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Different Types Of Kisses Too Delicious To Try

Fri, 4 Mar 2011 19:26:15 +0800

Ahhh kissing� no feeling can be ethereal as two lips touch each other with great passion. As coach Beiste from the famous musical TV show, Glee, said, �It’s the simplest thing � a kiss. It’s the doorway to everything else, you know? Promise; hope; a future with someone.�� Whether it is your first or your or your nth time to kiss, its charm never fades. �

Here are different types of kisses that are too delicious to do over and over again.

The �Good Morning Kiss� A good morning smack is when you kiss your partner on the cheeks, gently and slowly until you reach the lips before your partner wakes up. This kiss is a sure way to start your day right!

The Vacuum Playful Kiss� This is sure to give you lover goose bumps. This is when you slightly open your mouth while kissing, and gently suck are if you were sucking the air from your partner. This is very ideal when you do on the neck or from the upper arm gradually going to the lower area.

The Quickie Kiss needs no effort but is sure to leave a lasting impression. This is where you kiss your lover on the nose or on the lips when you are on the rush.

The Tongue Sucking, This passionate kiss is another kind of French kiss. This is when you gently suck your partner’s tongue. Take note: You have to be gently or else you can hurt your partner. When you do this right, it can lead to some more actions.

The Tasty Kiss. Nothing can be more sweet than adding flavor on your kiss. This is when you take a sip of your drink, or a dessert (chocolates and strawberries are the best), and trickle it slowly on your lover’s lips while kissing. The kiss so delicious you couldn’t stop doing it.

Sneak Kiss. This kiss is sure to give your partner a happy jolt. This is where you silently sneak up behind your lover, grab him/ her and gently give a bite on the neck. This aggressive move never fails to bring a hearty laugh.

The Icing On Top Kiss. This sensual and fun way of kissing is sure to lead to another level. The icing on top is where you dip your finger into some cool icing or whipped cream, then slowly lick it off and finally give your partner a long teasing kiss with icing on your lips.

The Ultimate Teaser’s Kiss. This is where you begin kissing on the forehead, the a short sweet kiss on the lips, then you gently move up to the arms, up to the hand, then kiss the hand and come back up to the arms, then to the face again and then lightly kiss the lips until it becomes very passionate. This kiss is sure to leave your partner asking for more!

The Whispering Kiss. When you want your lover to taken passionately, then this whispering kiss is perfect. This is where you whisper sweet nothings to your partner while kissing.

Try these different types of kiss and you are sure to win your partner’s heart.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Bored With Your Relationship? Try These Different Types Of Kisses

Sat, 26 Feb 2011 16:18:15 +0800

Kissing, who doesn’t like them, right? I think everybody I know, from all ages, to all walks of life cannot resist the wonderful effects of kissing. Truly nothing can make one feel good inside than a warm big kiss from the person you love. It can make you feel warm and fuzzy inside, often times it can make you feel adored and cherished, and it can also comfort you from your troubles, the ways hugs do. These are just of the few things a kiss can do. But one of the magical effects kisses do is to bring the fun and passion back in your relationship. Most of the time, when the passion is gone in the relationship, sex becomes an issue, and you focus on every solution on that area alone, little did you know that through different types of kisses, you can revive the passion back and eliminate the boredom in your relationship.

Have you noticed that sometimes kissing is more wonderful than sex? When you close your eyes and feel the lips of the one you love, you feel more connected and belonged, than the instant gratification of sex. Don’t get me wrong, making love is great, but sometimes, long-term couples take it for granted. It gets lost somewhere between reality and disappointments. However, with kissing, you can never get tired of it. Kissing has this magic of taking you back in time where love was new and beautiful.

Here are the different types of kisses that you should try to bring the passion and excitement back in your relationship.

�� The butterfly kisses is one of the kisses that could definitely make both of you smile, because it is both fun and sensational. What you need to do is to get close to your partner, close enough that your face is less than a breath away, then open and close your eyes. When you do this correctly, the fluttering sensation of your partner’s eyelids will match the one in your heart.

�� The kiss in the cheeks. I always advice my clients to never ever go out of bed without kissing each other on the cheeks. Never mind the morning breath, the early morning kiss is sure start your day right. Nothing says, �I like you a lot�� than a kiss on the cheeks. For long term lovers, this is very important. For new lovers this can further ignite your relationship, and for first dates, this is a sure way for a second date.

�� The Eyelid kiss is perhaps the most romantic and intimate kiss there is. When you partner is sleeping or resting, very, very gently kiss the area under the brow bone. This is one perfect kiss that shows unconditional love. Don’t think that your partner cannot feel it, because he/ she can.

