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Tags: relationships, marriage, stronger relationship
 Statistics shown that eighty percent of husbands committed extramarital affairs and most of these men do not leave their wives permanently and the rest of the twenty percent of divorce husband but did not marry the other woman. Eighty percent of divorced men said that if given a chance they would want to marry their wife again.
After your husband betrayed you and asked for your forgiveness, you forgave him and accepted him back. After a long run of turmoil and emotional roller coaster, everything is back to normal. He has learned his lessons and you have become a better person. Both of you have a stronger relationship now and you want it to stay that way.
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Although you have been over this, there are some moments that you wake up in the middle of the night with the flashback of that traumatic incident. Its okay, it’s normal. What’s important is you can cope with it now. You are now an evolved person- independent, reliable and have more inner strength than you can imagine.
In a way his mistakes has brought the two of you closer by seeing what was wrong in your marriage and has given both of you the chance to resolve it. You are now more open and tolerant and so is he. He is more supportive and considerate. He understands you better and you give time to listen and hear him out.
You never thought both of you could reach this stage. You never thought that a stronger relationship is possible after an affair. Having a stronger relationship after an affair is not easy and in order to maintain your stronger relationship, you have to remember some of these few things. Love yourself.
Only in loving yourself can you able to love your husband back. In love, there is no room for revenge. One of our mistake is sometimes we thought these men hurt us in purpose. If your husband forgot your planned dinner, we instantly think they love us less and in return we give them the silent treatment and cook him a lousy dinner for the next 3 days as revenge.
Before putting on your fighting face try to see things his way. Another factor to have a stronger relationship is to deal with your own insecurities and resolve you own personal issues. You know you have an abandonment issue because you dad left when you were six, leaving you with unfulfilled needs.
Deal with this accordingly, not resenting your husband every time he goes out with his friends. You have to keep in mind he was not born in this world to be your savior but as your partner. Only you can heal yourself and expecting too much from him can only make matters worst for both of you.
So let go of you insecurities because dwelling in them will only make you a stagnant person, creating unnecessary strain in your marriage. Another necessity for a stronger relationship is to be more affectionate and sensitive to your husband. Affection is all about the little things. A morning kiss, a backrub, a hug- things like this matter, it has a lingering effect and gives a sense of belongingness.
These are so many things you can do to have a stronger relationship just have genuine love and care and you will never go wrong.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Art of Happy Marriage. Learn the secrets to a Successful Marriage.
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