http://www.relazine.com/feed/ Relazine.com - Dating http://www.relazine.com/ Free tips and advice about having a successful relationship. From dating to friendship and marriage. Fri, 5 Feb 2010 07:31:09 +0100 Fri, 5 Feb 2010 07:31:09 +0100 Jazz Up Your Online Dating Profile And Get A Date This Valentine’s Day http://www.relazine.com/dating/How-to-write-an-online-dating-profile http://www.relazine.com/dating/How-to-write-an-online-dating-profile Valentine’s Day, a day for romantic dinners, slow dancing, exchanging of flowers, cards and loving endearments, punctuated with feelings of affection, romance, and admiration. But for millions of men and women out there, there is one thing that is preventing them from celebrating these special acts of love: a date. <br /><br />Being dateless this Heart’s Day can induce a feeling of loneliness and insecurity, especially if you are sentimental and a true believer of everlasting love. Good thing, there is a better and easy way to get a date this Valentine’s Day and that is through online dating. <br /><br />During this time, rest assured that hundreds of millions of single people out there are looking for a date online. The only way that you can stand- out and fish- out quality and potential mate is to jazz- up your online dating profile. <br /><br />How to write an online dating profile is not as hard as you think. Here are some great ideas on how to write a cool and captivating, worthy of a date online dating profile. <br /><br />1.    Set the mood. Before writing your online dating profile, turn on your favorite music that can perk you up and make you feel good and confident. Along with that, set the mood by wearing a sexy outfit or t-shirt or anything that makes you feel awesome. These props will set you in your best elements which will help you make those claims in your dating account. <br /><br />2.    <a href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/dating/online-dating1&quot;title=&quot;Capturing The Perfect Profile Photo In Online Dating&quot;target=&quot;_blank&quot;>Post the perfect picture</a>. This may sound obvious, but if your potential mate likes what he sees, he will read the profile and respond to your ad. The e-book,<a title=&quot;WANTED:MR.RIGHT&quot; href=&quot;http://www.wantedmrright.com/&quot;>Wanted: Mr. Right</a> will teach how to make or choose the perfect profile picture. <br /><br />3.    Subtlety is the key. When you are writing your description in your online dating profile, learn the act of subtlety. Avoid overselling your appearance by making grandiose and dubious claims like, “Megan Fox look a like.” My friend got herself a husband through online dating by soft selling, my friend wrote in her account, “Curvy, blue- eyed banker, fit with great shoulders.” <br /><br />4.    Demonstrate your personality. Instead of bragging your personality in your online dating profile, demonstrate it. If you create a persona, your account will stand- out. It will present uniqueness and wit. Instead of claiming that you are funny, well- educated, sympathetic and caring, demonstrate it in your profile. Try an ad by putting on your favorite quote from a movie or book. Be specific and surprising. <br /><br />5.    Avoid personal ad cliché. Seriously, if you can be unique and different, do it. Don’t “I like fine dining…” when you love having backyard barbecue and a beer.  <br /><br />6.    Include standard information. In writing your online dating profile, include your occupation, age, whether you have kids or not, whether you want a date of a life time partner.<br /><br />7.    Don’t lie about anything. Some women tend to lie or deny their age, it is usually not a good idea. When you are 45 but look 33, say so… but if you are not comfortable about your age, the least that you can do is to be vague about it, you can put- “mid- 30’s- early 40’s.” <br /><br />8.    Go easy on the qualities. In writing an online dating profile, it’s better to cast a wide net… indicating very specific qualities may put you in a long waiting list. My friend snag herself a fiancé by requesting a man who is “financially stable, loves comedy movies, can make me laugh, can slow dance, and can read between the lines…”<br /><br />So there, you have it. Now click that edit button on your dating account and get yourself a date on Valentine’s Day. Good luck! About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Sat, 9 Jan 2010 09:52:59 +0100 Body Language Cues That Say She Likes You http://www.relazine.com/dating/signs-a-woman-likes-you1 http://www.relazine.com/dating/signs-a-woman-likes-you1 Women are truly fascinating creatures for most men. They are difficult to read and can be quite a challenge to fathom. And it becomes even more difficult for a man if he meets a woman he really likes. When something like this happens, you don’t want to miss or misread any cues that show some signs if a woman likes you or not. If you want to learn about certain body language that shows some signs a woman likes you, then sit down and take notes. Here are some signs that reveal she likes you.<br /><br /><ul><li>She can’t stop looking at you. Most women are not usually visual creatures, but when she makes you a focus of your attention and is rarely distracted, then it’s a good body language cue that she thinks your hot. So when she is glued on your face, follows your gestures, and focuses on some of your body parts, it a positive body language signs that she’s into you. Also take notice of her eyes, when a woman likes you, her internal system gives her away, because her eyes become dilated. This is an involuntary thing. This is her body’s way of telling you that her eyes are set on you.<br /></li></ul><ul><li>She smiles a lot. When you’re around, you notice that she grins a lot. It seems as if her whole face beams. Her body language says that she is relaxed and excited every time you are around. When you notice these kind of body language signs, stick around and spend more time being in her presence. <br /></li></ul><ul><li>She becomes self- conscious. This includes preening, like combing her hair to make sure that it’s in place, re- touching her make up to be sure it’s not messed- up, and smoothing out her clothes. The extra effort to look good is a sure body language sign that <a href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/singles/attracting-men&quot;title=&quot; Step Up! Attracting Men With Substance&quot;target=&quot;_blank&quot;>she wants to get your attention</a>.