�� The foot kiss is a very erotic gesture, and is perfect when your sex life is getting monotonous. Your partner may get ticklish, but she/he will enjoy it. When you give a toe kiss, gently suck the toes, and lightly kiss the foot. To further enhance its sensation, gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

�� The French kiss is sure to bring the passion back, it’s electrifying to the core. This is when you kiss and use your tongue, and you close your eye to feel every moment of it. French kiss is also known as the, �Soul Kiss� because when you kiss that deep and passionate, it reaches and resonates deep within your soul. When your spouse leaves for the office, instead of giving a peck on the lips, why don’t you give a full, �soul kiss� and see what happens. It will sure bring a fantastic grin on both your faces all throughout the day.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Signs Of A Successful Relationship

Wed, 16 Feb 2011 09:26:52 +0800

It may be magic how you met and fell in love, but when it comes to keeping that flame burning, you need more than magic. You need to work on it. That’s right, when you want to your relationship to be sailing smoothly; you have to work on it. And it’s not just any work, certain sacrifices and compromises should be made, and sometimes those sacrifices and compromises can be mean getting rid the things you love doing and having for the sake of your relationship. That is why, with all the selflessness and efforts, you need to know that you are heading the right course. You deserve to know if all your hard work is paying off; therefore here are some signs of a successful relationship.

�� You watch each other’s back. This is probably one of the best signs that you are in a meaningful and loving relationship. Knowing that someone is watching out for you, gives you that sense of security and fulfillment, a sense of deep joy, and achievement. Having someone as an ally for life is the best gift you can have in this lifetime. You may scream and shout; curse and point fingers at each others at times, but when tides are tough, you know you have someone to lean on. This deep trust gives both of you the feeling of belongingness and unconditional acceptance, this really makes all your sacrifice worth it.

�� You become the bigger person. In relationships, pain, hurt, and disappointments are inevitable. There will be instances when your partner would disappoint you, and would make you feel that everything is just wrong, but instead of playing games like power playing, getting even, eluding, or emotional blackmailing, you take the high road and deal with the problem with your head on your shoulders. Instead of blowing your mind, you control your emotions and still manage to think of the welfare of your partner. In other words, you become the bigger person, always ready to compromise and forgive.

�� Fighting fair. Conflicts and arguments are not only unavoidable in relationships, but it is also necessary. Both of you understands that arguments and conflicts are needed for growth and improvement of your relationship. You know that fighting is normal in the relationship. Having this understanding makes you fight for the solution, not to hurt each other, thus strengthening your relationship with every conflict you have instead of weakening it.

�� You choose your battles. This means you know when to shut up. It doesn’t mean that because you are aware that fighting is normal, you pick a fight in every chance you get. Both of you know when to keep quite and not comment. You know about timing, you know when to agree or even lie at the moment. This indicates that you know each other enough to understand that there are something’s not worth fighting over.

�� You are not afraid to be yourself. This is another gift in the relationship that can be worth all your sacrifices and compromises, and that is having someone who you can be yourself, without any fear of rejection and judgment. With this accepting and non- judgmental atmosphere, you are sure to become your best self.� About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Single On Valentine�s Day? So What!

Mon, 14 Feb 2011 16:28:51 +0800

Valentines Day, everybody enjoys this day, well almost everybody. When you are newly single, this can be a tough day to get through. You see couples topping each other from being romantic, you see them showing off their �couplehood.� You see them do the things you do during Valentine’s Day. This can leave a little painful thud inside, thus making you more lonely than ever.

Well, you can either sulk and feel bad or you can choose to go out and have fun! Here are some tips on how to enjoy and love being single on Valentine’s Day.

�� Send some Valentine’s Day greetings. Send some Valentine’s email, or e-card to your parents, close friends, old friends and colleagues. Show them that you care, sending these Valentine’s day messages will also remind you that you are not alone and that you are loved!

�� Find a killer dress to go out and go out with friends! There is no rule that says you need to go out with a boyfriend of lover on Valentine’s Day! So call your fellow single girlfriends and paint the town red with your smashing, great looking dress.

�� Pamper yourself. When you really want to get all the stress out of your system, and forget about your your heartaches, then pampering yourself is the absolute solution. Go to a spa, and get the whole package! Get a great massage, some hair treatments, and get your nails done. Better yet, call your girlfriends and have yourself a spa party!

�� Go shopping for a Valentine’s gift. When you have been celebrating Valentine’s with someone before, you would definitely miss the Valentine’s gift. Well, you can still receive a wonderful, and not to mention the perfect gift from someone really awesome- YOU! Yes, go out and get something you really love. Why not, right? There is no perfect love than loving yourself!

