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Tags: relationships, conflict, physical abuse
 Alone. The prevailing sentiment of the victim of domestic violence. Victims of physical abuse are overpowered by fear. They are afraid to seek help and feel humiliated enough to tell anyone. Yes, victims of physical abuse are living in fear and remorse. They are so broken; they don’t realize they are victims and that there are solutions to their problem.
They should be made aware that it is not their fault to be physically abused. It’s not their fault they were deceived by their prince charming that turned out to be a sadistic ogre in reality. Since the victims of physical abuse are afraid to go out, spreading the information that there is help available is a good start.
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Or if you suspect that someone close to you is a victim of physical abuse, you have to report to the proper authorities. The following are common indications that someone is a victim of physical abuse. They have recurrent injuries and regular excuses of “accidents”. Sudden change of personality; your friend use to be very open to conversation but now she is withdrawn and silent.
She isolates herself. Frequent and abrupt absences from work or school. When she speaks about her partner, you noticed an immense amount of fear in her. You notice she is being harassed by her partner on the phone or in the office. She is unusually submissive and has no self- assertiveness.
You always catch her crying in the comfort room. She is sad and depressed most of the time. If you know somebody with the indications mentioned above, talk to her and tell her she doesn’t have to live that way. Eventually, victims of physical abuse, if given support will leave their abusive partners.
In the mean time, while they are still in the claws of the monster, the abused partner should be made aware of the trigger points of an abuser. Be alert of the signs and clues that the perpetrator is about to get upset and burst into his violent behaviors. Have an available and believable reason to leave the house.
One suggestion is have a friend ready to come over and pick you up with a secret code through phone. Avoiding these violent reactions is one way of protecting yourself. Know possible hiding places inside your house. If argument is heated and you know he is about to hurt you again, run to a room with a phone or with an outside window where you can escape.
Never hide in closets or kitchens. Kitchens have deadly weapons in them; one thing you need to prevent is bloodshed to occur. Have an escape plan ready and escape kit ready. It is best if you can have an extra key of the full-tank car facing the driveway. Be sure to put your escape kit in the easiest and most convenient area.
Your escape kit should include extra cash, credit cards, duplicate copy of the keys of your house and car, extra clothes, birth certificates, important identification cards and passport and valuable jewelries. Ask a trusted friend or relative to keep important documents where you can conveniently get anytime. These documents can be legal documents that in due course will help you.
Be sure to document every abuse. Take a picture of your injuries and if possible report it to the proper authorities. Have a secret word to say to your children when it’s time for them to ask for help. Be sure you teach them to ask for help and never forget to tell your children to get out of the kitchen.
Do anything in your power to protect your children from physical abuse. Nobody deserves to be abused in any way. If you are a victim of a physical abuse get out while you can. I'm sure you don’t want to live in a box six feet under.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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