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Get Cozy With These Romantic Ideas This Autumn Season

Tue, 24 Nov 2009 07:50:53 +0100

Autumn is the perfect season to contemplate on your relationship with your loved one. There is no any other suitable way to cozy- up and give your thanks and show your appreciation than this golden season. Before this time ends, be sure to take a day or a few moments to spice up your love life. To inspire you with what to do, here are some romantic ideas this that can help you get you started.

One of the romantic ideas that can spice up your love life is to take a cruising drive along the country and see the pretty colors of the tree. Be sure to bring along a blanket and a picnic basket if ever you feel like taking a few moments under the stars to cuddle or make- love.
Take a walk in the woods with your lover and make love under the trees while the leaves slowly fall on you, covering you like silk.�
This is one of the romantic ideas that can surely spark the passion in your relationship.
Be young lovers again by walking hand in hand under the trees, kicking and playing with the freshly- fallen leaves, laughing, talking� simply enjoying the moment.�
Drink champagne or wine under the tree in a secluded area. Be romantic with each other and if the mood calls for it, you can make love under the freshly- fallen leaves. This is one of the many romantic ideas that can truly make your relationship intimate.
Sit in front of the fireplace, snuggling and kissing in a blanket together. This is one of the classic romantic ideas that can be done throughout the year, but is best when done during the cool air of autumn.
Rent a cabin in the mountains and watch the falling foliage.
Take bike trip along the mountains with your one and only and watch the overlooking view of the beautiful colors of autumn.�
Lay in bed naked all day with your loved-one with the widows open and enjoy the sound of the falling rain while you make love over and over again.�
Sit in your backyard, cuddling in a blanket with your loved one and watch the leaves blow you around.
The colors of the sunset and the autumn really blend well together, so take the time to catch this moment.
Put a blanket on top of the leaves and watch the autumn sky with a bottle of champagne and strawberries.�
Go to your porch, turn on some slow ballad and dance along with the falling leaves.
If both of you loves the festive mood of the autumn season, you can go to country fairs and enjoy each others company.�

About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

That's What Happens When You Are Crazy In Love

Tue, 15 Sep 2009 07:00:57 +0200

Love is universal yet people react differently to it. Some people take their time and while others surrender and let go of themselves when crazy in love. Some will never waste a moment saying their �I love yous� while same would wait for that �defining moment� to utter the words their partner desperately longs to hear. I for one am guilty of the latter. While my partner was lost in the haze of love, I was all assessing and thinking. Personally, I feel choked-up in a relationship that is drowned with emotions. I prefer a relationship that can make you think and still be aware of the outside world no matter how crazy in love I am. Don’t get me wrong, I am not one of those dry, boring and devoid of enthusiasm kind of lover. I am far from that. Modesty aside, I am sassy and wispy kind of girlfriend. When I am crazy in love, I am very affectionate. I show a lot of physical endearments but when it comes to saying words like �I love you�, �I adore you� and �I’d never hurt you�, I am reserved. Not because I don’t feel those for my lover or I would upset my partner but because I want to say it in the perfect moment. It’s because when I say those words to him it means that I am already 1000% sure. Those words are very precious. It’s a promise. I agree with the recent blog I read �You Are Perfect For Me� by the Datinggodess, she said that we all desire to hear those declarations and would easily say them back because we all want to believe that we are loved or adored or perfect for someone. But those declarations should be backed up with consistent and congruent actions or else we’ll end up frustrated with ourselves for saying something we don’t actually mean. And like the Datinggoddes, I learned to be more skeptical. I have learned the value of those words and would only say it only when I can stand up to it. Like I’ve said when I am 1000% sure, �cross my heart and hope to die� thing. My beloved was frustrated for a while because it took me almost a year to say those words but after that he was able to understand. And even if I didn’t voice out those words, my actions show otherwise. He specifically said �The signs of true love are being there for each other, being honest and loyal to each other. It’s about respect and understanding. Talk is cheap. I’d rather be with someone who shows her love rather than with someone who frequently says it but doesn’t back it up.� Me either, I thought. Yes, sometimes we need to hear those endearing words from our lover but it should be in their own time. Besides love is an action word and action matters most than words. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

