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Tags: relationships, readiness, being ready for a relationship
 Have ever wondered why your love relationships don’t lasts? Why it’s so complicated and so frustrating to work on? Yes, it has its good days but after a while the same pattern exists- it’s getting harder to compromise. It’s either you feel you’re not being given the attention that you truly deserve or you feel you are not being understood or accepted.
It’s normal to have complications in relationships but when it’s starting to become a habit or a cycle that’s when it becomes a problem. That’s when you need to asses yourself if you are ready for a love relationship or not. A person who is not ready for a love relationship is a person who has so many demands and conditions and those demands and conditions are based on selfish reasons.
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You are being selfish when you let your partner carry your own issues in yourself. For instance, there’s this young woman named Rita, her boyfriend decided to break up with her because she is just so “high maintenance”. On Rita’s part she believes that it her boyfriend’s duty to make her feel better.
Every time John, Rita’s boyfriend missed to check in on her she would bitch around or throw her tantrums like a toddler. She would say bad things to John or make him feel guilty. What’s worst Rita wants John to predict what’s on her mind. “If he loves me, I don’t need to tell him what he needs to do! He will just do it” was Rita’s mantra.
This drives John’s crazy and I believe not just John but this drives almost all men crazy. Having silent expectations in a relationship is totally unfair for your partner and this is one sign that you are definitely not ready for a love relationship, for two main reasons- hesitation to communicate and incapacity to care unconditionally.
Being ready for a relationship means you are willing to care unconditionally and being open about your expectations and ideals and then you compromise. Being ready for a relationship means you are willing to resolve your own insecurities or humbly and vocally ask for your partner’s support and understanding. The wrong thing is to put the burden of all your weaknesses on your partner’s shoulders.
You know you are ready for a love relationship when you have the maturity to trust yourself and your partner. Trust in yourself is all about the confidence to love and to be loved, while trust in your partner means having the peace of mind that your partner will be with you all the way.
Having trust in your partner means growth for both you, having trust with each other means a more productive relationship. You are ready to be in a love relationship when you are willing to do things for your partner without expecting anything in return. You do things to make your partner feel good and happy and that’s it, you don’t expect him to return the effort.
Being ready to be for a love relationship means that you are willing to let go of all expectations, you love because of love, nothing more.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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