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Tags: relationships, post divorce, dating as a single
 With the divorce rate going up by the minute, children experience the trauma of their parent’s divorce by the time they are eighteen. And single moms are dating again after one year of their divorce. With these facts, I have noticed that there are so many studies and information materials about divorce, remarriage and step-parenting, but not so much about the courtship phrase or the process a single mom go through after the divorce and before re-marriage. If you are a single mom and you want to take another shot at love, here are some guidelines concerning dating after divorce and your children.
- Think fabulous! You are a fabulous single mom! Feel the single vibe in you. Disregard the thought that you are too old or too fat.
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Keep in mind that these things don’t matter in love, but having a great personality does.
- Don’t rush it. Being a single mom, you can’t help but save time and energy by laying out your plans and agenda. Why not try having fun and feeling the thrill of dating again, you deserve it. And the great thing about this is while you’re having a great time, you’ll be getting to know you’re date a lot better.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself. Mistakes are a part of human existence. If your marriage did not work out, forgive yourself. Embrace the beautiful things life has to offer.
- Stop, look, and listen to your children. If you are a single mom of young children between ages five and ten, keep in mind that they have the tendency to be possessive of you. Your dating can be stressful for them. Just make sure that while you are in your, “crazy phase” you don’t ignore their importance. They, too are dealing with the loss, adjustment, and trust issues (just to name a few).
- Being a single mom for teenagers, can be quite tricky. Teenagers are entering a new world of dating behavior that may include sex, and will look up to their parents as model behavior. And what they’ll see is what they’ll do.
- It’s not advisable to introduce your first date to your children. It takes months to have a serious relationship, so make sure that you introduce someone worthy to your children.
- Dating as a single parent can be complicated, especially if the children are young enough to understand what’s going on. Make a gradual approach to them. If a decision has come that you need to bring a new partner into your children’s life, make sure they’ll meet in a neutral ground (not home) and in a very casual setting (not a family outing). Introduce your partner not as the, “new love of your life” but as a, “new friend.”
- Being a single mom and out dating can bring out guilt feelings. Overcome this, you’re a human being; it’s a need to have an adult companion. Just have a balance of dating and being sensitive to your children’s emotional needs.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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