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Tags: relationships, marriage, marriage counseling
 When talking about marriage counseling, people usually have a negative understanding of it. It has an overtone of failure because “you cannot solve your own marital problems”. But the fact is, acknowledging you’re willing to work toward self improvement for the greater good of your relationship is a sign of great strength and achievement.
A majority of women have no qualms about it. For men however, they cringe at the idea, avoid the topic or totally rally out against it. They say marital therapy doesn’t work and can only complicate underlying problems. Experts of marriage counseling say, “Couples, especially men would only go for a consultation when the problem has already gotten serious”.
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That’s why they think it doesn’t work”. For your partner, his basic principle with regards to relationship- it only involves the two of you- your problems, your solutions. In case of problems, you pour your heart out to your friends or family not in therapy. When he agreed to go for relationship therapy, it’s either he got caught cheating or his wife is only a step away from divorcing him.
So when exactly is the right time to go for marriage counseling. When you start feel indifferent towards each other. Being indifferent means not feeling any emotions towards your partner anymore. No love, no hate, no care, no anger- nothing. Feeling indifferent is a blink a way from alienation from each other.
And before you know it, both of you are settling for divorce. Another reason for marital counseling is when you are arguing about the same issue over and over again. Constant arguing about the same problem means both of you are having deep-seated issues you cannot resolve. Considering marriage counseling will be able to see your problems objectively and help you to deal with it constructively.
And most importantly, getting marriage counseling as a preventive measure is essential. Prevention is always better than cure- just like going to a doctor for your monthly general check up, it’s also wise to consult a marriage counselor once a month for assessment and improvement of your relationship. Now that you know when to go for marriage counseling, choosing the best counselor for is the next step.
It is important to go to a marital counselor you can trust and feel comfortable with. A counselor is someone who is qualified and specializes in marriage counseling. A counselor comprehends the issues of each individual client. He helps them deal with their issues and guides them accordingly adjusting to the needs of each partner.
Counselors are committed to giving you advice and options to help you attain a better relationship with your partner. A marriage counseling session can cause you an average of ninety five dollar per session. Unless you are diagnosed by your counselor with mental disorder then your insurance can shoulder all your therapy expenses.
A therapy session can be weekly or bi-monthly. A session can go on for a year or more depending on the assessment of your counselor. A couple can spend thousands of dollars on therapy. On a personal note though, if therapy can help you live a happy life it’s worth it.
Money spent to save your relationship is money well spent. In fact, I know some couples who have become financially progressive after a successful relationship therapy. You can never put a price on peace of mind, its priceless.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Art of Happy Marriage. Learn the secrets to a Successful Marriage.
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