�� Watch a singles movie. Going to the movies are not for lovers on Valentine’s Day, go call your single friends to watch some single movies.

�� Have dinner is cosy, and fun restaurant. The things is when you go to fancy restaurant, they would likely set it up for romance- the candlelight, the music, and the decorations. The best solution to this is to go out and have your diner with your friends in a fun restaurant, where the music is lively, and danceable! So go out with your friends, order some margarita, and dance the night away!

�� Go to a comedy club. What to forget all your troubles, and laugh the night away, then go to a comedy club. The effects of laughter lingers all throughout the night, this is the best solution when you are going home alone at night.

�� Go out of town. Nothing can make you forget all your heartaches during Valentine’s Day by going out of town with your single friends. The new ambiance can give you a delightful experience. Going out of town will prevent you from reminding you the places you and your ex used to go to.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Be A Head Turner

Fri, 4 Feb 2011 16:15:43 +0800

We all want to be noticed, it’s human nature. However, when you are single and is looking for love, being noticed is becomes an everyday mission. This article is all about fulfilling that mission, this article is about becoming a head turner, and make your number the sought after trend of the season, turning your luck from desperate to desirable. Without further ado, here are the tips on how to be a head turner.

Fake it �til you make it. Confidence is the key in becoming a to be a head turner, but not all the time we can feel confident, we all experience some down time, we can’t feel good all the time, it’s normal. But when you want to be a head turner, you have to make the most of your time. When you are not in your element, but there are potential audience around this is the time when you need to fake it! Believe me, nobody can tell the difference.

Flaunt your assets. Look at yourself in the mirror, and work on how to further enhance your assets. Do you have long legs, wear something can make it stand out, or practice your posture on your make your beautiful legs the main event. If you have soulful eyes, then practice on how express it that can get the attention of the opposite sex. When you have that perfect face, then accentuate it with a perfect hair cut or sunglasses or glasses. The point here is to putting your best foot forward, this would not only increase your confidence, but it would also increase your chances of getting the attention of the guy you’re into.

Flirt, flirt, flirt. Being a head turner is the bait, flirting is the trap. When you want to captivate the man you want, you need to know a little art of flirting. This is the secret of getting the man to come to you like a magnet, and open doors for a potential relationship. The first thing you need to do is to make eye contact. When you want to make eye contact, do it not longer than 7 seconds, then look down while smiling, then make eye contact again the second time but shorter than the first one, then look away. This is certain to make the guy’s heart leap.

The mane is the game. it’s been tested and proven that the hair makes the� man stare. Nothing says you’re healthy, attractive, and ready than a shiny, healthy, lustrous locks. So if you really want to get the guys attention, buy a bunch of hair gloss for your hair or better yet, take some time in pampering your hair.

Dress up. The key in dressing up is to know your shape and your assets. Then allow your clothes to compliment it. this would not only give you the confidence, but it would also make you approachable. be sure to put on some wonderful perfume or cologne that compliments your scent.� About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Avoid Divorce By Keeping The Balance In Your Relationship

Thu, 27 Jan 2011 01:18:37 +0800

Some couples wonder why after giving all their time, effort, and energy into their marriage, it’s still doesn’t end well. Just like Sandra, my dorm buddy during college days. A couple of months ago, she called me up to have lunch with her and that she needed someone to talk to. Sandra has this engaging personality. Her aura never fails to brighten up yours, but not during that meeting. The usual sparkle in her eyes are gone, I can feel that she is disturbed, distracted, and sad. My silent assessment were confirmed when she told me that she and her husband are divorced effective that afternoon. My heart sank. They were a great power couple, and they have two wonderful girls. She said they just grew apart. They tried saving the marriage, but nothing fits anymore. She further continued that what devastates her more was that she gave up everything for her marriage. She blew the chance to be in a very strong law firm because it will eat up all her time, so she settled for a less demanding, mediocre job. This is really surprising to those who knew her in college, she was an A student. Everyone expects her to be big because she has this charm and confidence to become successful. When she got pregnant, she gave up her job to be a soccer mom. Her life was all about her marriage and her children. Now, at 43, she has to start her life over. She wanted to share her story because somehow, she wants fellow mothers and wives to learn from her experience. Although, there are certain other factors that lead to the end of her marriage, but in general, she admitted that the lack of balance in the relationship played a big factor in the divorce. She noticed that the more they tried to save the marriage, the more it becomes a burden.� The imbalance crippled their hope, drained their energy, and exhausted them emotionally.

Balance, equilibrium, homeostasis, they all mean the same thing- a tip on the scale means trouble. Balance keeps the universe in its delicate order; equilibrium keeps the planet earth habitable; homeostasis keeps us in the pink of health. Don’t you think it’s time to apply balance in your relationship to prevent and avoid divorce?

