and for all.
Know and discern the intentions of your partner. Stay away from a lover who thrives in your insecurities. Letting go is the best solution when your partner has an addiction and is not willing to get treatment for it. May it be substance addiction, gambling or sex addiction, it can hurt you.
Treatment for any kind of addiction is only possible when there is acknowledgment. When your lover has an addiction, sad to say but you can only do so much. You may give all the support and care to help your other half realize his or her “dependence” but the final decision is still up to him or her.
Letting go is the noblest thing that you can do when your partner is not in love with you anymore. You have to reflect upon this thought, "What's the point of being in a relationship when the person you are with doesn't have the heart to love you?" If you have done everything in your power to win your partner's love, but if it doesn't work, then I believe it is selfish to keep him or her.
If you truly love someone, his or her happiness is what matters, even if it tremendously hurts you. If you genuinely love someone, you cannot stand to see your lover unhappy. They say that the ultimate act of true love is letting go. Though it shreds you apart inside, letting go and moving on is the best that you can do for yourself.
Letting go and moving on may be the most difficult thing to do, but if it means the happiness of the very person you love, then it's worth it.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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