The Health And Wellness Benefits Of Being Inlove

Fri, 24 Jul 2009 08:21:21 +0200

If you are afraid to love, here are some few sensible reasons that might make you change your mind or heart. Years of research have shown that there is a good symbiotic relationship between health and wellness and being madly and hopelessly inlove. Studies have proven that married or committed people have fewer doctors’ appointment than those people living alone. One sensible explanation with this is that people under the marriage vows or is beaten by the love bug are more likely to take care of themselves. They are more conscious about their hygiene and they have someone to look out for them. Not being prone to depression or any substance abuse and have less anxiety are also some of the health benefits of love. Since isolation is one of the greatest influences of being depressed then being with someone truly helps prevent the person from sinking into the dark abyss of desolation. Not only that, it has been proven that being in love is truly good for the heart, literally speaking- happily married women are less likely to have a heart attack compared to their single sisters. And some more good news to new lovers out there, the more sex you do the better. Men who have sex two or more time a week lessen their risk for cardiac arrest by half. For couples who have a passion for kissing, you’d be glad to know that kissing has its health and wellness benefits, too. Kissing increases saliva production that can minimize the bacteria that cause gum disease. We have heard a lot of good advantages of a hug, this time it has been proven that hugging can help prolong the life of your partner this is because hugs can lower blood pressure and stimulates the release of oxytocin or the bonding hormone in the body. If you are afraid to love because of the pain that you will encounter, think again. It has been validated that being inlove strengthens your tolerance in pain and can help you manage your stress appropriately. Actually, it’s not at all surprising that the people who are in a loving and happy relationship outlive others who are lonely (not necessarily alone), this goes to show that if you feel good inside the health and wellness benefits follows. So if you are a person who is very much conscious about health and wellness, learn to love deeply and sincerely. If you want to live longer then learn to love harder. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Show Your Affection Before It Is Too Late

Fri, 10 Jul 2009 08:27:19 +0200

If there’s one thing that I have learned in this life is you don’t own it. It ca be take away from you without notice or preparation. Therefore, never hesitate to show your affection and love. I remember not so long ago, my good friend Gina went to my office looking very haggard and staring blankly at the wall. I asked her what happened and her reply really broke my heart. �My husband died of stroke last night, it was all so sudden and I don’t know what to do.� She paused for a while and continued� �If only I could’ve taken care of him more maybe this wouldn’t had happened. Maybe if I reminded him of his medication or give importance to his diet he would still be here with us. I never even showed him the love that he deserved; it was all so sudden�� she ended up sobbing until she cannot talk anymore. I gave her the biggest hug and showed her my deepest sympathies. Regret is a very painful emotion to have. Good for you if you had the chance to redeem and save yourself from it but what if you will never get that chance, like in Gina’s case? So before its too late, show your affection because what comes after regret is guilt and guilt can do a lot of damage in your well-being or your life. So here are some reminders on how to show your affection. To show your affection don’t sweat the small stuff or blow it up. Yes, it can be very annoying if he doesn’t put the toilet sit down or the way he messed up your closet or how his snoring keeps you awake at night. But these are the things that can be dealt it with in a mild manner; making your partner feel bad because of these trivial things is very unnecessary. Be more considerate and give a lot of respect, listen more, it’s funny that you sometime treat your waiter or your bank teller with more respect than your spouse. Be kinder than necessary to your partner. Another way to show your affection is by not taking your spouse for granted. Celebrate his birthday, who knows it might be the last one that he’s going to have. Take care of him- if your husband loves to eat, bring him his favorite food, buy him new undergarments (men usually have no time for this) or just do something nice. To show your affection, you need to learn to forgive. If he done you wrong. Talk to each other and learn to compromise. If you cannot learn to forgive then tell him so and make proper arrangement, don’t keep him hanging around and spend the next 10 years of your married life getting even or alienating him. See the goodness in each other. People do and can change for the better. It’s just sad that sometimes people see the goodness of their partner when they are already gone. It’s ironic that sometimes people give more respect when the person is already dead rather than he is living. It’s satirical that sometimes some people appreciate their partner more when he is gone rather than he is alive. Heed my words; when he is gone, the silence in your home can be unbearable and the house that you kill to be nice and tidy will be meaningless without his mess. Again show your affection while you can- hug more, kiss more, say I love you more because it will be such a tragedy when you finally hugged him but he cannot hug you back. To show your affection try to consider that every moment that you spend with him might be the last moment. Seize the day and seize your love. Show your affection, don’t hold back. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Little Signs That Shows He Loves You