Here are some quick suggestions on how to keep the balance in your relationship and how to avoid divorce.

Take up an old hobby that you both loved to do together. Sometimes this happens to couples, because of too much work, due to obligations, and the needs of the kids, you set aside your �couple time.� It’s a noble sacrifice, but it will hurt your family. You have to remember that your union is the pillar of your family, when you compromise that, you compromise your family.

Give each other some slack. There will be times when your partner would screw up, would constantly forget to put the toilet seat down, or leave the wet towel all over the floor, would sometimes not help with the dishes, or forgot to take the trash out. You know what, let it go and shake it off. Then say your piece of reminder in a light tone. Although these are �important� things to do, but seriously, these are not really worth fighting over. As they say, �don’t let the toilet seat ruin your marriage.� How true.

Give each other a breather. Give each other the chance to breathe out of the marriage. Hang out with your own friends, take a vacation alone, and nurture yourself. It is important that each of you understands that your marriage is flexible enough to understand that you are still your own person. It should be vast enough to cater your growth, and deep enough to comprehend your needs.� About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Habits That Can Make You Find The Right Love

Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:20:11 +0800

Are you one of those men and women who have been single forever, or have been in an in- and- out of relationship since 1990? Well, this year is your year to stop all the tears and find the right love that suits you like a customized gloves. This is the year is your year of love and passion. There will be no more drama, no more hurt. This year would be like Valentine’s Day whole year round. So, what are you going to do right to be able to find your Mr. or Ms. Right? Well, all you need to do is to stop your bad habits of making you miss the right love. Then, do the ones that make you attract the love that you wanted your whole life.

Be with the right friends/ group. This goes without saying that you need to move away from friends that are not really doing your style and going against your good energy. Friends should define you, complement you, and give you that "glow. When you go with friends that go against your vibe, and keep you on your guard, it also keeps potential love away. This is so, because that sense of awkwardness and the negative energy from you for being with the wrong group of people manifests outside and repels true love.

Grow some standards. Know what you want and know what you value, and make this as the basis of your standards.� But make sure that these are realistic standards. Having some standards means stopping your habits of one nightstands and hanging out with guys that only makes you feel bad about yourself. The more you spend your time with unworthy guys, the more you lose your chances of finding love.

Pamper yourself inside and out. This means giving yourself the importance it needs. From taking time to have that latest hair cut, to getting a massage and a manicure, to enrolling to the gym, to buying that favourite bag, to not allowing other people step on your toes. Stop selling yourself short. Value yourself by not allowing abuse and degradation pass by you. When you exude that aura that you don’t take crap from other people, you will earn that respect and love you deserve.

Love your work, love your job. This is about waking up every day and have that drive and enthusiasm to do that what you are suppose to do with gusto and passion. When you wake up every day with that energy, you are bound to attract the love that you want.

Cleaning up your past. People who move out from their hurtful past and move on from it with optimist is sure to find the love that they are yearning for all their lives. That is because getting over the past rids you of fear, bitterness, and ignorance that tethers you to have the time of your life. The prejudices and biases will all go away once you have learned to embrace your past no matter how painful it is.

Learn to laugh at yourself. This is about not taking yourself too seriously and enjoys life no matter how fierce and unfair it gets sometimes.� A person who sees the silver lining is always attractive and never fails to attract the right kind of love.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Infidelity- What�s True And What�s Not

Fri, 14 Jan 2011 09:37:50 +0800

Infidelity is indeed an intriguing subject to talk about. It is perhaps one topic that stirs the attention of people from all walks of life. We all know that infidelity is one of the oldest sins, but in spite of that, people and scholars cannot fathom it, this is what makes infidelity one of the most absorbing topics to talk about. Who would think that a successful man with a dashing model wife would cheat not just with one woman, but with different women. Then there’s this wife who lives in a mansion with her beautiful children, well provided for by her husband, would still consider cheating on him and eventually gave up her pampered life with a life on the road with her lover. Lastly, a public figure, a state man, well-respected and looked up to by his people, ran off with his mistress, leaving his loyalist disappointed, his career damaged, and his family broken, all in the name of infidelity.

With all these drama and surprises caused by infidelity, one can’t help� but ask, why do they so it? There are so many answers to that, here’s what’s true and what’s not about cheating. The truth about cheating.

Infidelity is all about the sex.

NOT!

There are different levels and connections involved in cheating. One of them is the emotional level, this is where the lovers share deep bond of connection, and this does not necessarily involved sex, but can eventually lead to one. Emotional infidelity happens when the lovers feel more understood and accepted in the affair than in their own relationship, thus making emotional infidelity a stronger threat to the marriage.

