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Tags: relationships, dating, long distance dating
 We all have different opinions about long distance dating. Some can pull through it successfully and some succumb to the temptation of physical intimacy. Long distance dating is not for everyone. It takes a lot of trust and a lot of effort in communicating, not to mention setting aside some budget for phone bills and gifts via ups.
Sending gifts and / or packages to someone who is hundreds or thousands of miles away doesn’t come cheap. It can literally drain your pockets with charges and taxes from freights and deliveries. Technology plays a vital role in this kind of relationship- emails, instant messaging and not to mention text messaging.
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It creates an illusion that your loved one is not as far as you think he or she is. That is why the first tip in making long distance dating work is making the most out of technology. The web cam can add a lot of spice in the relationship, this is the closest that you can have with the typical “here and now” affair.
This is where you can see each other eye to eye. See each others' smile and cry. Watch each others' reactions and actuation's. You can do a lot of things with the web cam- naught and nice- use your imagination and have fun with it. Another fun thing to take advantage of is text messaging; this can also break the time-zone barriers.
With text messaging you can say your sweet nothings anytime of the day-and it also cheaper compare to phone calls. Nothing beats the classics- snail mail is always romantic. It’s personalized and it lasts forever- your partner can keep it as long as he or she wants and it doesn’t get deleted when technology bug downs.
Technology gives you an opportunity to have constant communication with each other, which is the second tip in having a successful relationship. Constant and frequent communication is very necessary in this kind of affair; it is how the earth needs the water to survive. To prevent your love affair from being dry and barren, checking in with your loved one everyday is essential.
A short phone call to let your partner hear your voice is all he or she needs to feel nice and warm inside. And with different time zones and schedules and obligations-checking in with your partner can be very unpredictable and gives both of you something to look forward to everyday.
Be respectful, true and trusting with yourself and your loved one. Doubting what your partner does and say is normal in this kind of relationship since you don’t interact and experience your daily lives together. Listening with care and honesty is important since the risk of miscommunication is higher than any other relationships.
So voluntarily opening up and offering information with empathy and honesty will encourage your partner to do the same. This helps both of you to become secure and safe in your affair and it can create bonding. Also never forget your sense of humor. In any kind of relationship near or far- keeping your sense of humor is significant.
Being in a long distance dating can be heavy to carry at times and sense of humor can lighten it up. Another fundamental factor in long distance love affair is maintaining healthy personal limitations and control. Giving in too much, too soon can create too much expectations. And the last thing you want is to get carried away with your expectations.
Talking about realistic goals and purposes can give both of you sense of security about the present and the near future. Always keep in mind to end your conversation in a positive way- with much appreciation and love. This helps both of you in your coping abilities and of course, in strengthening your bond.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Male Magnet Formula. Discover how to attract men like a magnet.
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