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Tags: relationships, enhancement, how to have a healthy relationship
 It’s impossible not to have conflicts in the love affair. It’s inevitable that you will get hurt. For whatever reason, may it be money, jealousy or insensitivity couples cannot help hurting each other at one point in their togetherness. The important thing is that couples learn from it, get over it, move on and grow.
Having a healthy relationship may sound idealistic but it’s not, it should be that- healthy for your whole being. You may sometimes get crazy and irrational but in the end a healthy relationship should make you listen to what’s right. You may live the most dysfunctional way of living but as long as it inspires you to be the better version of yourself then you are on the right track.
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Having a healthy relationship doesn’t mean being the perfect partner or having the perfect union. Having a healthy relationship is all about consideration, resiliency, understanding, respect, and of course love. When your love affair teaches you to have these values then you definitely have a healthy relationship. Let me elaborate each of these values.
Consideration is seeing the whole picture first before assuming anything. One of the sources of conflict in the relationship is being inconsiderate. Men complain about women nagging or throwing off some nasty tantrums at them for coming home late without hearing them out first. While on the other hand, women complain about men for not considering their emotions most of the time.
Being considerate is all about compromise. It is being level headed and rational. Being considerate means believing in your heart that when your lover does something out of the ordinary, there is something wrong and you don’t take it against yourself. If you have consideration in your heart, you will become more sympathetic and helpful.
It’s about seeing the vulnerability or the humanness of your lover. Resiliency. I believe that being resilient is one of the vital factors in having a healthy relationship. Being resilient means seeing a positive meaning to each adversity, making you more capable of handling it. It has been proven that resilient people have longer, happier and more stable relationships.
Understanding. Like respect and love. It is a must in every union. Being understanding is one of the factors on how to have a healthy relationship. If you have a better understanding of your lover, you tend to have less unrealistic expectations and idealism, making you more tolerant, accepting and respectful.
How to have a healthy relationship depends in these two important values- respect and love. There is no real union without these two. You cannot love somebody without respect and living with somebody that you don’t love is trivial. With respect, you tend to see the goodness in your partner.
While loving teaches you to forgive, teaches you to endure and makes you see things beyond the physical. It gives you the positivity and hope that you need. My point is this, if your love affair brings out the worst in you, leave. Life is too short to be wasted on issues and triviality.
Live fully and love wholeheartedly - this is what healthy living is all about.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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