http://www.relazine.com/feed/ http://www.relazine.com/ Free tips and advice about having a successful relationship. From dating to friendship and marriage. Mon, 29 Dec 2008 10:00:13 +0100 Mon, 29 Dec 2008 10:00:13 +0100 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/single-parent1 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/single-parent1 Being a single parent is all about multi tasking. Standing as a mother and father can drain you mentally and emotionally. Whether you’re a single mom or a single dad, it doesn’t matter. Whether the reason is death, divorce or untimely pregnancy, you are now faced with a responsibility of raising a kid on your own. Unlike having a partner in raising a kid- you can have a division of labor in financial, physical, mental, and emotional aspect. That’s the reason why as a single parent you need to work double time to cope up with your obligations and responsibilities. Fri, 19 Dec 2008 04:00:54 +0100 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/want-him-back http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/want-him-back After an arduous feat of emotional turmoil, you just can’t allow you relationship to just fade into nothing. When he left, you have taken advantage of his absence in improving yourself. You got a license and passed your driving school and bought yourself a convertible, you went to a culinary class and painting class, went back to the gym, did yoga, and found a new circle of great friends. You have learned to value yourself and have seen your worth. Now that you have a newfound sense of self- a better self. You want him back because you know you can make this work this time. Tue, 9 Dec 2008 07:17:51 +0100 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/remarriage http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/remarriage You never thought you can get out of it alive- divorce. It was traumatic; it was hard and arduous. It really drained the hell out of you- mentally, physically, financially and emotionally. Even the children had to adjust with the changes of your separation and the people you love were seriously worried about you. Good thing the worst part is over- or is it? Almost three years has passed since the divorce and somehow you have learned to adjust and cope with the changes. You have dated now and then but nothing serious but lately you have been seeing someone for almost a year now and things are getting quite serious. Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:07:51 +0100 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce-maybe-seen-as-the-best http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce-maybe-seen-as-the-best The family is the basic unit of society and every care should be taken to preserve it by the state, church and the family itself. However, if counseling and reconciliation cannot solve the conflict within the family, divorce maybe seen as the best solution. To couples with kids however the situation is much more complex as compared to childless couples. Divorce can be devastating to the children and may leave a long-lasting scar that may affect their being useful citizens of the community. During the divorce process, the offspring’s will go through emotional conflicts. Anger is prevalent. Anger at the present condition, anger towards their parents, themselves and some may feel that they are to at fault for the separation. Fri, 14 Nov 2008 04:47:17 +0100 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce1 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce1 Its really over- it’s official. Now what - you don’t seem to know where to begin. All these mixed emotions flooding you- relief, rage, hate, blame, retribution, anguish, love, helplessness. You are relieved to finally realize that you are out of a very draining relationship. All those arguments, shouting, fighting, the silent- treatment, and the lack of communication- you’re out of it. But still you feel guilty- questioning if you have tried all options before giving-up the marriage. Guilty of what your decision to finally call it quits will affect the children. You blame yourself, your ex-spouse, your in-laws, even your parents - you’re angry at everybody. Thu, 19 Jun 2008 21:53:38 +0200 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/blending-two-families-together http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/blending-two-families-together With divorce at an all-time high and remarriage rates increasing dramatically every year, blending two families together is more common than ever. The ultimate example of such was the Brady Bunch way back in the 70’s, at a time when divorce and remarriage in America was seeing a surge. Although the show chronicled the life of a blended family, along with the adjustments everyone had to make and the usual childhood problems, it was all TV stuff, not the real world. Although transitions to new circumstances may have looked easy on the show, what happens in real life is not often as simple as that. Tue, 10 Jun 2008 22:04:28 +0200 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/holidays-after-divorce http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/holidays-after-divorce Holidays have always been special, joyful times for everyone. That is, until things got rough and you ended up divorced. Celebrating it is always challenging, but holidays after divorce, are without doubt extra-challenging. Some people are quite lucky—not all their friends are in a relationship. Even just one single friend is enough to help one get away from all the cheerfulness, but sadly this is not often the case. A lot of divorcees have no other choice but to spend the special time alone, or with the kids if they have any. As a newly-single, recently divorced person, just the thought of getting through all the merriment of the holidays can be quite excruciating. Wed, 4 Jun 2008 21:56:00 +0200 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/pitfalls-of-dating http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/pitfalls-of-dating The singles scene can be a daunting place for someone who has been “off the market” for quite some time. Re-entering the scene can be a bumpy ride for some, and daters usually have to face the inevitable pitfalls of dating that can spoil even the toughest of dating efforts. The following are just a few of the common pitfalls of dating and some ideas on how to effectively avoid them. Most re-emerging daters probably make the mistake of comparing each potential partner to his/her ex. Just when you thought that you have severed all ties, and is finally free of the past, your ex comes creeping into your life again. Fri, 30 May 2008 22:05:38 +0200 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/single-parent http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/single-parent Raising kids is hard; raising kids alone is near- impossible. It’s absolutely not easy to raise kids when you’re a single parent. However, although it seems awful, (a lot of times it is!) it offers quite a number of astonishing benefits that can make everyday life easier for everyone. According to single parenting statistics, majority of the single parents today are mothers who are currently divorced or separated. Friends and acquaintances often wonder how single moms manage to take care of their kids, and more often than not elicit pity and awe for a status that a lot of people think of as just shy of sainthood. Tue, 20 May 2008 19:35:28 +0200 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce-party http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce-party A divorce is a life-changing event that is usually filled with pain and sorrow. Although a person going through a divorce will have to undergo the process of grieving, there always comes a time when one would feel a great deal of relief knowing that he/she came out of the bad situation in one piece. Though some people would rather drown in their sorrows or get busy dealing with their finances after divorce, others choose to celebrate their newfound freedom as soon as the ink dries on their divorce decree. Divorce parties are now as common as any other kind of party, with divorce rates consistently at an all-time high. Wed, 7 May 2008 21:13:21 +0200 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/divorce Divorce has many undesirable side effects. Whatever you had, you seem to lose. First you lose your spouse’s love and affection. Then you lose respect for one other. Next is the house, the car—even the kids. Sometimes it feels like you could lose your sanity. And, if that’s not enough, you lose your friends. The first losses were expected and didn’t come as a shock, but the friends? It’s the cherry at the top of your sundae of losses. Losing friends is often an unexpected side effect of divorce, which makes it one of the biggest disappointments a person can ever have. Fri, 25 Apr 2008 13:02:20 +0200 http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/life-after-divorce http://www.relazine.com/post-divorce/life-after-divorce Divorce can leave a person devastated and broken. It is a major, life-changing event that could shatter your heart into pieces. Accepting the fact that everything just isn’t the same anymore, especially for those who didn’t see it coming, may be a little too hard. Having to deal all alone with issues like children, money, career changes and downsizing the family income can be overwhelming, and is enough to make one ask: Is there life after divorce? Is it possible to move on to a better life? The answer is yes- but of course it’s up to you. With a lot of hard work and adopting the right attitude, one can go a long way towards learning how to survive.