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Tags: relationships, conflict, rebounding from a relationship
 What is the first thing that comes in to your mind when you hear the word rebound relationship? Some say it’s a diversion, an escape, an easy way to from pain. While some would say that rebound relationship is therapeutic and can ease up a broken heart by killing time with someone that can take your mind off from the things that hurt you.
Whatever your impression about rebound relationship, I think it’s unfair. It’s unfair to the person you are having your rebound relationship with and importantly you are being unfair to yourself. How can I say you are being unfair to you? Listen to the story of Leonard, a twenty-five year old advertising manager of a big company.
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Leonard had a five year relationship with Elaine, a beautiful, perceptive and reserved, medium built, fair- skinned brunette. After five years of being together, Leonard and Elaine decided to call it quits. Three weeks after the break up, Leonard started going steady with a bubbly and naïve, petite blonde. After a three months Leonard and his blonde girlfriend decided to break up, then after two weeks of breaking with the blonde woman, Leonard had an affair with a married woman while going steady with a college student.
Leonard was partying everywhere and having relationships here and there. He has practically no direction and no focus in life. No savings, no investments and no back- up plan for his existence, in other words he is messed up. This is what I mean when you are being unfair to yourself.
When you are hurting from a failed love affair, you owe to yourself to take a break, even if it means feeling the pain. You owe it to yourself to assess what went wrong, what happened and what not to do again. You owe it to yourself to learn from your mistakes and grow.
In rebounding from a relationship, it is essential that need to be friends with yourself. This is the best and perfect time to have that moment to be with you. In rebounding from a relationship, the best therapy to have yourself as your ally and you cannot do this if you spend your time gallivanting from one bed to another.
You are being unfair if you are in a rebound relationship because you are depriving yourself of emotional and mental maturity. Yes, it’s painful to deal with the pain of breaking up, to some it can be unbearable but these unbearable pains are not in vain- they transform you into a beautiful person because you appreciate life more and most importantly you appreciate yourself more.
As they say “You cannot appreciate the sweet without the bitter.” That is why sometimes you need to swallow the bitterness of life to be fully grateful for the sweetest things it has to offer. Just have faith that whatever you are going through, it has a purpose and that purpose is for your own good, it may not be easy and comfortable but in the end it’s for your own benefit.
So choose to take the road less traveled and take care of yourself.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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