<br /></li></ul><ul><li>She flirts. She flips her hair and shows of her neck or shoulders. She puts her hair behind her ears and runs her finger in her neck while stealing glances. She may cross her leg and reveal much of her legs. These flirtatious body language moves are a sure fire signs that she wants you. And if you are in your good mind, this is the best time to do your move. </li></ul> About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Tue, 29 Dec 2009 06:48:07 +0100 Smooth Moves That Can Make A Guy Fall Harder For You http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-make-him-fall-in-love-with-you http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-make-him-fall-in-love-with-you Okay, so now you’re off the market. Hoorah! Finally, the guy that you have been <a href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-get-a-second-date.&quot; target=&quot;_blank&quot;><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-get-a-second-date.’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-get-a-second-date.’ target=’_blank’>dating for a couple of times</a></a></a> asked you to take your relationship to the next level. You are now officially a couple! It’s no question that the fondness for each other is there. But the new goal now is how to make him fall in love with you. If you want to make your new beau fall madly and deeply in love with you, then you better do these smooth moves that will surely make his heart melt. <br /><ul><li>Touch his hand or give a smack during fun times. A small gesture, but this is one of the smooth moves that can make him go crazy over you. Do this romantic act every time there is something new and exhilarating going on. Rest assured, in no time, he will relate your touches and caresses with the good moments. This isn’t really hard to do, since new relationships are usually filled with fun and exciting times, make the most out of this moment. This is the perfect opportunity to create a beautiful foundation for your budding love affair.</li></ul><ul><li>When he’s driving, rub or slowly massage the back of his neck to make him feel connected to you. This is one of the smooth moves that your new guy will surely appreciate, especially if he’s taking a long drive or tired from work. Subconsciously, he will see you as someone who is kind and sensitive to his needs, an absolute way to really make him love you more.<br /></li></ul><ul><li>When walking side by side, wrap your arms around his waist, this will show you’re in sync and reveals that you have no inhibitions about being demonstrative about your feelings.<br /></li></ul><ul><li>Don’t lose him in the crowd. When you are in a party, show him that you adore him by tilting or leaning your head a little that it touches his shoulder. This is one of the smooth moves that will make him feel special and loved.<br /></li></ul>These interesting relationship tips on smooth moves are some of the few suggestions I got from this spectacular e-book <a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’>Wanted: Mr. Right</a></a>. In the e-book, there are hundreds of effective ways on how to captivate your potential mate. If you are one of those women who want a real relationship, then <a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’>Wanted: Mr. Right</a></a> is the e-book made for you.  About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Wed, 23 Dec 2009 09:29:45 +0100 Attention Single Ladies! Perfect Ways To Meet Your Perfect Man http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-find-the-perfect-man http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-find-the-perfect-man With all the parties going on here and there, there is no other perfect opportunity to meet your perfect man than this holiday season. And if one of your goal this year is to be with your perfect man, then you better start strutting your stuff, because the year is about to end. If you don’t know where to start looking, then here are some ideas to get you blasting off to world of romance. Here are some great ways on how to find the perfect man. <br /><ul><li> Attending private parties. This is the peak season for private parties, so don’t pass anything up. Your perfect man might be waiting for you to revel up the Holiday season.<br /></li></ul><ul><li>Host your own party. With the Holiday season, you have all the excuses to host your own party everyday. But if you decide to host one big Christmas party, and have your own slice of the goodies, then you better emphasize to your guests to bring someone along whom they think is the perfect man for you. Tell your guests that this is one of the Christmas games in the party, and the guest who brought the yummiest man of all wins a prize! Another idea I got in this spectacular e-book, “<a target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://www.wantedmrright.com/&quot;><a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’>Wanted: Mr. Right</a></a></a>”, about hosting your own party is to tell your friends or guests to bring a single guy they are not romantically interested in. Who knows? Another woman’s trash is another woman’s treasure, right? <br /></li></ul><ul><li>Have an intimate dinner party good for 3-4 people. Ask 2 of your closest friends to bring an acquaintance that you don’t know. Unlike big parties with lots of people to attend to, hosting a small dinner party will give an opportunity to get to know your guests better. Giving you a better chance in meeting your perfect man. <br /></li></ul><ul><li>Attend family gatherings. I know that you would be dragging your feet in going to one of these gatherings, but if you don’t want to lose any opportunity in meeting your perfect man, then better starting revving up those feet and attend your cousin’s wedding or your annual Christmas party. Who knows? Maybe your cousin Albert brought a potential mate.