Thu, 9 Jul 2009 08:05:16 +0200

�You don’t understand how I feel?� �Why do I even bother?� or �You don’t care about me at all!� you’re probably saying this to your man every time you don’t see eye�to�eye on things. He tries to provide you with answers to your problems, when all you need is for him to listen and offer his shoulder for you to cry on. All you’ve ever wanted from your man is that he shows you that he loves you. What men want women to know is that they care. The problem is that even if we speak the same language, we still feel like were from a different planet. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. So how does one learn to comprehend a Martian? First, if both sexes know how to think, move and feel, then they’ll understand why we don’t see eye�to�eye. Here’s a broad idea of what men want women to know. Achieving goals on their own is very important to them. Their sense of self is defined through the ability to see results. When a problem arise, as much as possible, they’d prefer to fix it on their own unless they really need expert advice, then they’ll find someone they’d respect to confide in and ask help. This is the reason why men instinctively offer solutions when women complain and are upset about her problems. Maybe now you can see that he loves you and wants you to feel better. You’ll probably want to argue that he’s not really listening. It becomes increasingly difficult for guys to listen when he shows you he loves you by offering solutions and that solutions are being rejected. Men will usually try to forget problems for a while, in order to find release from the stress. Usually, guys do typical things we women hate to see, like flop on the couch while watching TV or drink with friends. That’s how men manage stress. When they start to feel better, they’d emerge from the cave, come back to you and show you how much he loves you by their presence and willingness to be there for you to the best of their abilities. Try to understand that when a guy seem distant, unresponsive or preoccupied, you shouldn’t expect man to share everything they feel. Even the most open of men can only share so much. Don’t feel hurt if a guy seems to ignore you, he loves you. It is just that our coping mechanism differs from them. So, next time you need a shoulder to cry on and you don’t get it from your guy, try to understand him first before getting angry and disappointed. When you decide to talk to him, be sure you’re both calm and ready to listen to each other with an open mind and know that he loves you. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Open Your Eyes To The One You Adore

Thu, 2 Jul 2009 08:29:37 +0200

Ever notice a guy with geeky glasses, murky�colored shirts and acid�washed jeans? In high school, we wouldn’t take a second look with a guy who’s got a bad skin and a hairstyle you can’t even tell which year. We’d rather be caught dead than seen with them in public, we avoid these people. These men who have exceeded the average IQ level and are prone to be the underdogs of the popular kids, often end up as becoming the most successful of the class and getting the girl of every man’s dreams. Hollywood has been making movies about geeky man. We’d start to ponder on that thought of why women fall for smart men? Melinda French Gates considered Billy Gates as the one for her life. What exactly makes a man from no one to the one? It isn’t that there’s a lack of men in the city, on the contrary, there are quite a number of attractive men around. Though, look more closely at a guy past the bad clothes, he actually has nice features which often some women are too blind to the one they’ve been looking for all their lives. The only crime anyone can accuse him of is being clueless in his fashion style. There are more important things to this guy than his fashion sense and the trends he creates for himself. Take for example his responsibilities at work, which he attends to in an efficient and almost noble manner, his hobbies and on the way he values his time with his family. As it turns out, he isn’t being careless and sloppy about his appearance; rather his days are just filled up with attending to the things that really matter most in his life which makes him the one that we should take our chances with. Which is if we try to go beyond what we see, we’d discover why women fall for smart men. They’re kind, respectful of a girl’s feelings and almost shy in their getting to know you ways. He has none of that pretentious and conceited behavior I’ve seen in most men I know, just the real you. This is what we women value most to the one we want to marry. I want other women to see this man as a benchmark for choosing their own man. I know a lot of girls who consider dating only the cool guys with hot bods and a face seen in the lifestyles section of a newspaper. With his trendy clothes and good looks, where will Mr. Cool take you? Do his prominent friends make you feel accepted? Do you think this is the one? Try to consider this matter, instead of putting much effort in search for the hottest guy we’d deem worthy enough to marry, we should try to focus on getting closer to the one object of our affection that was uncool. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Love Is Truly Stronger Than Death

