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Tags: relationships, post divorce, coping with stress at work
 Today is the first day of your life that you are single again. You glad it was over- the marriage and the divorce. Fortunately, your boss was good enough to give you enough paid vacation during the divorce to gather yourself and focus in your life. You can now finally move on and get on with your life.
After ample time of reflecting and healing yourself, now is the time to practice it and apply it in the real world. As you lazily sat beside your bed, you looked outside the window and your heart raced with anxiousness, you almost feel nauseous. Looking outside the window made you realize that world is so vast, so wide, so full of things that can hurt you and can aggravate your situation- what if you meet you ex, your in laws, your common friends.
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Just the thought of it makes you feel exhausted. As you drive yourself to the office, you try to concentrate on the road and try not to think about your fears. Finally, you are in your office and as you approach your desk, somehow you feel safe, relieved even because your mind will be preoccupied with stuff to do.
But as the day escalates, your fears and issues interfere with your concentration. Whether you like it or not, no matter how long you have been psyching yourself up, you have to go through the transition of moving on. In order not to aggravate things, you have to learn coping with work after your divorce.
In coping with work in spite of your uncertainties in life, the first thing that you should do is to change as much as you can your office space. Rearrange your desk or buy something new for your table- a lamp or a laptop or any fancy gadget that helps the efficiency and the organization of your schedule.
This will give you some enthusiasm and new interest for your work and not to mention it will not remind you of your old life. In coping with work after the divorce, have a plan b. Sometimes when you want to forget something or you want to divert your mind from your fears, you drown yourself in your tasks.
Before you know it you are done with your all your tasks and you have nothing else to do. The least you want is to be idle. So have a plan, a schedule- ask a friend for a coffee during your break, or ask a friend to go out with for a night out after work or better yet sign up for a gym class or dance class, anything that interests you, as long as you have something to do after your job, you’ll be fine.
In coping with work after your separation you have to take one day at a time. Enjoy every moment. In coping with stress at work celebrate the little things in your own way. Celebrate getting through the day without breaking down. In coping with stress at work create your own reality.
Whatever you are feeling right now, remember that it’s all in the mind. Think that everything is fine and is okay until you can get through it all. Have a moment with your pain and misery but it’s useless if you dwell in it. In coping with work after a hellish separation- create a pleasant world in your mind and live it- fake it until you can make it.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook Breaking Free From Break Up. Learn how you can get your life back after a break up in 21 days - guaranteed!
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