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 Being married and staying married is an ongoing learning process. Everyday a couple wakes up and must consciously make a choice that whatever they decide to do, it should be what’s good for their union. It’s a common knowledge that it is not an easy task but for a strong and determined couple nothing is too big or difficult a task in keeping their marriage or family stable and secure.
Until some time a couple will reach a certain point that they will seek something that will truly make them whole and make them feel as one. Hence, having a kid comes in the picture. Married couple should keep in mind that it is much easier and less complicated if they have learned to come in terms with their own personal and “couple” issues before they decide to become parents.
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Being a parent is a whole new different ball game. The degree of joy and sadness felt as a parent is far more different. The expectations and disappointment will be something new. Becoming a parent requires a lot of maturity and you should learn to set aside your own personal gratifications and disenchantments.
As I have said, the expectations of being a parent can be something new. Each parent expects the best for their children. The expectations can be so great sometimes that the parents can unknowingly instill pressure to their children. With expectations come disappointments. I believe that nothing can disappoint a proud father more that seeing his little brute combing Barbie’s hair in the girl’s aisle section in a toy store.
Having a homosexual child can break any parent’s heart, especially the father’s heart. Dealing with a homosexual child can be very scary and confusing. What you don’t do can be as damaging as what you do. So before you develop any forms of anxiety disorder here are some helpful tips in helping you deal with your homosexual child.
The first thing that you should do is to accept and internalize the fact that it is not your fault or your husband’s fault that your little Hercules is a little Hera by heart. You have to understand that being gay is not a disease and is not a disorder.
It was not something you did or did not do that your kid decided to become gay. Some say it’s inherent and it’s in the genes. So if it’s in the genes, it’s really futile to fight it. Once you have accepted this fact, you can focus on the support and proper encouragement that your son needs.
Keep in mind that being gay is not a personality disorder and going for a consult to a child psychiatrist can have a negative effect. What every gay kid needs is the same as every kid craves for and that is substantial amount of love, acceptance and approval. So embrace your kid whatever his reference is.
Another thing that you should do in dealing with a homosexual child is to create an accepting and nurturing environment. The least you want is to let your child grow up with a very judgmental and critical mindset. Set by example that you should see the person beyond their color, reference or religion.
It’s wise to let your child know that what matters most is the kindness and consideration you give and share to others. Nurturing an accepting and compassionate heart will aid your child have a stable self-confidence and self-esteem which will eventually guide him properly when he reaches the stage when he begins to feel different from his peers.
Having a homosexual child is not something to be ashamed of or should be condemned about. What is more condemning is being one of those parents who insult, hurt and denounce their own child for being homosexual.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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