Tue, 30 Jun 2009 05:48:27 +0200

As a relationship coach, you can sometimes hear me say that infidelity is one of the worst things that can happen in your relationship� but no, infidelity is not the worst thing that can happened - it’s the sudden demised of your loved one. I wrote an article months ago �Getting Through The First Year Death Anniversary Of A Loved One� and I received tons of feedback about it. I was so amazed that so many people out there are grieving and some people are just so noble enough to give their sympathies. Experiencing the death of a loved one, especially if it comes in a much unexpected manner is a life changing and humbling experience. It is a humbling experience because you get to realize that the life that you are living right now can be taken away from you at anytime, anywhere without preparation. When my dad passed away suddenly, it was one of the turning points of my adult life. I was really close to my dad. He expired in the emergency room and I never get the chance to say goodbye to him. When I reached the hospital he was already covered with the hospital blanket. I never heard myself cry like that. He was more than a father; he was my best friend, my confidant, my fortress. That night I really felt so lost. I was so afraid, so confused. I never slept a wink that night. I wore my dad’s last shirt before he was rushed to the hospital. I never wanted to let go of his scent or his presence. I was floating in disbelief. People cope with grieving in different ways, although there’s a pattern, people manifest it in variety of ways. We go through shock or denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression, loneliness and reflection then working through and finally acceptance. During the grieving period, it is important to know that crying is necessary. It’s also best that you surround yourself with people close to the departed one, where you can feel his or her presence and talk about his or her plans and experiences. Sympathy and support are important during these times, ask for it and seek for it. It’s also helps to believe that there is a thing stronger than death. Hard as it may be but accept that fact that you are dealing with a situation that is beyond your control. Believing that there is a thing stronger than death can help you alleviate the feeling of helplessness. Believe and take heed that love is stronger than death. Keep in your heart that the love you have for your departed one will never end and the love that he or she has for you will never leave you no matter what. Love is stronger than death because nobody can take that love away from you. Acceptance and moving on can be much easier if you believe this fact that love is stronger than death. Always asked what your departed loved one wants for you or need you to do- my dad never wanted to see me cry or hurt, he never carried any grudges to anyone, even to those people who have hurt him, my dad was a go giver to those in need, he was a sincere and fun person, he was very spiritual, he has a generous heart and he loves his mother tremendously. Knowing all these truths makes me focus on the positive things because this is what my dad wants. Do this too. Take good care of yourself. Go back to your regular routine, even if it’s very difficult, try to anyway. Do what comforts you but watch out for binge eating and alcohol. Take the situation one hour at a time, one day at time. Draw upon your inner strength and again remember that love is stronger than death. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Finding Love Is Not As Hard As You Think It Is

Mon, 11 May 2009 10:59:24 +0200

Finding love sounds very easy. But finding the right persons worth loving is quite difficult. Some people would even resort to looking for it across the seas or even online in search of that special someone whom they believe knows what loving and caring is all about. But has anyone ever considered if we care for the person for who he truly is, or are we just infatuated with the person who is trying to make us believe that they’re exactly what we’re looking for. Is the thought of love clouding our emotions and judgment of other people? When we show signs of interest in a man, we tend to try and discover what he really wants in a woman to be his girlfriend. For a man, we try asking her what she really expects in a man for him to become the boyfriend material. We do this so that we could live up to their expectations just to simply show that you’re exactly the kind of person they’ve been searching for all their lives. Sad to say, this isn’t exactly the way of finding love. How about the people were trying to win over? What’s their reason why they make up these standards in finding love? These people set standards because they’ve been hurt before and the bases of these requirements are the attitudes and behaviors from disappointments of their previous relationships. They believed that this is the only way in order for them to know how to find true love. But are we really looking for the right answers? Personally, I think it’s best to be yourself. For when a person has great fondness to another, they tend to show all their good qualities just to win their intendeds affections. The secrets of finding love is not about seeing everything that’s good about the person rather it’s about discovering every flaw, weaknesses and shortcomings and be able to accept them for that. An assistant to a philosopher once saw his master staring at a rose and told him �It’s a pity, sir, that all roses have thorns�. The philosopher then replied �Indeed, but let’s rather thank God that all thorns, have roses�. The point in the story is that every human emotion can either bring us together or break us apart. Like the human emotion of love, how do we show it? Are we possessive? Or are we slack? Now, this totally depends on how we were brought up. But can we really balance every aspect of our human character? We always have implanted this idea that we can change the people we care for, often realizing that we end up changing ourselves. And not understanding that we grow at our own pace. Change comes from within one’s self. Those we can’t change, we learn to compromise. And that is how to find true love. Seeing the worst side in them and still manage to love them for being human as they are. And who knows, one might manage to change this person into a better version of himself. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Are You Turning Your Lover Into A Spoiled Brat?