<br /></li></ul><ul><li>Attend to school reunions. Oh boy, I know going to school reunions can be a &quot;Twilight Zone experience&quot;, but think of it this way, maybe that nerdy classmate of yours in science class is not so nerdy anymore, or that hunk you have been drooling over since forever may grow a special interest in you now that you are more mature and confident. It really doesn’t hurt to try. <br /></li></ul>There are a hundred ways to meet your perfect man, and you can have all the information and great ideas in “<a target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://www.wantedmrright.com/&quot;><a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’>Wanted: Mr. Right</a></a></a>,” but these ideas are useless, unless you make that decision to go out there! So don’t pass up the chance to be with your perfect man before the year ends. Go and get out there and be in love. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Wed, 23 Dec 2009 08:33:04 +0100 Signs You Are Up And Ready To Date http://www.relazine.com/dating/dating-advice-for-women http://www.relazine.com/dating/dating-advice-for-women Have you ever wondered why single women out there date and go out regularly to find their perfect man, but always end up complaining and whining about how futile their efforts are? Well here’s a very important piece of <a href=’http://www.relazine.com/singles/dating-scene’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/singles/dating-scene’ target=’_blank’>dating advice</a></a> for women- never date unless you are prepared. Getting ready to date is not about wearing the right dress that matches your shoes and purse. Dating is all about being mentally and emotionally prepared. If you are determined to find your <a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.wantedmrright.com/’ target=’_blank’>Mr. Right</a></a>, then you have to get yourself geared- up and be prepared for the good and bad consequences. To help you out, here are some signs that you are ready to date. <br /><ul><li>You believe that optimism plays a vital role in the dating field. Being bitter and negative will open doors for rejection.</li><li>Even if some situation didn’t turn out well, you are determined to have a good time and make the most out of the situation. </li><li>You know and believe that you are going to meet awesome and wonderful men.</li><li>You believe that dating is fun.</li><li>You are aware of individual differences and respect each person’s oddness.</li><li>You are willing to look at the person skin deep. Yes, he may be bald or has the weirdest laugh you ever heard, but still you consider how chivalrous and sensible he is. </li><li>You are ready to date when have totally moved on from your past relationship and you no longer curse and hex your ex.</li><li>You no longer feel sorry about your failed relationship. </li><li>You can honestly say to yourself that you are ready to love and be loved. </li><li>You are mature enough to take the responsibilities of your actions. No blaming, no justifying.</li><li>You don’t expect any man to complete you.</li><li>You have a clear view of your limitations.</li><li>You are aware that it’s no one’s job to make you happy.</li><li>You know you are ready to date when you are not afraid to reject and get rejected.</li><li>You know you are ready to date when you are ready to move on from a bad rendezvous, without taking it out on yourself. <br /></li></ul>When you decide to go out there and expect fruitful results, then you better have the right attitude for it. If you are going out with loads of negativity inside you, you will end up as somebody’s worst date. And we don’t want that. Remember, your thoughts dictate your actions. So get your act together and be the sought after woman in town! About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Fri, 11 Dec 2009 02:56:40 +0100 Do You Want To Crank- Up Your Love Life? Then Be The Life Of The Party http://www.relazine.com/dating/life-of-the-party http://www.relazine.com/dating/life-of-the-party If you are single and you want to crank- up your love life, then this Holiday season is the perfect opportunity to do that. With all the parties going on here and there, you can definitely do your thing, meet people and improve your love life. Yes, being the life of the party can have a direct effect in improving your love life, if you know how to do it well…<br />Here are some tips on how to be the life of the party and <a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/dating-women’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/dating-women’ target=’_blank’>perk up your love life</a></a>, all at the same time.  <br /><ol><li>Be sure you look good and smell great! Wear something classy, not trashy. This is one way of getting the opposite sex’s attention. A lot can happen in a party when there’s booze, music, and mistletoes. So be sure you smell good when you bumped in to someone under the mistletoe.</li><li>Keep your posture in check. Stand up straight, chin up and shoulders level. Don’t slouch or stride. A good posture conveys confidence. And self- confidence is very attractive. If you have to fake it, then fake it, nobody can tell. It gets better with practice. </li><li>Flash a sincere smile. A smile can go for a mile. It can break any barrier and is the easiest and effective pick- up gesture. There are so many people out there who can testify that by making smiling a habit, their love life improved. </li><li>Make eye contact. Making eye contact is one indication that you are sincere and interested. It also indicates that you are confident and self- assured. Just be sure that you don’t stare dead at the person. A successful eye contact is between 4-6 seconds followed by a great smile. Now, that’s <a href=’http://www.relazine.com/singles/the-art-of-flirting’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/singles/the-art-of-flirting’ target=’_blank’>flirting 101 for you</a></a>.</li><li>Give a genuine compliment. Say something nice to every person you meet in the party, but make sure that they are genuine compliments, some people can detect a phony one. A compliment is a great way to begin a conversation, and when you do begin one, find out some thing interesting about them. People love it when you talk about them, so it goes without saying that this is the perfect strategy if you want make a good impression and enrich your love life.  </li><li>Walk around and circulate. Don’t end up alone in one room with one person. Don’t get trapped with the same group of people for more than ten minutes. Excuse yourself and meet other people. Use advice 3, 4, and 5 to meet other people. </li><li>Introduce people you meet with each other. This gives you the impression as the popular character in the party. A definite plus points if you want to enhance your love life. </li><li>Keep yourself updated. It helps if you know the latest technology or news or any happenings. A witty joke or funny story can also come in handy. Just be sure that your jokes are for general patronage.</li><li>Avoid the “Me, Myself, and I” discussion. Remember advice number 5. Also avoid discussing about money, politics and religion.</li><li>Don’t make a fool of yourself. Don’t drink too much to the point where you cannot control your coordination and starting to lose your inhibitions. </li></ol> About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Wed, 11 Nov 2009 09:16:05 +0100 The X-files: What To Do When You Meet Your Former Boyfriend http://www.relazine.com/dating/winning-your-ex-back http://www.relazine.com/dating/winning-your-ex-back Everyone has a worst nightmare. For some, its bathing suit season, for others, its knowing that their birth certificate can never be legally destroyed, and for the rest, it’s meeting THE FORMER BOYFRIEND and making a total fool of themselves.  For those who can relate, I believe that each and every one of us has that ONE former boyfriend. We may have other ex boyfriends, but this ONE former boyfriend totally belongs to the higher category of ex- boyfriends. You may move one, fall in love, get married and have kids, but this person’s memory still resides in the back of your sub-conscious. This person has become an integral part of who you are. That is why meeting THE FORMER BOYFRIEND can be a nerve-wracking experience. You can’t help but be totally self- conscious about everything and completely lost your bearing on the process. So, if you want to keep that cool composure, here are some of the tips that can help you survive that nail- biting reunion. In meeting THE FORMER BOYFRIEND, keep these tips in mind.<br /><ul><li>If you ran into him by accident, be yourself. It’s okay to let him see your “surprise look”. Just smile, give your pleasantries, then leave.</li><li>If you know that you will be seeing him, then be sure that you look presentable. Wear clothes that compliment you figure. Don’t wear something that will make your former boyfriend question your day job.</li><li>Relax. Breath. This can help you calm down if you are nervous, excited or both.</li><li>Greet him with a friendly hug (if your guts can take it), this shows that you are not that affected with his presence anymore. This can calm both of you and eradicate that uncomfortable tension.</li><li>If it’s your first meeting and you have no intentions of winning your ex back, I suggest that you should meet in a very casual place, like a coffee shop. Meeting in a place conducive for romance, might make both of you awkward. </li><li>Talk about the good things. If you went to the same college together, then you can talk about your college days, or you can ask about his work, best friend or family.</li><li>It’s alright to talk about certain scenarios about your history, granting that both of you are entirely over with each other. Just be sure that you bring- up the pleasant and amusing part of your past.</li><li>Never talk about how you broke- up or bring up his past mistakes, this is the worst thing that you can do.</li><li>Never flirt with other guys to make him jealous. This will only make him feel thankful that he is not with you anymore.</li><li>Don’t over think. Be natural. Be candid. Try to have a great time.</li></ul>If you think that you are <a href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/readiness/how-to-move-on&quot; target=&quot;_blank&quot;></a><a target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/readiness/how-to-move-on&quot;></a><a target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/readiness/how-to-move-on&quot;><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/readiness/how-to-move-on’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/readiness/how-to-move-on’ target=’_blank’>not over your former boyfriend</a></a></a> and doing the above mentioned tips is unimaginable for you, then don’t do it. For instance, if you are in one occasion, you can just say “Hi!” then excuse yourself. Don’t force yourself in to doing things that you are not ready. It can only hurt you more. On the other hand, if both of you are completely done and over with each other, then <a target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/friendship/staying-friends&quot;></a><a target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://www.relazine.com/friendship/staying-friends&quot;><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/friendship/staying-friends’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/friendship/staying-friends’ target=’_blank’>friendship can be something to consider</a></a></a>, but if you are committed and if you think that your present partner would mind, then forget it. No matter how good it feels to be with your former boyfriend, it’s not worth messing your present with your past. <br /><br /> About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Fri, 6 Nov 2009 09:30:27 +0100 Dating Survival Guide http://www.relazine.com/dating/safety-tips-for-dating http://www.relazine.com/dating/safety-tips-for-dating Dating can be a total mine field; you have to tip- toe your way through it or else you can’t go back in one piece. Yes, in this time and age, going out on a date in a careless attitude can be dangerous. According to RAINN.org (rape, assault, incest, national network), 17.7 million American women have been a victim of an attempted rape or a completed rape, that’s 1 out of 6 women, a figure not to be taken lightly. Before you decide to go dating, you have to be wary on how to date safely. That’s why you have to keep these safety tips for dating in mind. <br /><ol><li>If you meet him in an internet dating service, don’t disclose your complete name, phone number, or home address.