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Tags: relationships, readiness, before you get married
 It is a fact that you can control your own reactions but sometimes you cannot help to be affected by the people around you, especially, if that person is your mate. Hence the saying “choose your mate carefully, 90% of your happiness or misery depends on it.” That is why before you get married the first thing that you should consider is how well do you know your mate? Yes, you know how she wants her eggs done but what about her beliefs, weaknesses, strengths, her resiliency? Are you aware of her issues and insecurities? Can you think of the worst thing that your partner is capable of? Can you tolerate if ever she does it? I truly believe that these are essential factors that you should consider before getting married.
Even if you are poles apart or you love the sense of mystery your partner exudes but there are things that you should know before you get married. Another thing to consider before getting married is your capacity to compromise. When you are single, you own your time. You can shop and buy for whatever that fancies you.
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Now, that you are officially husband and wife, you have to consider the bills, the mortgage and savings. You should be aware that when you officially becomes husband and wife. You should consider the outcome of your decisions because it can directly affect your partner. In other words, when you are a couple, it’s not about you anymore, it’s about family.
Further thing to consider before getting married is your financial security. Can you afford having a family? Who will handle the cash- you, him or both of you? Can you openly talk about money? Can you agree on a certain budget? What about credit card and debt management? Believe it or not but money matters is one of the sensitive aspects to discuss when you are a couple.
I know a few couples who seriously hold a grunge with each other because of financial matters. So better settle it once and for all before getting married. Importantly, before getting married you should consider how well you can communicate with each other. If you can talk about everything under the sun, what about sensitive things- can you talk about your fears and issues? you plans and ambitions? Can you talk about the degree of trust for each other? Before you get married you should be able to talk about reality, not just talk but listen.
Nobody is going to admit that they may cheat someday but can you openly talk about cheating? Having good and open communication can protect your relationship from unnecessary issues. This is also a very effective preventive measure against infidelity and can keep you intimacy afloat. Just a reminder about communication- you don’t need to nag, shout or curse to get your message across.
Talk the way a person should talk to each other. So, there you have it, lovely lovers. If you think you and you loved one got what it takes then go ahead and say your “I do’s”. Best wishes!
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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