Hormones can affect cheating.

TRUE!

Studies show that women who have high levels of oestradiol have more chances to become an infidel. Oestradiol is an ovarian hormone that is associated with fertility. The woman with high levels of oestradiol feels attractive, can be more flirtatious, is open emotionally, and is more likely to have a serious extramarital affair. Moreover, high levels of oestradiol negatively affects women’s satisfaction with her long time partner, and have the tendency to look for more desirable partner. This does not mean that women with high levels of this hormone becomes promiscuous, these women become serial monogamist, rather than go for casual sex all the time.

People cheat because they are no longer in love with their partner.

NOT!

Studies have shown that people who cheat are very much in love with their spouses. Most affairs begin because a person in the relationship does not feel happy at the moment, or is bored, or in in too much pressure, but this does not mean that the cheaters are not in love with their long time partner, as a matter of fact most cheaters cannot see themselves separated with their partners. The reason of the cheating isn’t falling out of love, it has to do with the issues in the relationship, such as the husband wanting an ego boost, or the wife is looking for more attention.

Cheaters cheat with younger, more beautiful people.

NOT!

The perfect example of this is Camilla Parker Bowles and Prince Charles. Infidels usually look for something that their partner doesn’t have, or what is lacking in the relationship.

Cheaters will always be cheaters

NOT!

�When� my first marriage ended in a divorce because I cheated, I made sure that I will make that same mistake in my second marriage, now that I am given a second chance...� says Tommy, a changed adulterer. �So once a cheater, always a cheater, this doesn’t really count as the truth, I would never cheat on my wife again...� he continues.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Are Your Sleeping With A Stranger?

Mon, 10 Jan 2011 06:55:28 +0800

Another year has come by, and with this, you cannot help but to assess certain things, like how you’ve done the previous year, in your career, your relationship with your friends, your growth as a person. You try to see if you have really grown, financially, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. From this you try to set new goals again for the new year, to get that promotion, to buy that car, to go to that country, to have that amount in your bank. It is human nature to yearn stability, but with today’s career- driven world, your romantic relationship hardly gets the attention it needs, and before you know it, you don’t really know the person you are sleeping with.

Here are some signs that you have not been giving the right attention to your marriage.

Your partner surprises you... and not in a romantic way. Before you finish each other sentences and you �just know� what you husband is all about. But lately, you are surprised with what he is up to or what he is all about.

What you need to do: Give each other a moment. Set time every day where you and your spouse can talk about what happened during the day. This could be during breakfast or dinner, or the time when you are getting to bed. Give at least an hour or two talking about what went through your day or his day.

You don’t know his friends or have any friend in common. All the while you thought he was hanging out with his childhood buddy, whatsisname, but lately, you found see strangers in your living room, and in the garage with your honey-bunch, then take this as a red- flag that you have not been giving your relationship the attention it needs.

What you need to do: Ask your partner to go out, hang out, grab some beer and bring his friends along, and your friends along. While it is also healthy that you give each other time apart, it is not good for your relationship to go around with different circles. See to it that you know who his friends are, and that he interacts with your friends, too. Having friends in common is healthy for your relationship.

Your talks are all about obligation, if not chores. This usually happens to long- term couples. This is where your partner has become your roommate or housemate, who has to split the bill and work load around the house.

What you need to do: while obligation and chores help the house running smoothly, it can also put your relationship on the rough spot when put this as the centre of your relationship. Relationships are not about chores and obligations, give time to nurture your partner’s emotions.

Your sex life has become stale, or is non- existent. This may creep you out, because you swore when your relationship was young that you will not become that couple who never had sex, but now, you see yourself being that couple, where sex has become a special- occasion chore, or that thing you need to do every Friday or Saturday night before the late� night weekend news comes on.

Aiming to be successful is great, but try to assess what comprises or defines success, because you might be heading the wrong way, and before you know it, you are losing the most valuable aspect in your life.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

New Year�s Relationship Resolutions Every Lovers Should Make

Fri, 31 Dec 2010 11:30:43 +0800

New Years resolution has a bad rap for being left unfulfilled; however, when you make a resolution as a couple, there is a possibility that it can be fruitful and can make your relationship better. This enumeration of resolutions for couple will guide you to start the New Year right, and keep the love burning all year long.

Do something philanthropic. During the holidays, everybody feels charitable and helpful. Many people volunteer for the homeless or give to the less fortunate, especially during Christmas and New Year. Nevertheless, these charitable institution and organizations need to have volunteer at other times of the year, too. So, why not decide to include volunteer work once a week with you and your sweetie. The generosity you do for others will come back to your relationship a hundred folds!