</li><li>If it’s your first meeting, meet in a public place. If you are both open with the idea, try group dating. This way your friends can get to know him and size him up.</li><li>Never ever meet him in an isolated situation, like in his home or apartment.</li><li>Never let him pick you up in your home or your work place, or tell him where you live or where you work. </li><li>Tell someone you trust about your whereabouts. </li><li>Tell a trusted friend about your date’s information, like his phone number, address or photo. </li><li>Bring your own car. This advice goes for everybody, whatever your age is or status in life, you should never get in to a stranger’s car. </li><li>Carry a full charged cellphone with you at all times and choose a place where there is a sufficient signal for your cellphone.</li><li>Be careful what you reveal about your personal information. Don’t brag about financial assets or personal wealth.</li><li>No matter how tempting, if you hardly know the guy you are with, avoid alcoholic beverages.  </li><li>If you decide to attend a private party, be sure to see how your drinks are prepared. Never leave your drink on the table unattended.  </li><li>Dating can be exciting, but be wary of your emotions. Don’t get too overwhelmed with enthusiasm. Don’t trust someone too soon, it’s better to be on the side of caution.</li><li>Be sure you are dating a single guy. Look out for any signs that he is hiding something, such as reluctance to ask you out on a weekend, even if you know that he is only working on weekdays. He doesn’t want you to call him at home. And look out for a tan line where a wedding band is usually worn. </li><li>If you decide to take your dating on a sexual level, ask for protection. It’s your right!</li><li>You also have the right to ask for a blood test and show you the result, if you have any suspicions that he might be an HIV positive or have any kind of STD. <br /></li></ol>In dating, the best thing that you can do is to trust your instinct. We, women have a gift for it. So, if you can’t shake off that “uneasy” feeling when you are with your date, then get out. It’s better to be safe than sorry.  <br /> About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Fri, 6 Nov 2009 06:55:07 +0100 Blind Date Tips: What To Do When Someone Fixes You Up http://www.relazine.com/dating/tips-for-blind-dates http://www.relazine.com/dating/tips-for-blind-dates It’s really nice to have <a href=’http://www.relazine.com/friendship/best-friend’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/friendship/best-friend’ target=’_blank’>great friends</a></a>; they hug you when you feel bad, bring you chicken soup when you are sick, and when you’re lonely, they set you up with someone. This thoughtful act of being set up on a date can be sweet, but it can also be stressful. Here are some tips for blind dates when someone fixes you up you up with someone. <br /><ul><li>Be grateful, but agree only to go for it when you really want to. Never, ever go out with someone when you are not up to it. You will only end-up making a bad impression and embarrassing your friend for recommending you. One of the blind date tips to keep in mind, don’t do it just to please a friend or a relative. <br /></li><li>Have a good time. Even if you know that nothing is ever going to happen between the two of you, try to have a good time. Who knows, he might turn out be a good friend or a business partner or he may have a yummy brother, cousin or friend that he can introduce you to. This is one of the blind date tips that can help you get by the awkward situation. <br /></li><li>Suggest a <a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/double-date’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/double-date’ target=’_blank’>double or a group date</a></a>. When you are too stressed out with the idea of going out with someone you don’t know anything about, this can be one of the wisest blind date tips to do. <br /></li><li>Never offer an alternative. When you know in your heart that there is no chemistry or rapport, never try to offer an alternative, like suggesting another person for him to go out with. You might mean well, but he might see it as an insult.</li><li>Whatever the result of your rendezvous is, thank your friend for his or her effort on your behalf. It’s not difficult to be grateful when everything went well, but when it was one of history’s dating disaster; it can be quite hard to be thankful. Nevertheless, you have to show gratitude to your friend who set you up.</li></ul>The next time someone fixes you up with someone, I hope these blind date tips can be of full use.  About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Wed, 28 Oct 2009 07:14:14 +0100 Halloween Hot Moves To Get A Date http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-get-a-date http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-get-a-date Worrying how to get a date this Halloween season? Well, worry no more, this is a perfect time to use some hot moves to get a date. And here are some cheesy but reliable hot moves that can get you some lovin’ for the rest of the season. You have to choose carefully, these Halloween hot moves really work<br /><ul><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>Hit him with the Halloween Drunk Punch!</span> This hot move is not for 18 years old and below and for those people who are driving home. I don’t advocate alcohol drinking or intoxication to get your way to that cute guy in a vampire costume, but a little sip of your Halloween concoction will sure make him a little more friendly and welcoming than usual. </li></ul><ul><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>The sexy ensemble.</span> This season is the perfect excuse to wear that Moulin Rouge outfit and say “voulez-vous coucher avec moi ce soir” to that sexy guy in a Batman suit. A little bold, but hey, the line comes with the costume! </li></ul><ul><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>The scary movie make- out</span>. This is one of the hot moves that really work! If you are too busy to get yourself into a Halloween costume, then you can have the option to submit yourself and you potential mate to a scary movie marathon and up your dating scale to another level. Pop in the “Texas Chainsaw Massacre” and be sure to set the whole ambiance- dim lights, comfortable couch and pop-corns. The whole thing only works when you move an inch closer to him and when you get “nervous”…. well, you know what to do.