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Tags: relationships, readiness, how to move on
 Getting over a break up is never easy even if it was your idea to break up with your man. It hurts to see your ex dating another women or much worse, is involved with one. We then start to ponder if their something wrong with us that makes our man loose interest which is quiet a natural defense mechanism that help us overcome from being too upset by negative emotions.
Some women would react on getting their man back; others would find ways on how to move on. So, how do we recover after our man moves on before we do? Let’s look at some of the habits we do after a break up and on ways to soften the blow.
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When you discover that your ex is back on the dating game, your first instinct is to wonder if she’s attractive, fun and a more skilled lover then you had ever been. This however, will only decrease your confidence with yourself and cause you to loose your perspective as to why you broke up with him in the first place.
Even if you haven’t realized it yet, having a new interest that is fashionable or has a great body, it doesn’t change the very fact that you both don’t make a good match. Bear it in mind that the break up was the result of an incompatibility between you and your guy that couldn’t be controlled.
Just a sight of him with another woman can make you reconsider as to reason why you let him go. Change your routine so that you’re unlike to cross path. If you accidentally bump into him, utter a polite hello and walk away with confidence. This will give him the impression that you’re doing fine.
Ask your friend not to inform you if they’ve seen him. Another way on how to move on is by spoiling your self. The post break up period is your time to experience things you enjoy. Be selfish, buy yourself a fabulous meal, spend time with your girlfriends, and get a haircut for a fresh new start.
By aiming to focus on your priorities and interests you won’t be too wrapped up with his new life. When rumor start spreading that your ex had been lip locking with some girl while you just recently had a break up, it’s normal to feel humiliated. You’d probably assume that gossip start spreading of how deplorable you feel and knowing that he was moving on out of your life while you’re still in recovery phase.
Well, this is not the case. For people who truly care about you intend to try and find out on what you’re up to and not what your ex is doing. Rather then grieve a break up, seek to realize that for a man to become your model boyfriend, he should want very similar things that you do in a relationship.
Remember, there are many ---fishes in the sea, it just a matter of hooking the right man that has similar perception as you do.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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