Make intimacy a priority. When the relationship gets older, usually the intimacy wanes, make your relationship an exception by making this a priority by giving it a moment. When you give time to your intimacy, you get to update each other’s needs, thus making your relationship grow and meaningful through time.

Stop the power play. Power play is present in almost all couples. You can put an end to this by, one, stop squabbling over petty things, two, not keeping score, and three, keeping a sense of humor.� When the man of your forget to put the toilet seat down again, just laugh it off. There are some things not worth fighting over.

Learn to fight fair. As a segue way to the above mentioned, conflicts and arguments are normal to every relationship, as a matter of fact, it’s healthy, if you know how to do it right. Fight fair, by not putting all the blame to your partner, practice accountability, and taking a break when you are in a heated situation.

Get rid of multitasking. When 2010 is the year of multitasking, well, multitasking needs to go with 2010. This New Year, when you are on a date with your honey turn the cellphone or anything that bleeps and buzzes. Yes, you may be capable of handling two, three things at a time, but you are sending a message to your loved one that they are not worth the undivided attention.

Be friends with your partner. This means that you treat your lover the way you treat your friends. Most often than not, we tend to take our lovers for granted, and not treat them as well as they deserve. We usually think that they are in it for the long haul, but when we are stressed out, they take much of the beating. It’s time to reflect, if there are things you do or say to your lover that wouldn’t do to your best friend, and when you realize that there are, it time time to adjust your behaviour appropriately.

Have fun! Give time to laugh, party, and travel. Just do crazy things together like, talk in funny voices, or run around the house, and have pillow fights. Do something that can break the old boring routine of workday life.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

New Year�s Relationship Resolution: Fighting Right, Fighting Fair

Sun, 26 Dec 2010 21:24:09 +0800

Arguing, fighting, quarrelling, disagreeing... no matter what you call it this is a part of every relationship. Conflict is a way of communicating, if you do it right it can make your relationship grow. However, when you go beyond the line, it can break your relationship in an instant. Going beyond the borderline when fighting depends on the words that come out of your mouth, it can aggravate your conflict or it can make you both understand the problem and work together to solve the issues.

When you are committed to make things tight and right for your relationship this coming year, here are some suggestions on how to fight right, and how to fight fair.

�I can see where I went wrong in this...� Nothing cools down the heat more than admitting your share of the conflict. When you admit that you had something to do with the issue, helps the heated argument from escalating in which case, nobody really wins. Keep in mind that the fastest way to a no- resolution conflict is putting all the blame on your partner.

�I love you and I don’t want us say something that we will regret later...� Saying this would surely make you the higher person in the relationship. That’s because in spite of the chaotic and confusing arguing, you can still see logic and become aware of what really matters.

�Wait let me breathe for a while...� When you are both in a verbal smackdown, air is constricted and all you see is red! When this happens you can lose control and would say something that would definitely hurt you and your partner. Lucky for you if you can redeem yourself, but if what you said hit the main nerve, then you need more than luck to make things right again. Therefore, for your own good, take a break, breathe, count to ten, and see your conflict in a bigger picture.

�What hurts you, hurts me, too...� this magic word spells fighting fair and fighting right. In an instant, this can change the dynamics of your fighting from you vs him, to us vs the problem. This shows that you are excluding the deed to the person, thus making it easy for both of you to compromise and find a solution to your problem. Since, this act makes you realize that you are on the same side, it can make your more confident about your relationship, thus making you surpass any problem with ease and with great lessons.

�You don’t need to do something, just listen...� Women talk to feel good, while men talk to solve something. This usually creates a conflict, because when a woman talk about her frustrations, the man would become frustrated because he wants to do something about his woman’s frustrations. Then the woman would think that the man is telling her what to do. From this trivial misunderstanding, strings of hurtful words can develop. However, when you say these enlightening words, both of you can see eye to eye.

Whenever, your partner attempts to the conflict down, appreciate it and reciprocate it.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

How To Survive An Affair This Holiday Season

Sun, 19 Dec 2010 14:09:56 +0800

The Holiday season is a season of love and merriment, of forgiveness and togetherness, but for a cheated partner, the holiday season is a torturous moment. For how can you be able to fully enjoy the spirit of love and kindness when you discovered that the person you trusted with all your being betrayed you in so many levels, that not even you can fathom.

It is indeed very hard to cope with the betrayal, especially this Holiday season when you have so many expectations to take pleasure in each other’s company. How can you even stomach of giving your cheating spouse a Holiday gift? How can you give love when you are overwhelmed with anger and bitterness?