</li></ul><ul><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>Playing “house” in the Haunted house</span>. The deal here is “positioning.” When you are going inside the haunted house be sure to position yourself behind your target male prospect or your potential mate, and when scary creatures pop-out inside the dark and scary house, you can “nervously” stumble and fumble with him. And after all that actions, you can “coyly” apologize and make it up to him with a bite of pizza. </li></ul>There you have it, my frisky minions. Enjoy the hot moves and Happy Halloween!<br /><br /> About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Fri, 9 Oct 2009 09:01:15 +0200 Possible Reasons Why Men Don't Call Back After A Date http://www.relazine.com/dating/Why-dont-men-call-back http://www.relazine.com/dating/Why-dont-men-call-back When you’re young your entire life is about the pursuit of fun. Then, you grow up and learn to be cautious; you might break a bone or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don’t leap at all, because there isn’t always someone to catch you. And in life, expect that there is no safety net. When did it end being fun and start being scary?<br />I guess, it all begun when you had experienced that unpleasant feeling of not having a man call you, after what you thought was an <a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/first-date’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/first-date’ target=’_blank’>awesome date</a></a>. Don’t you just hate it? <a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/waiting’ target=’_blank’><a href=’http://www.relazine.com/dating/waiting’ target=’_blank’>Waiting beside the phone</a></a>, checking if the dial tone works or not, double checking if the mobile phone has enough good reception to receive any calls or text messages. I do. I really hate it.<br />I had my fair share of this unpleasant experience. I bet a lot of women out there also detest waiting on the phone, helplessly, wondering “why hadn’t he called-up yet? Is he dead? What did I do wrong? Is something wrong with me? Am I not pretty enough?”<br />It is such a big hit in the ego that majority of women take a step back from dating and start cursing men. <br /> I know how it feels. So, I took the liberty of asking as many male friends as I can the question- “Why dont men call back women after a date?” I had tons of interesting answers. And since they came from a male perspective, it’s best that, we, women might try to keep an open mind with this one. Men don’t call back because...<br /><ul><li><span style=&quot;font-style: italic;&quot;>You look nothing like your profile picture picture</span>. This applies if you met each other in an online dating service. He doesn’t mean to be shallow, so he explained his perspective- &quot;if I was sitting at the next table in a coffee shop with you and we made eye contact and you’re not physically attracted to me, would you be inclined to make a conversation with me and give me your phone number? It’s the same concept. It works both ways.&quot;</li><li><span style=&quot;font-style: italic;&quot;>You cannot stop talking on your mobile phone</span>. For men, there is nothing ruder than answering your mobile phone and talking to your girlfriend while on a date.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-style: italic;&quot;>He is confused if he should ask you what to eat for dinner or your hourly rate</span>. By nature, me love eye candy. But if you are wearing a top that makes your nipple about to to pop out and you’re in an ultra-skimpy skirt and you’re flirting (prolonged eye contact) with any guy that passes by, then he is not going to call you back, especially if he is looking for a serious relationship.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-style: italic;&quot;>He saw perceivable signs that you are not interested</span>. Men are terrified with rejections. They’d rather not call you back than risk being turned down.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-style: italic;&quot;>He is not that into you</span>. The most direct answer why he doesn’t call back. If a man is truly interested, there will no excuses, no bullshits- he will call you back and ask you out again within the period of 72 hours.</li></ul>So there you have it, ladies, coming from the horses’ mouth why they never call back. Before I leave you with your thoughts, let me give you my two cents. If a man doesn’t call back, forget about him! There are thousands of reasons (good and bad) why he didn’t call you back; there is no point of hurting your brains out about it! Get over it! There are way too may proverbial fishes in the ocean to be troubled by why a guy didn’t call you back.<br /><br /> About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Thu, 8 Oct 2009 05:21:52 +0200 Great Questions To Ask On A First Date http://www.relazine.com/dating/questions-to-ask-on-a-first-date http://www.relazine.com/dating/questions-to-ask-on-a-first-date Soul mate- two little words, one big concept- A belief that someone somewhere is holding the key to your heart and your dream house, all you have to do is find him. And once you do find him, you need to survive the ultimate test- the first date. Going out on a first date with someone who you think is your potential soul mate can be very intimidating and nerve wracking. You have to be calm enough to overcome your fears and insecurities. To survive your first date with flying colors, you have to say the right things and ask the right questions.These are essential factors if you want to avoid what every first dater’s greatest fear- the eerie, uncomfortable silence. So to help you out, here are some helpful guide questions to ask on a first date. These questions will not only make your rendezvous go smoothly, but will help you discover if he is truly the one you have been waiting for.<br /><ul><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>Tell me about your family and/ or best friend. </span>This is a perfect first date question. It will help you find out more about him and at the same time he will be flattered that you show so much interest to people he cares about.