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Tags: relationships, love, what men want women to know
 “You don’t understand how I feel?” “Why do I even bother?” or “You don’t care about me at all!” you’re probably saying this to your man every time you don’t see eye–to–eye on things. He tries to provide you with answers to your problems, when all you need is for him to listen and offer his shoulder for you to cry on.
All you’ve ever wanted from your man is that he shows you that he loves you. What men want women to know is that they care. The problem is that even if we speak the same language, we still feel like were from a different planet. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
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So how does one learn to comprehend a Martian? First, if both sexes know how to think, move and feel, then they’ll understand why we don’t see eye–to–eye. Here’s a broad idea of what men want women to know. Achieving goals on their own is very important to them. Their sense of self is defined through the ability to see results.
When a problem arise, as much as possible, they’d prefer to fix it on their own unless they really need expert advice, then they’ll find someone they’d respect to confide in and ask help. This is the reason why men instinctively offer solutions when women complain and are upset about her problems.
Maybe now you can see that he loves you and wants you to feel better. You’ll probably want to argue that he’s not really listening. It becomes increasingly difficult for guys to listen when he shows you he loves you by offering solutions and that solutions are being rejected. Men will usually try to forget problems for a while, in order to find release from the stress.
Usually, guys do typical things we women hate to see, like flop on the couch while watching TV or drink with friends. That’s how men manage stress. When they start to feel better, they’d emerge from the cave, come back to you and show you how much he loves you by their presence and willingness to be there for you to the best of their abilities.
Try to understand that when a guy seem distant, unresponsive or preoccupied, you shouldn’t expect man to share everything they feel. Even the most open of men can only share so much. Don’t feel hurt if a guy seems to ignore you, he loves you. It is just that our coping mechanism differs from them.
So, next time you need a shoulder to cry on and you don’t get it from your guy, try to understand him first before getting angry and disappointed. When you decide to talk to him, be sure you’re both calm and ready to listen to each other with an open mind and know that he loves you.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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