Wed, 8 Apr 2009 10:34:19 +0200

It was another hectic day at work; Neva came home and saw her lover, Bien looking irritated. Neva, worried, asked Bien what seemed to be the matter. �I think we should buy a new television, I saw this lcd-screen, and high definition television and it’s awesome! This old one is a mess� Bien said. Neva tried to contradict him but Bien raised his voice and had his usual tantrums. The next day, a new television was delivered to their pad. When I had the chance to talk to Neva, I asked her why she gave in, even when she didn’t think a new TV was necessary. Her answer was straight �It’s simple, I love him and I cannot stand to see him upset, hurt, or disappointed. I will do whatever it takes to make him happy. I want to make him feel that he can’t ask for more.� I know a lot of women can relate to Neva. Like her, when you are head over heels in love with your lover, you will do anything to make him happy. But when do you draw the line? When you know that you are turning him into a spoiled brat. You know you are turning him into a spoiled brat when he tries to rationalize that his actions even if they are downright wrong, impractical or even abusive. When you treat him like a kid even though he acts like someone who doesn’t know how to control himself or be logical about his actions then you are definitely turning him into a spoiled brat. �I cut myself from cleaning the broken glasses the last time Rick was mad and smashed some of our stuff because he didn’t like my cooking but he is terribly sweet in his good days. Well, you can’t have everything, right?� Anne is not talking about her three- year old son. She is, as a matter of fact, talking about her three- year live- in partner, Rick. You know you are turning your partner into a spoiled brat when you do not let him see, feel and show the consequences of his actions. I remember this one couple, Andy and Susie. Andy is a certified car enthusiast and for the �Nth� time, Andy has bankrupted their retailing business because he spent all their savings on buying a car every time a new model comes out. Instead of talking things out and straightening his �car� habit, Susie, coming from a well off family, borrowed money from her parents again to salvage her lover’s predicament. Another sure thing that you are turning your lover into a spoiled brat is when you are worried that your partner will leave you if you upset him. If you feel that you are not good enough as a person when you disappoint you partner then you are not driven by love, you are driven by your fears and insecurities. Over tolerance and acceptance can turn both of you into monsters and your relationship into a chaotic and distressing place to be. Too much of everything is damaging and this includes tolerance and acceptance. When you truly love the person, even if it hurts you, you need to be tough if you know it’s for the best. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Keeping Long Distance Love Affair Stronger

Thu, 12 Mar 2009 04:42:35 +0100

During my college years, I can clearly recall my roommate, who if you see her for the first time you would mistake her as a crazy woman who is having an affair with her laptop. She looks at her notebook with much adoration and admiration and sometimes I can see her hugging it and kissing the webcam. She can go all night chatting and conversing on the phone and exchanging sweet nothings in front of her laptop. As a matter of fact she interacts more to her laptop than me, her room buddy. We manage to keep short conversations like �hi’s� and �hello’s� or �how’s your day� and that’s it. She would then put on her headset of her laptop and disappear into oblivion. The truth of the matter is, my room buddy is involved in a long distance love affair and the internet is one of their modes of communication. Being in a long distance love relationship is not easy. You got to have what it takes to make it work. There are certain compromises that should be done and one of that is of course the lack of physical intimacy. Some people can withstand that test of time of long distance love relationship affair but some succumb to need of physical closeness. To those who are involved in long distance love here are some points to remember if you want to make it stronger and stable. One of course is communication. This is the lifeline of your relationship, so you better make it good. Your communication should be sustained, constant and consistent. You have to keep it positive and romantic. Never leave negative and open ended dilemmas that would make your partner worry or insecure. Like any other relationships, long distance love affair has its ups and downs. When this happens you have to exert more effort in your communication skills, be more open and lucid and practice effective listening skills. One problem in long distance love affairs is that aside from dealing with issues in your relationship, you have to deal with your own sense of self- security. You got to have that sense of self- confidence that you are doing the right, you need to have that confidence to be honest and true. In other words, you need to have that positive attitude- you need to have that trust and faith with each other. Being negative in a long distance love relationship can burden you and your partner and can eventually take its toll in your affair. Another thing to make your long distance love affair work is to be more imaginative and expressive in showing your care. This may include phone sex and/ or sending the classic love letters through snail mail or sending romantic packages like flowers and gifts. This can sometimes make you work extra hours because sending packages doesn’t come cheap but it’s going to be worth it. Be creative and inspiring in keeping your intimacy running. You also need to take care of yourself, to have a life and enjoy it. Being too contained and enclosed in your relationship can limit your mind, making your more jealous and possessive. So keep yourself busy and don’t be idle. And last but not the least; you have to make a commitment to yourself � to learn the virtue of patience and determination. If things get tough and when issues cloud your mind, go back to the basics- love, this is what matters. This should be enough to keep you holding on. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Saying I Love You In The Most Romantic Ways

Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:35:46 +0100

Before I start an article about saying I love you, I would like to share a short story. One evening, in a humble household, three old men knocked at the front door. The wife, a bit surprised, opened the door and asked the three old men what she can do for them. One of the three old men answered. We are the three blessings in life- I am wealth, the other one is success and the third one is love. You can only choose which one of us should enter your home. The husband over hearing the conversation, suggested to choose wealth, in that way he will not work as hard as he does now. While the wife wanted to select success because she never get the chance to be successful when she decided to became a full time housewife. Before the wife decided to let success in, their eight year old daughter who was playing on the corner, told her parents to choose love instead. �Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a house surrounded by it?� said the daughter. The father said, I guess it’s best to heed our daughter’s advice. So the mother let love in their home and to her surprise the other two blessing followed him in. �I thought we can only get to select one� says the lady. �yes� said wealth �but whenever love goes, wealth and success is sure to follow�. May it be in family or work, let love prevail, this is the moral of the story. It is important that if you let it prevail in your life, you should know how to show it. Saying I love you is essential but it is not enough, you should know how to act on it and let the object of your affection feel it. Saying I love you can fuel the romance in your relationship. Here is some everyday stuff on how to say you adore your husband or wife. Surprise your wife by having all her favorite shoes shined, cleaned and fixed. Women adore their shoes and if you take some time to pay sometime to have it shined and cleaned is one of the romantic ways of saying I love you. Another romantic way of saying I love is pampering your wife or your husband with a massage. Another perfect way of saying it is to leave some notes around saying the things of what you appreciate most with your spouse. Another perfect way of telling your partner that he or she is truly loved is to kiss and tell, you might be shocked to hear this one but when you spread the word to your friends, co-workers, and neighbors of how much you adore your partner it will surely reach him or her. There are so many ways of telling the object of your affection how loved he or she is- a whisper when he or she is asleep, through a radio request, writing it in bathroom mirror after using it. I am sure you or your partner cannot get enough of hearing and feeling adored, so never stop doing it- make it a habit. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Love Addiction: A Serious Matter

Fri, 23 Jan 2009 08:47:49 +0100

Addiction by definition is a repeated craving to obtain or use a substance or activity even if it involves negative and destructive consequences. It is also characterized with dependence, withdrawal and tolerance. This means that if you are addicted to something you find it hard to function properly without taking that substance or having that activity. Love addiction is not something to be taken lightly. It is not something to be glorified or tolerated. It is described as having an obsessive attachment to the person or relationship. Person who is diagnosed with it depends his/her happiness and self worth to his/her partner and in the relationship. Being with a person with this kind of compulsion is equally dangerous as being the person with the said symptom. People with this kind of addiction can be very irrational and can be very extreme. The cause of love addiction can stem from early abandonment, lack of nurturing and acceptance in the developmental years, they also lack affection and attention, and have a tremendous amount of fear for rejection. Needless to say they have severe low self esteem and have the need for control and power. Being with a person with love addiction can be quite draining, it goes without saying that they are very controlling and very manipulative, they are afraid to be alone which means being overly needy and clingy, they also need constant approval, and they basically doesn’t trust anybody, not even their partner. It can lead to suicide, self harm or mutilation, stalking, rape and yes, even murder. People tend to confuse �true� love from love addiction, especially women. Your partner is positive with this kind of addiction if he/she does dangerous, perilous or destructive acts for your relationship or would go to great extent to be with you. If your lover tells you that he wants to cut off his toe to prove his affection to you, then you should never think twice of running far, far away from him. Another symptom is when your partner feels inadequate, helpless and hopeless without you. If your lover believes that he or she is not complete without you, then be careful this means that he/she depends his/her emotional needs to you. Everybody remembers the famous line �You complete me� from Jerry Maguire. Every woman really finds it romantic and dreamy but the truth of the matter is Jerry Maguire is a certified love addict. He is afraid to be alone even to the point of marrying a woman just to have somebody with his side. Another perfect example of a love addiction is Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet. It’s quite a bad example if you ask me. Nobody should die for love’s sake. Another example if your lover is a love addict is when he/she constantly lies or emotionally blackmails you to have his/her way. This is his/her way of manipulating you. Manipulation in the relationship is another defining factor of a love addict. They are very incapable of having a very healthy and long lasting relationship. It’s never too late to get help though, like any other form of addictions it can be treated and fixed and it starts by recognizing it and acknowledging it. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Is It For Real? Let Love Compatibility Quiz Be The Judge