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What was your embarrassing moment?</span> It’s best that you share experiences, it creates a bond and can give both of you a laugh, relieving the tension in your first date.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What do you look for in a person?</span> This can help you find out how shallow or deep he is.</li><li> <span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What’s the biggest mistake you ever did on a first date?</span> Can be quite an ice- breaker, and you can wittingly have a follow-up question:</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>Do you think I am making any dating mistake right now?</span> I’m sure he will say you are doing fine even if you are not, but asking this question will make you candid and funny- a plus point.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>If you can have any job you want, what would it be?</span> This will help you discover what kind of dreams and aspirations he has or if he has any at all. <br /></li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What’s the most annoying thing that someone ever did to you?</span> This can reveal his likes and dislikes- an essential information to know.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What book or movie has a big impact on you?</span> This can reveal his culture, his taste, and his influences.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What kind of music do you love to listen to?</span> The kind of music a person listens to reveals his culture, his exposure, his taste, and his personality.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>If given the chance to write an autobiography- what would the title be? </span>This can reveal his views about life- a relevant information to know if you are thinking of having a relationship with the person.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>Have you ever experienced a broken heart?</span> A yes answer discloses humility; an angry answer discloses bitterness; a silent, almost tearful answer discloses he is not over it.</li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What do you think is the biggest mistake a person can do in a relationship? </span>Gives you an idea what he thinks about the opposite sex and his ideals about having a relationship.<br /></li><li><span style=&quot;font-weight: bold;&quot;>What kind of relationship are you looking for?</span> A perfect first date question. Once this is answered, everything is out there; you can now know what you’re getting yourself into.</li></ul>Just be sure that you add rapport and be casual about asking these questions. Don’t make it sound like a job interview. Be sure to listen and give appropriate attention to your date. And a little piece of advice- since it’s you first date, it’s normal for a guy or a girl to give the best answer, even if it is far from the truth. Nevertheless, just enjoy the moment. <br /> About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Mon, 7 Sep 2009 08:35:36 +0200 Blind Date Guidelines To Keep In Mind http://www.relazine.com/dating/what-to-do-on-a-blind-date http://www.relazine.com/dating/what-to-do-on-a-blind-date Blind dates can be exciting and unnerving at the same time. I’m sure you’ve heard or had your fair share of blind date horror stories. I remember this one time when I agreed for a blind date with my long-time chat mate Rudy. We met in this coffee shop, not far from my apartment. Everything was going perfectly well that night, when all of a sudden, a woman splashed a glass of water on Rudy’s face. She was angry, and ready to brawl. What is more, she was cursing and yelling at us. It turned out to be Rudy’s wife! Of course I was so embarrassed! My blind date was a two-faced lying jerk! Everybody was staring at us that night, even the passers by stopped to watch the drama. I was so humiliated. So, I made it clear to the Mrs. that I didn’t know he is married then I hurriedly went out of the place. To add insult to my humiliation, that night, when I was on my way to get my laundry, I bumped into Mrs. Frederick, the old lady who lives 3 doors away from me. “Are you okay, dear? I saw what happened this afternoon.” She said. “I’m alright Mrs. Frederick. Thank you.” I said. “Next time, you should know better before dating a married man!” She finished off almost scorning. She turned her back before I could explain myself. It took me awhile to accept anymore blind dates after. Learning from my experience, here are some important guidelines on what to do on a blind date. When going out with a stranger, you have to remember “Safety First”-- tell a trusted friend when and where you are going and who are you going out with. It’s also wise to suggest a public place on your first meeting and never forget to carry a fully charged cell phone in case of emergency. If possible suggest a double-date, it’s safer and can ease up the tension. Once you’ve got your safety measures covered, here are a few tips on where to go and what to do on a blind date. Avoid having dinner dates or movie dates; because if the rendezvous doesn’t go well, you are bound to get stuck with him the entire meal or the whole movie together. It’s best to go for coffee or a dessert after meal. You might also want to consider the expenses of the blind date. Practically speaking, going to a low- to- mid price range café is always advisable. And to liberate the pressure of who is paying the bill, offer to pay half. It’s also to avoid the feeling that you owe him something. Now that you are aware of the dos and don’ts, watch out for these things: A wedding ring is always a big “No-No”. You should also be observant for ring marks on the ring finger, if you notice the mark on the ring finger; don’t hesitate to ask about it. Bottom line is; you don’t have business dating these men because they only spell T-R-O-U-B-L-E! Lastly, be keen with his attitude. Watch out for these character traits: He treats you and/or the waiters rudely. He talks about nothing else but his past relationships, and he talks ill about his ex or his mother. The date hasn’t started yet but he is on his 3rd shot of scotch, or he pays more attention to his phone or the other women in the café. Most importantly, be aware of anti-social signs, abusive and/ or criminal behaviors. And when you decide to cut your blind date short, always have a valid excuse. No matter how the blind date went, be polite and thank the other person for the time spent with you. