 |
Tags: relationships, friendship, friend
 What is a friend? It's somebody who accepts you for what you are and stands by your side through thick and thin. A person can have as many as he wants, but only a few will be your best friend. Out of those few, fewer still are really true friends which are hard to come by these days.
Although most of us try to be a good friend - always there to comfort and help out during rough times , celebrate their happiness, or simply hold their hand —there comes a time when you realize that you’ve been holding on too long. Or you realize that the friendship is not really genuine, but a heavy burden that weighs you down.
advertisement
Letting go of a friend is never easy. Of course, you don’t want to be “that awful person who dumped his friend” ! Real friendships don’t just happen. Just as any relationship, it needs maintenance, nourishment. So, when is it time to cut a friendship loose? Evaluate your relationship: who's the giver and who's the taker? Are you putting aside some (if not all) of your priorities just to facilitate their needs? How long has this been going on? How much abuse are you willing to take? Ask yourself whether this person contributes something to the relationship.
No, don’t feel selfish: a little selfishness every other time only means that you love yourself too. Friendship is about give-and-take, so it’s only right that she adds something to your life. Your house is your friends’ house. She can drop by and stay the night anytime. She can even stay the whole weekend and wear your clothes and eat your food! But, how is this affecting you? Does she even care that you’re spreading your budget thin just to have enough for your kids and accommodate her at the same time?! You may not be aware that you are a victim of needing to be needed.
It has always been YOU YOU YOU YOU! You buy lunch; she eats off everything from the plate. You go somewhere together; you always pay for gas (even for the bus ticket). She needs somebody to pour out her pains with, so you stay up late to hear her out.
But when you need somebody, she's simply not there. Are you willing to pay the price for this friendship? Your friend bleeds you dry, and that’s not a sign that she truly cares for you. It’s crystal clear that she only cares of what you can do for her now.
Wake up and smell the coffee, hon. It won’t be a shocking surprise if she dumps you first. Have you had enough? In this world you can have friends...or you can have true friends. There are givers as well as takers. Know who gives and who’s always there looking for a handout.
A true friend will only seek your highest potential and be happy with what you achieve. Friends who only get what they can get and keep you from being your true self is not really a friend at all. Having a lasting friendship is the best gift anybody can have.
It sure is great to have a lot of friends. But nothing beats having one true friend that you can count on than having lots of friends who will only share your happiness but never your burdens. Look at your fingers and count your true friends. It's amazing that you'll find only a few.
About the author
Ruth Purple is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Relazine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to find love and compassion in your relationship.
Share this article
You may reprint this article in its entirety on your web site, newsletter or ezine, providing you leave the About the author sections intact. You may not alter the contents.
Read other Friendship articles or visit our forum for additional information.
|
|
|
Free newsletter • Email this article to a friend
|
|
|
Previous 10 friendship articles:
|
|
|
I would love to hear from you what you think about my article. Please leave a comment below!
|
|
|
|
|
IT'S GOOD TO SEE YOU!
Welcome to my Relationship & Dating Blog. Here I will share my knowledge and experience with you.
I have been a Relationship Coach for many years, advising all kinds of people on how to find love and peace in their relationship. My methods worked so well that more and more people contacted me for coaching. At some point I was unable to attend each and everyone and decided to go public with my knowledge and help as many as possible.
Without the right information and resources people tend to lose track of the things that really matter in life. My mission is to coach you and create the right conditions for a stable and compassionate relationship.
First step for you to take is to sign up for my weekly newsletter for free. I'll be happy to coach you. Let's get starting!
Ruth Purple, Relationship Coach
Relazine.com
|
|
|
|
