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Tags: relationships, dating, questions to ask on a first date
 Soul mate- two little words, one big concept- A belief that someone somewhere is holding the key to your heart and your dream house, all you have to do is find him. And once you do find him, you need to survive the ultimate test- the first date. Going out on a first date with someone who you think is your potential soul mate can be very intimidating and nerve wracking. You have to be calm enough to overcome your fears and insecurities. To survive your first date with flying colors, you have to say the right things and ask the right questions.These are essential factors if you want to avoid what every first dater's greatest fear- the eerie, uncomfortable silence.
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So to help you out, here are some helpful guide questions to ask on a first date. These questions will not only make your rendezvous go smoothly, but will help you discover if he is truly the one you have been waiting for.
- Tell me about your family and/ or best friend. This is a perfect first date question. It will help you find out more about him and at the same time he will be flattered that you show so much interest to people he cares about.
- What was your embarrassing moment? It's best that you share experiences, it creates a bond and can give both of you a laugh, relieving the tension in your first date.
- What do you look for in a person? This can help you find out how shallow or deep he is.
- What's the biggest mistake you ever did on a first date? Can be quite an ice- breaker, and you can wittingly have a follow-up question:
- Do you think I am making any dating mistake right now? I'm sure he will say you are doing fine even if you are not, but asking this question will make you candid and funny- a plus point.
- If you can have any job you want, what would it be? This will help you discover what kind of dreams and aspirations he has or if he has any at all.
- What's the most annoying thing that someone ever did to you? This can reveal his likes and dislikes- an essential information to know.
- What book or movie has a big impact on you? This can reveal his culture, his taste, and his influences.
- What kind of music do you love to listen to? The kind of music a person listens to reveals his culture, his exposure, his taste, and his personality.
- If given the chance to write an autobiography- what would the title be? This can reveal his views about life- a relevant information to know if you are thinking of having a relationship with the person.
- Have you ever experienced a broken heart? A yes answer discloses humility; an angry answer discloses bitterness; a silent, almost tearful answer discloses he is not over it.
- What do you think is the biggest mistake a person can do in a relationship? Gives you an idea what he thinks about the opposite sex and his ideals about having a relationship.
- What kind of relationship are you looking for? A perfect first date question. Once this is answered, everything is out there; you can now know what you're getting yourself into.
Just be sure that you add rapport and be casual about asking these questions. Don't make it sound like a job interview. Be sure to listen and give appropriate attention to your date. And a little piece of advice- since it's you first date, it's normal for a guy or a girl to give the best answer, even if it is far from the truth. Nevertheless, just enjoy the moment.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Male Magnet Formula. Discover how to attract men like a magnet.
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