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Tags: relationships, marriage, problems
 Every person is different and unique, so are relationships. Dealing with each other has its ups and downs and marital problems occur no matter how you adore each other. May it be financial, emotional, spiritual and physical- marital problems will always be there. It should be viewed as an opportunity for both of you to become a better, stronger married couple.
Marital problems should never break you apart. It’s normal to feel exhausted and drained with everyday struggle to keep the union blissful at times. We all have our bad day- but how do you know you are just having a bad day and not a bad marriage. How do you know your marriage is on hot waters? There are several definite signs that your nuptial union may be going downhill.
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Both of you cannot communicate with each other anymore. No one talks and no one listens. It is common knowledge that good and open communication is the foundation of every marriage. Solutions to problems, suggestions, assurances, intimacy, maturity, growth are not possible without communication. If communication is dead so is the companionship.
No more affection, another sign your marriage is on shaky grounds. Giving and showing affection adds color to your companionship. It is one of the reasons why you fell in love with your partner in the first place. Those sweet kisses, those warms hugs, holding hands, good night kisses or even those simple tender touches on your partner’s skin or simply running your fingers through his or her hair are a thing of the past.
If you cannot imagine yourself doing this, its a sign that both of you are having deep-seated problems in your marriage. Couple argues, they always do, but if you argue over and over about the same issues, then there is definitely major crisis happening. Arguing about the same thing repeatedly is a sign that both of you are not willing to compromise and cannot make ends meet.
Another sign is you withdraw from each other. The person you fell head over heels in love with has become an emotional burden to you, making you withdraw emotionally and/ or physically. When you fight, you don’t fight fair. Your fighting has become a power play; you see each other as enemies, someone you should take down mercilessly.
You don’t laugh or have fun together the way you used to. You used to go out, have a few drinks and laugh the night away- both of you still go out together at times but crying and fighting follows after your drinking sessions. You seem to have developed a new allergy and it is complimenting your partner.
You don’t respect each other anymore. You cannot love someone if you don’t respect them. If there is no respect in your marriage- reconsider if you really need to stay. You have become unfaithful to your partner. You don’t feel guilty being romantically involved with someone else is a sign of a troubled marriage.
Your other half wants to alienate you, cut you off or isolate you to your family and friends. You feel relieved and free and happy when your spouse is not around or on a business trip. There is verbal, physical and/ or emotional abuse in your marriage. If your marriage is experiencing the majority of things mentioned above, it’s time to ask for intervention like going to a marriage counselor or therapist.
It has to be a mutual decision to ask for a marriage intervention or saving your marriage. If one is not willing, it’s time to have your lawyer’s intervention.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Art of Happy Marriage. Learn the secrets to a Successful Marriage.
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