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Tags: relationships, marriage, husband lost his job
 In life, tricks and pitfalls are a second nature. But there are pitfalls that you just cannot prepare for. And one of these pitfalls is when your husband lost his job. I was never married but when my long term lover lost his job, I was devastated.
It’s just so unfortunate that many couples had to go through this. That's why this week; I will give tips and guidelines on issues related to this kind of marital problems. On this article, I am going to share tips on what to do when your partner lost his job; the next articles will be on what to say and not what to say now that he is out of work and giving the right encouragement and motivation to help your husband look for another work.
When your husband lost his job, here are some helpful tips.
- Cheer him up.
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His self-esteem is the direct hit. His pains, fears and confusions are just unfathomable. Expect that there is nothing you can say can comfort him.
- Give him time to grieve. I know that you are scared of the uncertainty now that he lost his job, but pressuring him and nagging him to look for another job right away is a bad idea. He is in deep pressure and confusion already, don't push him down more. Allow him to regain himself first.
- Don't boss him around. It's normal to ask him to help you more around the house, but don't turn him into a domesticated dog.
- Remind him of his strengths. This is the time where you can casually talk about his forte.
Men cannot help to define their selves with their job. This is the time to remind him of what a great speaker he is or how reliable he is when it comes to closing a sale.
- Don't spread the news without consulting him. I know that you are overwhelmed with concern and you want to seek emotional reinforcements, but some men are uncomfortable when it comes to sharing their misery. They hate the thought of people feeling sorry for them.
- Never insist on the subject. This is where men and women usually clash. When it comes to this subject, you have to back down. Don't talk about his job loss unless he opens up first.
- Be willing to adjust. This is the time when your partner needs you most. It's not the best time to act like a “Prima- donna” and whine about the vacation he could no longer afford.
- Don't give unsolicited advice. I know that you are very worried about his well-being, but crowding him with your presence can make him uncomfortable. Give him his space where he could think and revive his bleeding self. But be available when he needs you to be his ally. This is not going to be easy but be patient.
- Don't blame him. This is the worst that you can do. Nobody wants to be out of work and blaming will never solve anything.
It has been said that when your man is down and out, you got to get up and on. This is not as easy as it sounds, but you have no choice. Hold on to each other and rise above the occasion. This is the crystallized moment where you can show him what you are made of. It's time for you to let go of the "woulda, coulda, shoulda," you need to strengthen up and keep going.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Ruth recently published an easy to follow course on how to get your cheating spouse back. Click here to get more info about Winning Your Man Back From Infidelity.
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