Tue, 20 Jan 2009 04:44:52 +0100

Love is such an abstract matter. We will never really know what is and what isn’t. Loving someone can be very risky, that’s why lovers constantly take this love compatibility quiz to confirm if what they had is for real or not. In love compatibility quiz you will be able to know if you and your partner have the same outlook and views about certain things. If both of you share the same interests and opinions. The love compatibility quiz can somehow let you know if the �love� you have for each other is enough to endure the test of time. Quizzes like this only works if you answer truthfully and honestly. Here are some of the questions in love compatibility quiz. Is your relationship truly unconditional? This is such a vague question but if you can pinpoint the reasons why you are drawn to your partner and if those reasons are very concrete then most likely its conditional. Unconditional love is when you cannot totally be specific of what is it about your partner that you adore so much but you can’t get enough of him or her. You see your lover in his or her unsightly look and mood and still you find it very adorable. Unconditional relationship is when you see the worst and dark side of your partner but still can manage to take him or her without judgment. It’s unconditional when you witnessed the worst in him or her but in spite of that it never occurred in your mind to depart from him or her. Instead you do what ever is needed to inspire him or her to become a better person. Another important question in the love compatibility is do you find it hard not to tell your partner about your day? May it be good or bad news, you just can’t wait to share what you have encountered during the day. Anything bad becomes good and anything good becomes better when shared with your loved one. This shows that your partner has become a part of your system. Never lose this kind of enthusiasm because this will guard your relationship from outside temptations. Another vital question in love compatibility quiz is do you sometimes finish each other sentences? If you answer yes in this question then basically you are compatible. You have your own unspoken language and you can read each others thought. This means that you have developed a deep connection and rapport from each other. This kind of ability develops through time. You have grown too familiar with each other. You and your lover have the same wavelength when it comes to practically about everything. Another important question to answer in the love compatibility quiz is do you consider your partner as your best friend? Considering your lover as your best friend is sure to make your relationship work. You divulge and confide everything to your partner without hesitation. You like doing things together and you make each other laugh. If your lover is your best friend most likely your relationship will stand the test of time. Being best friends give both of you room for open and unbounded communication. If you truthfully answered all the questions and answered all of them with yes then I believe your relationship have what it takes to endure the test of time. If you don’t then don’t fret, at least now you know what to work on in your relationship. Besides if you have faith in your relationship you won’t be bothered to take quizzes like these. Every relationship is different, only the couples know what they need and don’t need in their relationship to work. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

