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Tags: relationships, love, love is stronger than death
 As a relationship coach, you can sometimes hear me say that infidelity is one of the worst things that can happen in your relationship… but no, infidelity is not the worst thing that can happened - it’s the sudden demised of your loved one. I wrote an article months ago “Getting Through The First Year Death Anniversary Of A Loved One” and I received tons of feedback about it.
I was so amazed that so many people out there are grieving and some people are just so noble enough to give their sympathies. Experiencing the death of a loved one, especially if it comes in a much unexpected manner is a life changing and humbling experience. It is a humbling experience because you get to realize that the life that you are living right now can be taken away from you at anytime, anywhere without preparation.
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When my dad passed away suddenly, it was one of the turning points of my adult life. I was really close to my dad. He expired in the emergency room and I never get the chance to say goodbye to him. When I reached the hospital he was already covered with the hospital blanket.
I never heard myself cry like that. He was more than a father; he was my best friend, my confidant, my fortress. That night I really felt so lost. I was so afraid, so confused. I never slept a wink that night. I wore my dad’s last shirt before he was rushed to the hospital.
I never wanted to let go of his scent or his presence. I was floating in disbelief. People cope with grieving in different ways, although there’s a pattern, people manifest it in variety of ways. We go through shock or denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression, loneliness and reflection then working through and finally acceptance.
During the grieving period, it is important to know that crying is necessary. It’s also best that you surround yourself with people close to the departed one, where you can feel his or her presence and talk about his or her plans and experiences. Sympathy and support are important during these times, ask for it and seek for it.
It’s also helps to believe that there is a thing stronger than death. Hard as it may be but accept that fact that you are dealing with a situation that is beyond your control. Believing that there is a thing stronger than death can help you alleviate the feeling of helplessness.
Believe and take heed that love is stronger than death. Keep in your heart that the love you have for your departed one will never end and the love that he or she has for you will never leave you no matter what. Love is stronger than death because nobody can take that love away from you.
Acceptance and moving on can be much easier if you believe this fact that love is stronger than death. Always asked what your departed loved one wants for you or need you to do- my dad never wanted to see me cry or hurt, he never carried any grudges to anyone, even to those people who have hurt him, my dad was a go giver to those in need, he was a sincere and fun person, he was very spiritual, he has a generous heart and he loves his mother tremendously.
Knowing all these truths makes me focus on the positive things because this is what my dad wants. Do this too. Take good care of yourself. Go back to your regular routine, even if it’s very difficult, try to anyway. Do what comforts you but watch out for binge eating and alcohol.
Take the situation one hour at a time, one day at time. Draw upon your inner strength and again remember that love is stronger than death.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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