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Tags: relationships, marriage, emotional therapy
 In marriage, sometimes things happen and there’s nothing we can do about it but to cope with it in anyway we can. These major and life altering situations can range from the death of someone close like a parent or a child, bankruptcy, unemployment, serious illness or sudden and extreme decline of lifestyle.
Some can cope with it properly and got out of it stronger and wiser. Some unfortunately breaks down and is never the same again. People have different levels of emotional threshold and coping mechanisms. If you are living with someone who is not cut out with this life changing situations, then you are heading for a huge challenge of your life.
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If your partner needs help beyond your capacity then it’s best to leave it to the expert and encourage your partner to get emotional therapy. One of the indications that your partner needs emotional therapy is depression. Depression can manifest in different forms. You have to be observant for certain signs and symptoms from your significant other like feeling extremely sad and “hollow” inside, sentiments of hopelessness and worthlessness.
Your partner is easily irritated and agitated or cries a lot. Your partner has no energy to go out of bed, always fatigue, too much or too little sleeping and eating, becomes very introvert and uninterested with activities once liked. He or she is constantly complaining and suffering from chronic pain, migraines or headaches, and body aches or body malaise.
You also have to be concern if your significant other has suicide thoughts. If these signs and symptoms can go on for two weeks or longer then you have to ask for intervention. If your spouse has agreed to have emotional therapy, this should never stop you from supporting him or her.
As a matter of fact your support and tolerance will play a major role in your spouse’s recovery. Having an open mind and full understanding can make you cope better with the situation. Having an open mind aids you in facing this trial with patience and having full understanding make it easier for you to deal with the problem appropriately.
Having these attitudes can prevent you from being judgmental, angry, and remorseful. These negative mind-sets can worsen your situation and can even end your marriage. Be proactive. Accompany your partner in emotional therapy and listen on how you can help out in managing your spouse’s issues and depression. Talk to your partner’s therapist on how you can contribute with your spouse’s wellness.
If your relationship is one of the contributing factors of your spouse’s depression or issues then have therapy sessions together. Another sensible thing to do when your spouse is in emotional therapy is to take care of your own well being. Since your spouse is in emotional therapy and is not in good shape you are now the pillar of strength in your relationship.
Never ever blame yourself when your significant other is in emotional therapy. Depression or any related disorders like this can be hereditary or genetics. Just do what you can at the moment but never push yourself too hard. Sometimes your feeling of sympathy, compassion, understanding and tolerance can take its toll on you and can turn into anger, guilt, impatience, loneliness and powerless.
If you have reached your limit, take a break, relax and gather energy, never judge your feelings. Being in this kind of situation can drain you to the core but with the right perspective, you can get through this.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Art of Happy Marriage. Learn the secrets to a Successful Marriage.
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