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Tags: relationships, readiness, ready for a baby
 Women used to think that pregnancy is cumbersome—you lose 9 months of your gorgeous life spending your time eating and sleeping and well, eating. Aside from looking like a fat cow, expect the most painful kind of pain ever when junior or princess suddenly decides to pop out. BUT, having a baby 10 years ago is way different to having a baby nowadays.
Pregnancy is fast becoming a trend, as we often see on the red carpet. Somebody is always wearing “a bump” while sporting a glamorous red gown, high heels, make up and all. Gone are the days when pregnant clothes were hideous—these days, being pregnant is simply HOT. More twins or triplets (just as long as it’s more than one) are being conceived every day, with a lot of women who establish their careers first and finally deciding to have children later in life.
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Labour pains are also becoming a thing of the past: these days there are alternative therapies and epidurals that make the birthing process as easy as sneezing. But, when is the best time to have a child, really? How can you tell if a couple is ready for a baby? From a biological standpoint, the ideal age to get pregnant is in the 20’s if the woman is healthy.
The reproductive system is neither too young nor too old—fertility is at its optimum and the chance of having a miscarriage is low. Chromosomal abnormalities are likewise few, and the mother is as fit as a fiddle, as the old folks say. This is also ideal if a couple is planning on several kids, as it allows a year or two between pregnancies.
When a woman is older, say, in her 40’s—it becomes increasingly difficult to conceive. Aging means lesser fertility and increasing miscarriages as well as chromosomal accidents. The ovaries stop producing healthy eggs, and although there is always in-vitro fertilization or artificial insemination, it’s still ideal for women in their 30’s to think about their “biological clock”.
However, age is not the end-all of a healthy pregnancy. The mental and emotional stability of both parents are also very important factors that should be taken seriously. A lot of girls (and guys) at the age of 20 are still in college or building a career. Some are still flitting from one relationship to another, and having a baby does not even cross their minds at the moment.
A stable career means financial stability, which is a must-have even before a couple thinks of conceiving a child. The cost of getting ready for and of raising a baby is no joke—and it will keep on adding up every year as the child gets older. Having a child means you have to change your middle name to sacrifice.
It requires a great deal of time, energy, money and love. There is no “best time” to have a child, actually. The strongest indication that it is time to start a family is when both the husband and wife have talked about it, and are very sure that it’s what they both want.
They know and feel in their hearts that it’s the right time. Some aspects of their married life (such as finances) may not be that perfect, but they would still feel secure in their desire and purpose of creating their family.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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