 |
Tags: relationships, marriage, signs of a troubled marriage
 Being married for longer than usual can sometimes lower the level of excitement and thrill for each other. The passion and the zest are not as it used to be. The good news is most marriages usually go through a plateau stage after a certain period of time. There are however signs to look out for.
When you encounter these signs you have to raise the red flag and activate your marital alarm system or else all of it will go down the drain. You know you are in a trouble marriage when you know longer have the interest to talk to your spouse anymore. You’d rather talk to someone else about your troubled marriage rather than your partner.
advertisement
When just the thought of talking and discussing about your marital issues together exhaust both of you then definitely there is something major going on. Once communication is barred from your relationship a lot of things can go with it like compromise and intimacy. It is quite impossible to have resolution for your troubled marriage when talking and listening are not in your agenda.
Another signs of a troubled marriage are constant bickering and backbiting. Arguing about same things over and over again is a sure sign that both of you have no plans of moving on or resolving or forgiving each other about past issues. You can never get a sensible and decent talk with your spouse anymore and the criticisms become harsh and personal.
When you cannot say anything nice or good about your partner to your friends and other people then maybe it is time to halt and think why you what you do. Further signs of a troubled marriage are your constant and unforgiving power struggle and not fighting fair with each other.
Every couple fight but the manner of fighting can affect the longevity of your marriage. When you start calling names and insulting your partner under the belt then that is not fighting fair, when you bring out the past resolved issue that is not fighting fair. When something is bothering you and did not tell your partner about it for the next two days, let it go.
Fighting fair is when you don’t wait for petty issues to build up and explode it to larger matter. You know you are in a troubled marriage when you don’t have fun and laugh together anymore. When the thought of having fun irks both of you then it’s the right time to have a serious talk.
When sex and intimacy is out of the question then you can definitely say that you are in a troubled marriage. You go out and not thinking about your spouse and act like an available bachelor looking for a better partner then you are most certainly have no fear in involving yourself in an affair.
When your respect is gone and degrade the value of your spouse then you have to do something immediately to work things out. Troubled marriage is just a one step away from divorce. If you don’t want that to happen then you have to make some conscious effort and take some action as soon as possible if you want to save your relationship.
Being married can be tricky and complicated sometimes but when worse comes to worst and when everything becomes cloudy just have that basic thought in your mind that you love him and he loves you.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Art of Happy Marriage. Learn the secrets to a Successful Marriage.
Share this article
You may reprint this article in its entirety on your web site, newsletter or ezine, providing you leave the About the author sections intact. You may not alter the contents.
|
|
|
|
|
|
Previous 10 marriage articles:
|
|
|
|
|
|