You can still survive an affair this holiday season, just follow these steps.

For the cheating partner:

You need to stop the affair once and for all. This means that you should stop any forms of communication. If this means changing your number and deactivating your email account. When your lover tries to contact you for closure or goodbyes, or whatever �important� reasons, you should ignore it, and tell your spouse any encounter you had with you lover before your spouse asked about it. When you are in the same work place with your lover, keep your distance, and if you can afford it, look for another job

Don’t leave any details behind. This means that you need to answer all questions your spouse asked you. Your spouse and your marriage can heal relatively faster when you supply all details to your spouse. When you reveal everything to your spouse, there will be hasty reactions in the beginning, but in the end, when you have been honest about the details of your affair, you and your cheated spouse will eventually feel better emotionally and reconcile faster than those who still keep shady information.

Don’t blame the spouse for your cheating. This is all about taking responsibility. Blaming your spouse won’t repair your marriage. Show total regret and remorse of your actions. Apologize, and vow to never, ever commit an extramarital affair again.

Don’t expect an easy way out. Your partner is hurt, and only your partner has the say on when you will be forgiven.

For the cheated partner:

Ask many questions. Asking a lot of questions can help you with the pain. Initially, you would ask about the details of the affair like, how did they meet, how did it happened, how many times they did it, how much money was spent, who else knows about the affair. Then later on, your questions will shift on the �why’s,� like, �why did he do it,� and questions related on why your partner was pushed into having an affair. This would eventually make you discover the weaknesses in your marriage.

Watch out for you rage. Sometime you can’t help but to scream and lash out to your unfaithful partner, however, you need to keep in mind that big emotions may prevent your cheating partner to make full disclosure which can lead to full recovery. When you want to get the truth, hard as it may be, but you need to be compassionate with your cheating partner’s emotion.

Don’t force yourself to forgive. The holiday season can sometimes pressure you to forgive even if you are not ready, this would boomerang on you, you must tackle your pain and anger before you want to rebuild the trust.

Look for support. Support is important, call a trusted friend, a family member that wouldn’t judge you or even your cheating partner. Finding support can help you when you feel isolated.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

How To Survive The Holiday Heartache

Wed, 8 Dec 2010 20:37:12 +0800

Christmas, the spirit of love and compassion, the time where people can’t wait to give each other warm hugs and loving smiles. New lovers are busy shopping Christmas gifts for each other. This is the moment where couples go an extra mile to show their love and affection. Holiday season is indeed the favourite season of lovers all over the world. However, it’s quite the contrary to the brokenhearted people, where the feeling of loneliness and resentment can cloud the spirit of giving and forgiveness. For a brokenhearted person, the Holiday season is indeed very difficult to endure. The feeling of nostalgia can be overwhelming and crippling.

A breakup during the Holiday season is indeed one example of a lousy timing. It’s like being left alone in an island in the middle of nowhere. But you know what, it doesn’t have to be that way, you don’t need to suffer this season. There is a way not to miss out this Holiday season.

Here are some tips on how to survive Holidays heartaches, and maybe even get a dose of your own holiday cheer.

Get out of town. What’s the best way to get away from it all? Get out of town, of course! There is no perfect way to refresh you broken heart than to go someplace else where you can get a break from your breakup. So grab your best pal and take a short trip to a place that doesn’t hold any memory of your ex.

Do acts of kindness. It has been proven that nothing can heal a broken heart faster than kindness, no, not to your ex, but to yourself and others. Since the Holiday season is the spirit of giving, why not do some altruistic deed to the less fortunate. Turn your attention to those who are in need. Why not visit a nursing home, or help serve the homeless, or read some stories, and share a laugh, or give a toy or two at the children’s cancer patient hospital? This will not only give you a new positive perspective, but you are also making a difference in someone else’s life. Being kind to others is being kind to yourself. This is what you need this Holiday season.

Pamper yourself with presents. Nobody deserve a wonderful present that yourself. This time don’t be guilty to give yourself something fancy. Self-gifting is the best way to cheer you up this Holiday season, so start making your list and checking it twice!

Create a vision board. The New Year is around the corner, and nothing can be more perfect than to start the New Year right by making a vision board of how you want your life to be. It’s time to surf the web, go through magazine, print or cut out some pictures, and words and begin creating the fabulous new you in your vision board. Be sure to mount it somewhere visible.

Throw a fabulous singles party! Instead of drowning on self- pity, turn the mood around by celebrating your singlehood! Throw a party with all your singles friends only and rock the night away! Who knows you might meet something that can walk you through the New Year’s Eve and the whole year through.� About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Watch Out! You Might Be Heading To A Sexless Marriage

Sat, 4 Dec 2010 23:15:52 +0800

Who wants a sexless marriage? Please raise your hand!