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Wed, 19 Aug 2009 05:11:56 +0200 Know What Makes Men Simply Irresistible http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-be-irresistible-to-women http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-be-irresistible-to-women There are boys and then there are men and then there are the alpha male that women just can’t get enough of. If you want to be in that category of simply irresistible men then take note of what I am about to tell you. Here are the most guarded secrets why some men are simply irresistible. First of all they have cool confidence. When I say cool confidence, they have this certain calmness and composure in them which give out a secure feeling to whoever they are with. Their aura radiates and encapsulates you with comfort and safety. What makes this character simply irresistible is because when you start to irk about a lot of things their mere presence eases you up and implies that everything will fall into place in the end. You just can’t explain it but whenever you are with this kind of person you feel like you are in the safest place on earth. Another secret why some guys are simply irresistible is because they have a befitting sense of humor; a sense of humor that is not stained with meanness or insecurity. Life can be tough at times. And what makes these guys simply irresistible is their positive outlook. They don’t take life too seriously. They laugh and learn from their mistakes. They are competitive but they play fair and they don’t take defeat intensely. They don’t mock or celebrate other people’s deficiency. Another appealing character that makes a man simply irresistible is his courage to be affectionate. Other guys think that being too touchy and cheesy are wimpy attitudes and it would make them a less of a man. But take heed my chauvinistic friend, showing your affection is one of the most tenacious act that you can do. It takes a lot of heart to be vulnerable and show what you really feel. Women cannot resist a man who takes time and effort not just to say “I love you” or “I care about you” but inculcates affection in the most mundane activity. Like reaching out to softly touch your face while taking a cruise drive or putting his arm around your shoulder when walking in the mall. If you want to be included in the group of simply irresistible men, conquer your fear of articulating your affection. Another character is that he knows how to take care of himself. It’s not easy being healthy. There is discipline and a lot of effort involved. Eating right and taking an active time in the gym is not easy. It takes a lot of self- control. The bottom line is that a man who knows how to take care of himself, knows how to take care of others. It is also, without a doubt very much appealing of a man who knows how to keep his word. A man is simply irresistible when he lives by “my word is my bond” mantra. It is difficult to find men like that these days. A responsible man is and always will be a rare find. If you have these characteristic you don’t need to learn the tricks on how to be irresistible to women because they will be the one making an effort to catch your attention. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship. Fri, 14 Aug 2009 04:41:57 +0200 Learn The Latest Dating Tips On How To Keep Her Interested http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-attract-women http://www.relazine.com/dating/how-to-attract-women There are so many hypes out there on what to say and what to do to keep your date interested. This time however, I’m going to give you some dating tips on what not to say to your date. First, never say anything negative about her friends especially her guy friends. Even if your gut feeling tells you that there is something going on between her and her “guy” friend, dissing him in front of her will only make you look like a loser and that, my friend is a total deal breaker if you want to keep her interested in you. It’s best that you focus and concentrate in your own game than risk being labeled as the “insecure boy”. Be a little spontaneous. Spontaneity is way to attract women. Being spontaneous means being fun and not predictable (boring), and women dig this a lot. This means that if you’re on your first date, don’t make plans for the second date, yet. For instance, through the course of your conversation you found out that she loves dancing and without second thought you instantly responded “Why don’t we do that next Friday!” Even if she’s into you this, it will make you look desperate and this will lessen her excitement. Another point in keeping your spontaneity is to never set a date on when to call her, again this will make you look predictable and you will kill the chances of her calling you. More dating tips that you should never, ever do is asking way too personal questions and being too nosy about her past. Examples of these are asking about her sex life and her past relationships. Dwelling on these topics will make her think that you are closed minded and meddlesome. One more to remember to keep your date a pleasant one is to tone down on the “me, myself and I” What women abhor most during dates is men who can never stop talking about themselves and their toys. To tell you the truth guys, women include men who highlight their material possessions in a category of men who have nothing else to offer. If you keep bragging your ass out, your date will think “What is he trying to compensate with all this boasting?” So, it’s best to pay attention to her and most importantly to listen more. The great way to make your date have a good time is to make her feel comfortable. And lastly guys, women likes it if you take the lead, don’t stress her out by asking too many questions on what to do next. Women love a man who is confident enough to know what he is doing. I hope you find these dating tips useful. Good luck! About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.