The Facts About Fear And Love

Fri, 2 Jan 2009 15:28:36 +0100

They say in everything we do, in every decision that we make, either of the two are your only motives behind it- fear and love. Believe or not distinguishing between the two can be very confusing. The best way that we can do is to define the difference between fear and love. The former is characterized by an unpleasant feeling that something tragic is going to happen. With it your heart beats fast, your blood pressure rises, your pupils dilate and your muscles constrict. There are two kinds of anxiouness- healthy and unhealthy. The former is actually helpful, for instance you quit smoking because your husband has chronic asthma. You worry that your smoking might trigger his asthma attack that’s why you quit smoking. Another example of is when you work so hard on your marriage because of you are frightened of divorce. You take conscious effort in yourself to become motivated and complete as a person for your loved one and your marriage. Your apprehension is powered by your deep concern and care for your significant other and your relationship. This is fear and love working productively. Healthy kind is minimal anxiousness- this allows you to think and prevent certain danger or worst case scenarios. This is constructive and beneficial. This also what they call controlled worries, it is because the apprehension you’re feeling is valid and real. Wherein in unhealthy anxiousness, where you lose control and the reasons are unrealistic. It can be very debilitating and can stop you from functioning. It prevents you from becoming a healthy, efficient human being. Example of it is fear of death, rejection, getting old, and losing control. It is very unhealthy when you are frightened with something inevitable or something that cannot harm you. Like being horrified with spider and small places or spaces. These are extreme and irrational worries that thwart you from living a healthy normal life. For example, you are horrified by being alone that is why you are frightened by divorce. Instead of doing something productive to yourself or for your relationship, you become abusive and do everything in your power to degrade your partner. You instill fear, you threaten your partner to stay in your marriage. In this case fear and love doesn’t work harmoniously. It is irrational and illogical apprehensions that over powers compassion. With regards to love, it is something that you live for. As mentioned before it is not just a mere feeling it is an act. It has four kinds. Storge, this is a profound affection given by a parent to a child. Agape is characterized by selfless act. Philia is platonic affection for other people, like in friendship and companionship. While eros is all about romance, this is driven by our desire and your will to be with the person you want to be with. In eros, the symptoms of love and fear are somehow the same, your heart beats fast, your blood pressure rises, your pupil dilates and your muscles constricts. Compassion should surpass any kind of doubts, healthy or unhealthy. In fear and love- it is the latter that should prevail. In fear and love- it is not the former that should take control. So asses your motives in your relationship between fear and love if it’s the latter then you have nothing to worry about. It is when you are not afraid to let go and live, love is when you don’t need to be afraid of the unknown because you know there is nothing to be frightened of when it is compassion that drives you. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.

Soul- Deep And True Intimacy: The Journey From I- To � We

Fri, 26 Dec 2008 17:14:27 +0100

Have you ever wondered how it feels to go beyond yourself. Where you don’t merely think of what you want, what you should do or what you shouldn’t. For somebody who has reveled in the carefree and independent life of singlehood, the idea of breaking down the shell of the �I� and letting another person in may somewhat be daunting. That’s basically how it is when a person realizes they have developed profound affection for somebody. Clich� it may have been, but this is what happens when somebody has fallen into the vacuum of �love�. When a person is �in love�, there is the risk of them becoming vulnerable. After all, what emotion or essence can be more compelling. But then again, none else can be as blissful as well, when �love� is given a chance and relished to the utmost. So you think you are in love- Part of you can be apprehensive, another suspended in a state of celestial bliss. But either of these conditions are solid foundations for establishing a relationship. �Love�- this is more than an emotion or delusion. It is a conscious effort�to clearly see the other person and to ask yourself. Is this the person I’m willing to choose as my partner? Loving is also a conscious will to act. To do, to offer, to sacrifice and to share with another person. And most of all, loving is to consciously choose to let somebody into your space, not just physically, but emotionally and psychologically. To love is to consciously choose to grow, to take the journey from �I� to �We�. It is to share true intimacy with another person. True intimacy is a state and endeavor consciously planned and worked on together by a couple. You make a commitment to each other that there is a conglomeration of �you and him�, or �you and her�. But within this union, each must maintain their own sense of self. Each ought to consider themselves capable to work for and with each other in the relationship. It is essential that you make your significant other feel loved and special. You may already feel that they are already so, but showing it to them through words and action is crucial. Care for them, and most of all, make them feel safe and secure. Give them an assurance of your faithfulness, and most of all deliver. Let your defenses down�you may have to render yourself vulnerable, but you will not experience love at its fullest when you have distrust. Emphatize with your partner, listen and understand their intimacy language. Emotions are vital in keeping a relationship alive, and whatever emotional blockages you have, you might as well remove them. Accept responsibility for your words and actions towards your lover. You made the conscious effort to get into a commitment with them, now make a conscious will towards your obligations as a partner. Be willing to learn, to stretch your limits, to grow and to change- for the better. You may have differing perspectives, but try to be in your lover’s shoes when it comes to their point of views. You will have to put aside your needs and wants from time to time and accommodate your significant other’s. This endeavor has to be reciprocal, however. Consciously create true intimacy on a day to day basis. Never expect perfection from each other; the beauty of being in a relationship is that you give each other the gift of growth. Until you have gained awareness. This is the beauty of loving�you go beyond yourself which in turn makes you a better person, and you become stronger. See your partner, take a good look and love no matter what. Be each other’s best friend during the day, lovers at night, and partners for life. About the author. Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.