I am sure that you are keeping your hand down and maybe even keeping your fingers tightly crossed at the same time, because you know that having a sexless marriage would be hell on earth. It is human nature to want sex, especially if you are married. It is not everything, but it is a part of your togetherness. It plays a very important role in your relationship. A fulfilling sex life can make your relationship worthwhile even faced with its inevitable issues, on the other hand, a non-existent sex-life can have a �mountain-out-of-a-molehill� effect. When there is no love making in the your togetherness, you will see the tiniest cracks and crevices of your relationship,you will tend to magnify it and before you know it, your relationship is crumbling into pieces. A sexless marriage is like a black hole that sucks the life out of you and your relationship. With sexless marriage, strings of unfortunate events can occur; one of them is infidelity, all sorts of them- financial infidelity, physical infidelity, emotional infidelity and yes, a full-blown second relationship, which can lead to divorce. I am sure that you do not want this to happened in your much treasured- family.

Now, you may not be aware of it, but you might be doing something that might lead to a sexless marriage. How to prevent sexless marriage is about being conscious of what you are doing in your relationship, especially sex-related issues. Here are some things that you might be doing that are gradually paving the way to marriage without the privilege.

You treat love making as a duty. When you begin to view lovemaking as an obligation, the way you view washing the dishes, or doing the laundry, then you are gradually heading to a sexless marriage. Nobody washes the dishes with passion, or does the laundry with adoration, don’t treat making love as such.

You make it as a routine. When you make love every Friday and Saturday after your late night show, then you are heading to a sexless marriage. You sex-life runs like clock works. When there is no more spontaneity, you are slowly killing the fire of passion in your relationship.

You need a wine boost to get you in the mood. Now, when you notice that you cannot get in the mood without a few glasses of wine, scotch, or beer, or all of the above,then you need to reflect on what’s bothering you in your relationship and have a sit down session in order to save your love making session.

You only show affection when you want to get some. You know what I mean, you would only kiss, hold your partner’s hand or cuddle when you want to do the deed. Keep on doing this act� and for sure your partner will get tired of you in no time, and before you know it, you are sleeping with a huge gap in between.

You criticise you partner’s performance. If you think that it will lead to improving your sex-life, well you are dead wrong! Never criticise acts of affection if you want to keep it coming.� About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Intercourse Positions That Can Make You Closer

Sat, 27 Nov 2010 17:11:52 +0800

Sex, some say it is a necessity, just like eating and drinking, a physiological need. On the other hand, some say it is a luxury, an option. You can live without doing it. However, for couples, especially married couples, it is a requirement. It is a form of communication, a form of sharing intimacy and warmth. Couples have sex to express their love and make their bond stronger. But for a certain period of time, sex can get boring, especially when it becomes a routine, where couples do it for the sake of releasing the tension. At this point, making love becomes just like any other mundane activities, no longer an expression of love and affection.

When making love becomes unfeeling, it disconnects the couples. It leaves a void to the people involved. The relationship becomes lonely, the romance goes out the window, and then the couple becomes vulnerable to outside temptation, from this, an epic of relationship problems can occur... and you don’t want this to happened in your relationship.

When your relationship becomes stale, the sex life becomes bland and meaningless, and the romance level is down the drain, it’s time to try these intercourse positions that can make you closer and makes your relationship feel like brand new. Yes, there are certain sex positions that can deliver top- level of emotional intimacy. These intercourse positions could give you and your lover the experience that is far beyond your sensory understanding, improving the bonding of your encounters and filling you with emotional significance. The caressing, the kissing, the eye contact, the touching, the feeling... these are emotional complements on your physical experience, and these are the intercourse position that can do that.

The first intercourse position that improves intimacy is where you lie on your back at the edge of the bed or a surface. Then put your legs on your man’s shoulders. In this position, both of you have the control--- your man controls the movement, and you, using your legs to control the thrusting, you can push him back a little or slow him down, or you can let him lean all the way towards you, making your feel the heaviness of each other’s breathing.

The next intercourse position that improves intimacy is where you have your man seated with legs extended, and leaning back on his arms. Then you sit on top, facing him. Next, you lean back and extend your legs behind him. This position will allow you to do slow, gentle movements. Making you both feel the act and enables you to watch each other and have deep eye contact.

The third intercourse position that improves intimacy is where your man sits on the a chair, and you would sit on top, facing him and stride him, with your feet on the floor, both of you have the luxury of being close face to face and have the opportunity for sexy kisses, whispers, and free hands for sensual caressing.

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.